i am in a terrible place

[Bella]

i am in a terrible place

i drank a bit with my second child. please stop beating you...yes you up. u sound responsible...enjoy your pregnancy and if u can.......focus on good living. xxx

[Jewels83]

i am in a terrible place

I'm sorry but try birth control next time. If it doesn't work, you aren't being a responsible female. Sorry, I don't feel sorry for you. But thank god you didn't bring an alcoholic child into this world.

[sugarbeat]

i am in a terrible place

Jewels83, I don't really get involved in these things but that was a bit harsh, I think she's going through enough already without you being so cruel

[patrice]

i am in a terrible place

Jewel83....What a nasty judgemental and hideous comment you made, so unnecessary to someone who must already be devastated and riddled with guilt...
Luckily you are the exception rather than the rule in this forum which is full of non judgement, support and empathy

Take care Sweetgum, give yourself time to recover and then re evaluate your life

Patrice

[resrchqueen]

i am in a terrible place

Sweetgum..I have been thinking about your story the past couple days and I just wanted you to know that I think you should think about getting some counseling to deal with any issues of guilt and shame that you feel from your abortion. It's likely to eat you up from the inside out if you don't so...just saying I think you would benefit from that. I hope you can do this. I am not going to comment on any of the other comments here..everyone has their own opinion and are entitled to it...but you do probably need to talk to someone other than the people on this forum K?

[evie]

i am in a terrible place

I can only just imagine the torment that you are going through.
Have you someone you can talk this through with? I'm in the UK and there are some really helpful 'crisis pregnancy and post pregnancy helplines that you can call- not sure where you live?
Don't give up hope - there is plenty of help around, and just disgard any judgement- nobody really understands how much you have been through
Sending lots of hugs over cyberspace - hope it helpsxx

[K9Lover]

i am in a terrible place

Please disregard Jewels rude and ignorant comment. Apparently she is perfect. As for the rest of us, we have compassion for you and your situation. Please stay strong and let us know if we can be of any support.
K9

[SKendall]

i am in a terrible place

Jewell, yes you are the minority in this forum, thankfully. Anyone should have compassion.

Sweetgum, take care sweetie and I really think some counselling will help you with ths. We all know what bottling up can lead to. Talk to a friend and watch a movie.

[mama bear]

i am in a terrible place

Sweetgum...I am so sorry for your loss and I hope you find help. There are some nasty people here but most of us sympathize

[Dave_]

i am in a terrible place

Don't hang Jewel, We all strike out sometimes.
Sweetgum, you will be ok if you keep your mind right. All the best for the next few weeks, we are all cheering for you to make it through.

Jewel.
Your words are a lash out. You know this as do I. The other posters have pegged you for cruel and savage. I know that the pain you are feeling has just manifested into a shot at some one else. Do you need to say something? Don't lash out at others who are already low, these are the people that need to be picked up and helped.

Lash out at the problems you face and come up with a constructive solution. I am here for you if you want to share.

[RingingCedars]

i am in a terrible place

Just seeing this thread now. Sweetgum I hope you are being kind to yourself at this moment. Giving yourself rest, good nutrition and forgiveness is top priority at the moment. I know if given the choice with outcomes foretold you would not have chosen to be in this position. The hardest to forgive is God and ourselves. It can be done. I speak from experience.:l Have a look at this 30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself - StumbleUpon

Jewels I am a bit perplexed at your response and agree with Dave. I remember offering you support about a year or so ago. How are you doing? To come in and slam someone out of the blue does appear to be a projection of some kind. Would you give us an update on how your doing please? I hope well, but if not, do not be ashamed or too proud to begin again.:l

[brittzak]

i am in a terrible place

I am not gonna tell you to stop drinking because if you could, you would have. You have to have a friend or relative you can trust to take you. At this point whoi cares what they think of your choice. Trust me you have a baby with AL fetal syndrome they won't think highly of you either. I am NOT saying I am for or against abortion, but you have surpassed the first trimester and heading into the second. Time to either enter rehab or go to the doctor. Go in there in a full fledge panic attack. They will give you something. You will not die from a panic attack and no decent doctor will prescribe anti-anxiety drugs while you are pregnant. It is harmful to the fetus. Most anti-depressants are removed during pregnancy. Make a choice and go. I didnt drink back when I had my kids, AL came later in life, so I have NO IDEA your pain. But, I know AL causes a tremendous amount of pain. No one lives your life but you.

[Nursie]

i am in a terrible place

Thinking of you Sweetgum. What you did is between you, your Doctor and God. Nobody has the right to judge you sweetie. Thanks for updating us and take our advice and get some counseling. This I a traumatic experience. Xoxo

[Girl1973]

i am in a terrible place

Yeah Jewels, not the most empathetic post. We are who we are, she did what she had to do - I judge nobody

[Aoterora]

i am in a terrible place

Hi There

I am truly sorry that you are in a bad place. I'm not going to judge you, all I will do is encourage you to please speak to a professional medical person. Try your GP, ring him/her, tell them exactly what you told us here. I'm sure that they will help you, also they should recommend unplanned pregnancy counseling to decide what it is exactly you want to do regarding your pregnancy. I send you love and sincerely hope that you get through this.


Best of luck x