I cheated while drunk :(

[Iris11]

I cheated while drunk

How are you going Renee? I'm in a similar situation right now and would be interested to hear how you're going with it.

[Moonchild67]

I cheated while drunk

Hi Iris, I read you post today and could totally relate as I did the same thing last nite, cheated on my husband of 20 years, I also posted about how the guilt was eating me up inside, I hope that we can find a way to be kinder on ourselves and stop beating ourselves up, yes it was a huge mistake but also a wake up call, I've poured all al in the house down the sink.... Where it belongs, I hope you are doing ok. X

[Iris11]

I cheated while drunk

Thanks Moonchild. Hope you're feeling ok. Well done on getting rid of all the AL. What do you plan to do now? x

[Moonchild67]

I cheated while drunk

We'll first I have to breathe. There's been periods today when I seriously haven't taken a breath, I am overcome by guilt and shame, tomm I'll have a healthy day and just keep putting one foot in front of the other, will also speak my to gp. I can't tell my hubbie it would kill him(.

[Iris11]

I cheated while drunk

Well done - keep going. Feel free to PM me if you like. I got some sleeping tablets from my GP and was able to get a little rest so far tonight which is making a good difference, as I haven't slept much in the last few days. Thinking of you x

[MartyCarter]

I cheated while drunk

I think it's the alcohol's fault and the situation itself, you see alcohol makes your brain think differently in different kinds of situation and in your situation things like that might happen with or without control. Base on my own experience I've seen a lot of these things happen and you don't have to feel bad as long as you still love your husband and just consider that night as an accident.

[Renee25]

I cheated while drunk

Hi Iris! Sorry for replying so late.. Well, I'm better. I started a therapy with a psychotherapy, and I had to stop it after 3 weeks cause I couldn't afford it any more (?50 per session). But time heals everything, and I started to forget the "incident". I decided to don't tell my boyfriend about it and just to keep it for me as a life lesson. Life is not always pink, we all have our secrets. Life doesn't come with instructions.. After that night I thought that was the worst scenario. It wasn't. Simply for the fact that I now realise that ANYONE could take advantage of me when I'm drunk, and God knows what could happen (raped, beaten, killed?). I now started to see the things from a different perspective.. I love my boyfriend, and I would never ever cheated him, even if I was really mad on him. That wasn't me that night! And I realised that a person that drink normal will never do something like this.. I asked my gp for support and he advise me to contact a community (something different than AA). I'll pay them a visit next week. I do like to see this as a lesson and I think we need to see it this way. Think how many horrible things could happen... How about you? Are you ok?

[Renee25]

I cheated while drunk

Hi Iris1

Hi Iris! Sorry for replying so late.. Well, I'm better. I started a psychotherapy, and I had to stop it after 3 weeks cause I couldn't afford it any more (?50 per session). But time heals everything, and I started to forget the "incident". I decided to don't tell my boyfriend about it and just to keep it for me as a life lesson. Life is not always pink, we all have our secrets. Life doesn't come with instructions.. After that night I thought that was the worst scenario. It wasn't. Simply for the fact that I now realise that ANYONE could take advantage of me when I'm drunk, and God knows what could happen (raped, beaten, killed?). I now started to see the things from a different perspective.. I love my boyfriend, and I would never ever cheated him, even if I was really mad on him. That wasn't me that night! And I realised that a person that drink normal will never do something like this.. I asked my gp for support and he advise me to contact a community (something different than AA). I'll pay them a visit next week. I do like to see this as a lesson and I think we need to see it this way. Think how many horrible things could happen... How about you? Are you ok?

[paulywogg]

I cheated while drunk

Who didn't?

[ace1515]

I cheated while drunk

Just last night out of stress I drank. I hardly ate anything that day and had way to much to drink. My relationship is a few months in and its been rocky but this past month everything is wonderful but I was with a coworker. We both kept drinking and I hardly remember the night. I do know we kissed a few times nothing more. I cant believe I did that. I am so in love with my gf and yet I screwed up. Idk how or why I did but I did and its eating up at me. I know if I tell her I lose her. Apparently I called her last night and just told her how scared I was to turn into my father (horrible drunk) and because of what I do I feel just like him... I want to tell her but then I dont... I never drink I try not to but i needed something to take away from my bad medical news amongst other things and drinking was my solution which clearly it is never a solution...:new:

[Booze Blues]

I cheated while drunk

I like most of you, are here because of an infidelity. I don?t remember what was done or not done but the horror of what might have possibly occurred, has led me here. I am a very heavy drinker and while out with friends got very drunk to the point where I don?t remember anything. My friends and I were angry with our spouses but I love my husband. I don?t know how I could jeopordize my only piece of heaven on this earth by doing something so dumb! I left the bar with a man that I just met even though I didn?t want to. I feel down on the way home. The man gave me his number and that?s how I know because I called to ask what happened. I didn?t get a straight answer, he barely spoke english. I can?t remember what he looked like. I don?t think we had sex but he said we kissed and there was some fondling. I have been married for almost 13 years. I am in love with my husband. I have never cheated in my life and was actually afraid of this man. My friend encouraged me to go with him because he lived near me and I needed help walking. Everyone said I didn?t do anything when I was with the others and i gather there wasn?t much time between when I left my friend and when my husband said I came home but i am devestated even if it were only a kiss but touching too! How can I live with this guilt? How can I bring him into this and hurt him so, it would be so selfish. I am wracked with guilt. I hate myself and can?t find a way to stop thinking about it. I love my family and can not imagine drinking like this again. Full of self loathing! Please help! Thank you all for sharing.

[Iris11]

I cheated while drunk

Hi Renee, glad you're doing better! To ace and booze blues, it will get better. I didn't know how I would live with myself, but it really gets better each day. I forgive myself for what happened because I didn't have control of myself. I'm not a bad person, I'm just a person who has a problem with drinking too much and I got in a bad situation. Please put it in the past And move on with your life. No-one has to know. You made a mistake but it doesn't have to wreck your life. Good luck! This board helped me so much.

[Booze Blues]

I cheated while drunk

Thank you Iris! I think I just need someone to tell me that over and over! I appreciate you taking the time to answer! Hope your feeling better! Any tips?

[Iris11]

I cheated while drunk

Booze Blues, you didn't do anything. Someone took advantage of you when you couldn't even walk! I would put it out of your mind and move on. Just look to the future and put it out of your mind. Tell yourself that nothing happened, it was just a wake-up call and use it as a lesson not to put yourself in that kind of situation again. I wouldn't speak about it with anyone as that only brings it to the present moment. It's in the past and not part of your life now!

[Booze Blues]

I cheated while drunk

Thank you so much! I think I just needed to hear it from so.eone else. I really appreciate you taking the time to listen to me. I'm so glad things are going better for you and hope that they conti nue to. Have a great weekend.