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[Janice]

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A very quick check in from me...busy few days and its catching up with me now so time for bed!!! Will post more tomorrow.

So grateful for my sobriety...day 46 and I'm feeling good!

Happy Father's Day to all the Daddies out there....and extra special thoughts for mine in Heaven. Miss him so much. xx

[planetjanet]

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Hi Everyone : )

Congrats on you AF days!!! Yesterday, I ran 10 miles and took my doggie to a nice dog beach today. Had a great weekend but still feeling this "funk" but again just letting it take it's course and finally it will subside. Wow Janice, didn't realize we were so close in our AF day count...cool..way to go! How's the juicing? Sausage, how are you? How was the event? Topper congrats on AF days, wow you are almost at 30. AmyC, so glad you decided to NOT drink and congrats on staying AF. Just keep posting and trust me it will by quick. Nelz, welcome back and hope you were able to overcome that "moderate" drinking "thinking". How ya doing Loppy & Ishybit?

Question: Do you think it's cheating if you drink a non-alcoholic beer? I know that a few people on this site drink it but it does have that 1% alcohol in it and to some people that might be cheating.

Happy Father's Day to all you papa's!! Have a great Monday!

Hugs,
Janet
AF Day 45

[Kradle123]

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Wow Janice 46 days! That really is so great. You must be so proud.

I am back on day one from 28 l. Long depressing story. Not certain if I want to sit back in the newbie nest. People are busy over there. Felling a bit lost. I like to come to these threads and look at all your stories, old and new. Very comforting.

Janet, ten miles with your puppy- you r my hero. Next un I am giving you my German Shepard. I cheat and take her to the dog park mostly!
I am unmotivated these days despite being motivated to get away from drinking.
Not certain why...probably for the reasons why I succumbed last night...

Hey nice life- I know I can not moderate. Been there. All I can hope for at the moment is slip and get back up. So up I go.
Oh update on my friend Janet. Have not spoken with her in about a week and feel good. I realized how toxic our friendship was becoming. Until things settle down for her I simply can't stay where I was.
Anyway,
Nite one and all. Time for bed!

[Nelz]

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Kradle123;1336574 wrote: Wow Janice 46 days! That really is so great. You must be so proud.

I am back on day one from 28 l. Long depressing story. Not certain if I want to sit back in the newbie nest. People are busy over there. Felling a bit lost. I like to come to these threads and look at all your stories, old and new. Very comforting.

Janet, ten miles with your puppy- you r my hero. Next un I am giving you my German Shepard. I cheat and take her to the dog park mostly!
I am unmotivated these days despite being motivated to get away from drinking.
Not certain why...probably for the reasons why I succumbed last night...

Hey nice life- I know I can not moderate. Been there. All I can hope for at the moment is slip and get back up. So up I go.
Oh update on my friend Janet. Have not spoken with her in about a week and feel good. I realized how toxic our friendship was becoming. Until things settle down for her I simply can't stay where I was.
Anyway,
Nite one and all. Time for bed!

I think its just like everything else in life........a rollercoaster.....up/downs.


I experience the very same thing some days Im Superman....and other times...AL looks and feels like kryptonite. You just have to fight the urge like you are trying to save the planet!

Wishing you strength to put your cape back on, and try again

[Janice]

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Morning everyone!! Grt to 'see' some new faces on here!!!

Nelz, I love your 'Superman' analogy!! Although I've had some 'cranky' days have to say I've not had the same feelings of deprivation this time....and so luckily no urges. The combination of the "Rain in my heart" documentaries on Gen Disc & the Jason Vale book must have done something to my brain & my 'drinking thinking' because this time I really don't feel deprived like I used to & I'm not struggling through each day living 'one day at a time'. Alcohol is no longer at the front of my mind like it used to be & I'm so grateful for that. I feel in control now, not the drink....for the first time in years I really do feel free & happy.

Janet...its up to you re the non-alcoholic beer. I tried it during one of my AF periods a few years back...Beck beer. Trouble was, it was soooo good, my brain was 'thinking' I was drinking...if you know what I mean??? And, it wasnt long before I was thinking I had conquered this problem now, of course I could moderate! This time I'll be in control. Ermmm.....NOT!! I'm staying well clear of it!!

Sausage, looking forward to hearing how your trip went, Kradle stay close to MWO & kick AL's butt this time!! Hello to Ishy, Loppy, Nelz, Topper, Amy, Dixon, Nicelife & anyone else I've missed.

Housework today....house is a mess after a busy family weekend!!!

Will check in later to see how everyone is doing!!

xx

[Cinders]

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Just a quick jump in here.

I was happy to see you are back in the saddle, Kradle. Good on you!!

Without thinking about it, I will be coming up on 30 days AF in a week or so.

May 24th was my last drink.

I seldom do the 30 day threads because when I fail (as I have many, many times) it makes me feel so down on myself.

But, it is fun to see I am going to make one without thinking about it. :-)

Love,
Cindi

[lucky 3.0]

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[Janice]

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Cindi, so good to see your post & hear that you're doing good!! That is one 30 day AF party I want to join in with!!

Lucky...your test was successful, come and say hello, we're a friendly lot!

