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    Drinking thoughts, please sort me out somebody !!

    For those that don't know me, I'm Sausage and I was a daily wine drinker. This is my second serious attempt at going sober and today is day 105 AF.

    I went to give blood today, which I have done off and on throughout my life, when it was appropriate to do so.

    Today my haemoglobin was 12.6, that is only 0.1 over the acceptable female level for donation. Last time ( when I was drinking 4 months ago) it was over 14.5. I have had a hysterectomy so it shouldn't vary very much.

    I'd previously told the nurse today when she was checking my medical history that I no longer drank alcohol. When she saw the Hb level was lower today she said " maybe you should go home and have a couple of glasses of red, its really good for iron levels you know!"

    Needless to say I didn't find this remark overly helpful.
    I know it was only said in jest
    I know those finger prick machines are not very accurate
    I know many health care professionals drink a lot themselves to cope with the stresses of the job ( I should know , I am one!!)
    I wasn't really much of a red wine drinker anyway, mostly white.
    I know there's lots of other ways I get get iron from my diet besides red wine

    But even so, I can't believe I am having moderation thoughts because of this.
    Please sort me out somebody, slap me with a wet fish or something for thinking such terrible things.

    Thanks for listening.
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    Drinking thoughts, please sort me out somebody !!

    Sausage, I knew I was up so dang early for a reason.

    No, no, no ,no no, no, no. You KNOW good and well what one glass of that crap will do!
    Remember the words that your daughter said? Repeat that over and over! I cannot believe the medical professional said that. She probably didn't understand that it was an issue for you. There are better options to get your levels up.Please don't cave. You have come so far. You don't want to have to start OVER again. This time could be worse. Pm me if you need. I'm up!
    :l:l:l:l hugs to you!!!
    AF since 2/22/2012

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      #3
      Drinking thoughts, please sort me out somebody !!

      Sausage I use to have uterine fibroids and my hemoglobin was around 6... 12.5 is not all that low... Eat scrambled eggs with broccoli or oatmeal... You will see a difference! I envy your 105. Guard if well!

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        Drinking thoughts, please sort me out somebody !!

        Just to let you know Sausage that my drink of choice is red wine and my iron levels are so low that my doctor is all over me. I believe alcohol in the red wine prohibits the absorbtion of iron. Don't do it for any reason especially to raise your iron levels. One of the reasons I am trying to quit is to raise my iron levels. She said this lightly as she has no idea of your struggle.

        I was reading my past diary entries with all the unsuccesful attempts to quit and each one was triggered by something as flippant as that...

        Stay strong. Moderation doesn't work or so everyone on here says... sure doesn't work for me for long.

        xoxo
        Tipplerette

        I do this for my children, my grandchildren, my health, my peace of mind, and mostly for the opportunity to learn to live with my true, unfiltered, clear-headed, vulnerable self.

        "If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading."
        ? Lao-Tzu

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          #5
          Drinking thoughts, please sort me out somebody !!

          Hi sausage! You held strong over the holiday, dont give in here. Eat some liver! Reread your old posts. And read your story. Over and over. You can do this. That does seem like a bit of a drop. Are u feeling ok? I know it is still within normal, but still. You might want to get that rechecked. Maybe u were dehyrated last time. Take care of yourself.

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            #6
            Drinking thoughts, please sort me out somebody !!

            I recognise this incident as a danger trigger which is why I have posted for help. With 4 years of experience of trying to quit and repeated relapse I am now aware of main triggers. When I was away on holiday the people at the next pitch on the camp site invited me round for drinks on the last night. They drank bottles of wine and cans of beer every night ( I saw the mum and the 3 yr old carry the empties to the bins/ recycling every morning) I knew if I went round there I may be tempted to drink, so although it seemed antisocial I said I was really tired and needed an early night, which wasn't really true as I'd have liked to have gone round for a chat as they seemed nice enough, but I knew if I did, I would regret it later.

            Am afraid I really hate liver ( and kidneys too for that matter!). I am prepared to eat red grapes, green leafy veg etc

            I actually have been feeling really well lately, physically and mentally, and looking well too, that is the ironic thing, and sleeping much better. Also after today's donation I felt great, sometimes I feel a bit lightheaded or tired but I actually feel brilliant.

            I need to stay close to this site today.

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              Drinking thoughts, please sort me out somebody !!

