Anyone Up For 30 Day AF

[planetjanet]

Anyone Up For 30 Day AF

Hello Everyone,

Hope you all are doing well(of course you are). WELCOME Kdog, so glad that you joined our thread and CONGRATS on Day 4.

Sorry for writing another short post, got a bit of a headache and so I will check back in tomorrow.

Hugs,
Janet
AF Day 127

[kdog]

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Hello all! Just wanted to say hope all are having a wonderful AF day, I made it to day 5
Had a major craving last night, but it only lasted 20 mins or so, so I got by it! Hope all are doing well, and thanks for the welcome!:thanks:
Kdog

[planetjanet]

Anyone Up For 30 Day AF

Hello Everyone,

Way to go on not giving in and posting : ) Hi Sausuage, Janice, SL & Stumpy, congrats on your AF days : ) Once again, I have run out of time to write more, had a busy day and now it's time for bed, wow the time went by so fast.

So, tomorrow I will start my new job and I am SO NERVOUS but I am keeping positive thoughts and know that it will all be fine.

I will check back in tomorrow.

Hugs,
Janet
AF Day 128

[SAUSAGE]

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Quick post just wanted to say hope your first day went well Janet.

Today is day 200 for me! We had friends staying this weekend, everyone was drinking except me but it didn't bother me and I had a great time. Mr Sausage even bought me a bottle of AF sparkling grape juice to have with the meal on Sat night. It was great to catch up with our friends whom we hadn't seen for a year - I don't think I would have enjoyed things any more if I'd been drinking.

Hope everyone is OK, well done on day 5 kdog - I promise it gets better/ easier after a week.

I am feeling very sad that the Olympics and Paralympocs are now over. It's been a great summer of sport.

Hi to Stumpy, Janice, Ishy and everyone else out there. Will check back tomorrow xx

[scottish lass]

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Quick note to say that I hope today went well Janet! I am sure it was stressful, but I hope it was all it needed to be for you.
I am having some big struggles and lots of personal stuff, whcih is really hard to handle, and I am slipping and falling everywhere, but I intend to keep on struggling a long and will chalk each slide as a learning experience and come out stronger on the other side.
I did think 2012 was going to be my year, but that is obviously not happening, so getting ready for 2013 to be my year - it will come one day, it has to!!
Well done Sausage - and I am gald your husband supported you - I recall he hasn't always been quite so supportive, maybe he understands just what you have achieved now?
Day one yet again, so look forward to never posting that again!!!

[kdog]

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Scottish, so sorry your having a rough year, every year I used to say, 2009 its going to be fine, 2008, going to be great, 2010, starting again, etc etc. I finally gave up reasons for drinking cause I could find one everyday! I am sorry for butting in, but I to have had a rough year or actually 3 lost some family members in a row, and my best friend while getting my hair done for my SIL's funeral. But I have finally given up on looking at the negative, and started finding some positive things to look for. I am only on day 7, but thats a milestone for me. I hope you can do your best too. again sorry for butting in, I don't know your history. Hope you find your way and I'll see if I can make a up something positive for 2013! Maybe, 2013 I'm going to get mean! (against AL that is!)
Good Luck on your journey and hope all works in your favor!
Kdog:l
Janet hope all went well with your new job, everyone else congrats on your Af days, and anyone on day 1, even if its for the 20th time, good luck, I know I was there, and so far so good for me.
Kdog

[planetjanet]

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Scottish, a big, big, HUG to you. Please don't beat yourself up and keep posting no matter how many "Day 1", we are here to support you, NOT JUDGE!! Just keep telling yourself that no matter what, it will all work out.

Sausage, I too, missed watching the Olympics and that was very sweet of your husband to be supportive of you being AF. Oh by the way, how are you feeling these days?

Ishybit, Stumpy, Janice, congrats on your AF days : )

The new job is GREAT!!!!! WOW, what a relief, FINALLY a place where I can call my second home and to build my administrative and accounting skills to make a promising career. Phew, thank god, no more "anxiety" attacks of fearing that I will lose my job.

Hello to anybody new to thread....

Anywho, CONGRATS to you all....it's late so I need to get to bed, one of the perks in my new job is that I don't have to start til 10:00, however I still need to get up early before the heat makes it difficult to get ready, it's no fun trying to put on your make up on when it's sauna in your bathroom. Ggggrrrh, I am so done with this HEAT & HUMIDITY, tomorrow it's going to be 100, yikes, that's just crazy.