[SAUSAGE]

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Hi everyone

I'm back from my 4 day trip down south. I didn't drink and so today is day 116!

I didn't have too much trouble whilst I was away.

On the first night I had dinner with 2 former work colleagues who are also friends - we only drank water - one of my friends doesn't drink anyway as she is on a lot of medication, the other does drink but she was driving - so it wasn't difficult. I then returned to some other friends whom I was staying with - they seemed to drink quite a bit each night - I had always thought they were light drinkers.. They asked me what I wanted to drink and I just said, a cup of tea. They didn't push me to drink. On the second night it was the dinner at the conference. I already had promised to drive my friend home - so I wouldn't be tempted to drink and no-one pushed me. When we got back to the house, they offered me alcohol but I just had a cup of tea. The last night was the hardest, I met another friend who did push me to have some champagne to celebrate us meeting up ( hadn't seen her for 3 years). For a brief second I was very tempted but then I remembered how mad id be tomorrow to have thrown it all away, so said very quickly and very definitely. " no thank you I don't drink any more" she seemed a little surprised but didn't ask why or try to pursuade me. I do think if you sound definite with no doubt in your voice, others are less likely to try and pressurise you to drink.

When i got to the airport coming home I bought myself an Eco watch ( solar driven) as a present to myself to mark passing 100 days. It cost approximately the price of 2 weeks alcohol when I was drinking! I thought this was a good present as it would remind me of what I've achieved every time I check the time.

[Janice]

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Great to hear Sausage...well done you!! And good for you, treating yourself!! xx

[Ishybit]

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Yay sausage! Welcome back and well done.
I personally think the more intimate gatherings with old friends or family can be the most dangerous situations. I feel conspicuous in a small setting but I will take your tip and just be definitive....No means no. I'm going to practice on my sister when we have dinner together. She doesn't have a problem with al so it may be hard for her to understand.
Hi everyone, I might make myself a bag of popcorn and read the crazy thread going on....which of course I don't remember the title. Duh anyway,it's heated isn't it? I think I've seen some of you over there.
Anyway, I've been doing pretty well, I had a couple of "romantic" al thoughts over the weekend but I was able to put the kabash on it.
I have friend coming into town next week. She has the same affliction we do, she's the only person I have been completely honest with about drinking. I think I will text her ahead of time to let her know I haven't been drinking so it won't be awkward. We've both done stretches of AF time together but we are also very good at chugging together. I CAN do this!
Hugs to u all and thanks for all your posts, I always find at least one helpful nugget!
Ishy

[Loppy lugs]

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Evening folks.

Sorry I haven't been posting but things have been a bit manic here..... But I am still AF!!!!!

Had a strange day yesterday. Had been to a black tie ball on Saturday night and found it very easy not to drink. Was great fun and I enjoyed the dancing. Was a bit disappointed in that although I have loads of dresses I was very restricted on what I could wear because most of them don't zip up at the moment. Dieting is on my list for a bit later on this journey.

Sunday was very odd because I had a friend coming over to celebrate fathers day. My Dad is dead and his sons seem to have forgotten about it. Anyway shortly before he arrived I put my back out cleaning the oven. So it is now official housework is bad for you. Anyway since I couldn't cook we went to the local Wetherspoon for a roast lunch. Not sure how to describe Wetherspoons to the non Brits but they are a chain of pubs that do food cheaply. They are not brilliant but they are fine for something like a roast. So after one round of drinks we decided to order food. Anyway for ?6.75 each we got a roast lunch and a free drink. When my friend came back from the bar, he had a beer for him, a lime and soda for me and a glass of red wine because they wouldn't let him have the lime and soda as a free drink! So he got what I wanted and also my old alcoholic drink because we were entitled to it. When I asked why he didn't just get another beer for himself he didn't really have an answer. Needless to say I wasn't going to drink it so he did but at a weaker time I might have done.

Sorry this is such a ramble but it just shows how vigilant we need to be.

Take care all and congratulation in doing so well even if you are dusting yourself off and starting again, you need to start somewhere.

[Ishybit]

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Cross post loppy! Yes, that's the situation that can totally derail me. Good job to you!
Ishy

[Ishybit]

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Oh and sorry about the back.

[SAUSAGE]

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Just read your post Loppy about not being allowed the lime and soda as a free drink ! Interesting - did you ask why ? It would be cheaper for them ?

I had a similar experience meeting a friend in central Lomdon for a meal on Sat night. The menu said you were entitled to a free glass of Kir Royal champagne with the meal. I was going to just accept it and then pass it over to my friend so she could drink two ( had already told her I no longer drink) but then I got scared and wondered if at the last minute I'd try and drink it, so to make sure I didn't, I confessed to our server " actually I don't drink alcohol, is it possible to have a soft drink with my meal instead?? She said " of course, what would you like?" so I chose an elderflower cordial.

When we came to pay I saw I had been charged ?8.95 for this, which I thought was terrible when my friend got a free alcoholic drink, and I thought was very very expensive for a soft drink, even though it was central London, so I complained and in the end they agreesd to give it me free. As I say, I don't know why they do this as it was only ice and water and a bit of cordial, and would have been so much cheaper to them than giving away champagne!?!?