I will check back in on Friday : )

Hugs,
Janet
AF Day 130

[Ishybit]

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Hello everyone,
PJ, it sounds like you found a new home with your new job. That's wonderful and so good for the self esteem not to mention bank account.
Hi sausage, Janice, it's always good to see you two living life. I was away from this site for a few days and that's not good. It can be easy to forget or lose perspective. I'm still doing great but I can get a little lost sometimes. I was invited to go to the DMB concert on a whim. We were able to go back stage, tour the employee area, access to the lounge with an open bar! I had a great time sober. I remember everything and was able to really live it. I must say, I still have moments and I have to strategize what I will say to people why I'm not drinking. I sometimes feel I'm not being totally honest with myself or I fear I may set myself up to fail if I tell people, "I quit drinking." I just haven't been able to verbalize it even writing it feels scary. On one hand, it gets easier and i am more confident, on the other hand, i still have fleeting moments and insecurities. Does that make sense?
Scottish lass and kdog, don't worry about 2013, just get through the next hour, the next meal, just get through today. I finally found that that worked for me. If I think too far ahead, it really can feel insurmountable and daunting and the "f-it" thoughts kick in but chunks of time are so much more manageable. Just get through today.
Have a great day everyone.
Ishy

[kdog]

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Great job Janet on job! Thank you ishy for those words, you are so right! I have been planning a 50th birthday party for my HB in Oct. I keep thinking do I need a designated driver or do I want to be that person, I want to be that person! Day 8 here for me and I know I have a long road ahead, but am determined to make it......Thank you all for your support and kind words, hope you are doing well today scotish:l hugs to all!
Kdog

[Janice]

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Hi everyone!! Its been a few days since I checked in..had a busy time catching up in the garden and to be honest drinking is not in my thinking and so I forgot to check in! Never thought I'd see myself type that! Off to Portugal on Sunday for a few days...one of my 50th birthday treats from hubby (who is coming with me) so looking forward to hopefully getting some sun!!

Sausage, I missed your 200 party!! Well done, you sound great! You too Kdog - you are starting to see the benefits of being AF and that will only spur you on to want more!! Janet, so pleased that the job is going well...you deserve it!

Ishy, so understand what you mean about those moments of insecurity....I used to be "frightened" of not having alcohol in my life again. In the past when I've tried to go AF it was like a bereavement, I'd lost a good friend and I was so scared of the future without him. Now I see that friend for what he really was and I'm happy to face the future without him.

Scottish, it is hard...there's no doubt about it otherwise none of us would be here. Like Kdog said, we can all find a reason to drink and keep coming back with a Day 1 but there comes a time when we have to be really honest with ourselves and realise that what we need to do is just stop. We think we need it...we dont. You need to change your thinking because otherwise in 2013 you will be waiting for 2014 and so on and so on... Why wait when you can make it happen today!! Sorry to be harsh but I've been there, done that & I could kick myself for not realising sooner.

Looks like another nice day here in Kent...so a quick whizz round the house with the hoover then out to do some more tidying up in the garden. Will check back later. xx

[kdog]

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Good Day all! not sure of everyones time zones, so I figure that will work! Happy Birthday Janice, I have a birthday coming up but I doubt I get portugal:H I hope you enjoy yourself!
Hope you are all having a wonderful day, its raining here, but thats ok, I think I go make so soup for my son and his family. Scottish I hope you are doing ok:l And everyone else!
Kdog Day nine and feeling fine!

[scottish lass]

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Hi all - hanging in here and gearing up for the weekend!
I had my 50th this year and I think almost everyone forgot - definatley no trip to Portugal!
Janice I love your words about not thinking of drinking - I do long for those days thats for sure!
Still hot here - supposed to be in 90's this weekend, but the nights are drawing in sooner - very strange to be so hot in the day, then needing lights on early in the evening.
Day 9 Kdog - double digits, then two weeks - keep on trucking!

[Janice]

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A quick check in today...hope everyone is doing well and feeling inspired!!! Scottish hope you are feeling more positive...keep posting no matter what! Nights are drawing in early here too...although I must admit I love autumn. Kdog you sound great, you are doing fantastic!!! Off to Portugal tomorrow...will not get chance to check in now until next Sunday, maybe Saturday...but I feel good & I'm really looking forward to getting some sun and just relax. Hope everyone has a good week and I look forward to catching up with you all soon. xx

[kdog]

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Good day all, hope you all are having an amazing day! Thank you Janet, even my hairdresser noticed yesterday. she said " you seem different, not so jittery" I said TY very much! I hope you enjoy your much deserved trip! Relax and take in life as it really is!
Scottish, hope you are doing well. And everyone else on this thread, so sorry I have not caught on to all the names yet!
Hope you all have a wonderful AF weekend!
Enjoy!
Kdog

[planetjanet]

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Hello Everyone,

Janice, have a great time and remember that sun block. Kdog, I am so proud of you for posting and let us know of your progress. Sorry, what day are you at now? Hi Sausage, Ishy, Scottish, hope you are doing well.

Wow, I had a situation that really put me to the test....On Friday, due to a situation that happened in our office building, we were asked to evacuate of the building due to a busted water pipe. So, while we were waiting to get the okay to go back, someone in our group decided that we should go and have a drink at this restaurant up the street...eeeeek I was thinking. So, once we got there everyone order their drink and I held my ground and ordered a diet coke. Then they wanted to do a shot and when I told them "nah, gonna stay dry because I have to run tonight" they were all chanting "come on Janet, come on Janet" but I still stayed strong and said "NO". Even the bartender was trying to make me a drink...but I stayed strong and said "NO".

Wow, I felt so happy because this is the kind of situation that I wanted to experience, the "what if" and I know that there will be other times like this and I am confident in staying strong then, like I was today.

Anywho, congrats to you all on your AF days. Have a great weekend and I will check back in on Monday.

Hugs,
Janet
AF Day 134