              That ridiculous woman!!! People just don't think before they talk sometimes. Red wine has become so accepted so "beneficial", no one talks about the fact that they often get rip roaring, falling down drunk on that "healthy" crap.

              Go eat some oysters, have a steak with a spinach salad. There's better, safer ways to get iron in your body.

              LG


              "I like people too much or not at all."               Sylvia Plath

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                Drinking thoughts, please sort me out somebody !!

                Sausage
                I am on liquid iron, b12 and d3 cos of "sick" blood....
                if that helps...
                and good on you for staying sober hon!
                I love my family more than alcohol.:h
                Live in the Solution....not the problem

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                  #9
                  Drinking thoughts, please sort me out somebody !!

                  Sausage,
                  I'm so proud of you for staying strong. Drinking thoughts can come ANY time, days, weeks, months or years into sobriety. But they're only thoughts...and you got through them! YAY
                  Just remember how hard you've worked and how far you've come. And also, it wouldn't be "one glass" like that silly woman suggested...it would be a bottle, or more (?)...I know it would for me!
                  Stay strong...you CAN do this!
                  K9
                  :heart:I love my daughter more than alcohol:heart:

                  Believe in yourself. You are stronger than you think.

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                    #10
                    Drinking thoughts, please sort me out somebody !!

                    Sausage, I have read many scientific studies that dispute the findings that alcohol of any kind in any amount is good for us. Most of the studies that show it to be beneficial have been done by organizations with vested interests, i. e. the alcohol industry. Many university scholars have dispelled the health benefits notion of alcohol.

                    Also, health care professionals are very naiive about alcohol -- even doctors. Unless they're specialists, they can be clueless. So be smarter than that and forget what she said. And good for you for recognizing this as a trigger -- it's a big one and just the kind of stuff that gets us thinking it is ok.

                    Fast forward to the long-term misery and remember how hard it is to stop again (the kindling effect).

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                      Drinking thoughts, please sort me out somebody !!

                      Tonight is tough:alf:

                      I'm also really angry with Mr Sausage ( he's working away tonight, back tomorrow) for something he said last night.

                      Those of you who follow my posts will learn that he is not my greatest supporter in this battle to quit alcohol - he drinks wine in front of me, tells me how good it is, stores 200+ bottles at home, tried to get me to have a drink to celebrate the end of lent etc etc.

                      He is another health care professional ( a medical doctor!) who doesn't have a clue about alcoholism, thinks its silly to quit alcohol atogether, I should just drink at weekends and on special occasions. He says this knowing full well that after 8 months AF last time, when i tried to moderate I drank every day virtually for 3 years

                      I haven't been discussing my not drinking with him lately because it only leads to arguments, however last night I told him I was over 100 days AF and asked him what he thought.

                      He said " whatever"
                      I said " what do you mean , whatever, don't you think that is an achievement"
                      He replied " well it depends what you want in life!?":lordhelpme:

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                        #12
                        Drinking thoughts, please sort me out somebody !!

                        Oh Sausage. Mr. Dr. Sausage probably doesnt want to lose his drinking buddy. I know i used to hate it when DH would say he wasn't going to be drinking. I liked it better when he had a few. Then i was a ok to drink what i wanted. No guilt. I thought at times he was an upright jerk who didnt know how to have a little fun. That is how he came across. Holier than thou. Well, he was probably being responsible. I hope u guys work things out and tonight is better!

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                          #13
                          Drinking thoughts, please sort me out somebody !!

                          Well as to Mr. Sausage's persective...its his but doesn't need to be yours! You are your own individual and what is right for him is not necessarily going to work for you! You know yourself best. All the best to you!

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                            #14
                            Drinking thoughts, please sort me out somebody !!

                            Perspective that is...

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                              #15
                              Drinking thoughts, please sort me out somebody !!

                              Sausage, I used to be the same way -- couldn't imagine what in the hell was wrong with people who didn't drink -- didn't want to be around them.

                              This is different, though, because it's your husband and he's being selfish if he knows you have a problem. Although, if he doesn't have a problem with controlling his drinking, he'll probably never truly understand your issue (or just doesn't want to). For him to say what he's saying to you indicates he thinks you can control it. And that indicates naivete and ignorance about alcohol problems.

                              I'm really sorry that you don't have his support, because it would take away some of your burden. But, as others have already said, you have to save yourself regardless of what he thinks and says.

                              All the more reason to stay close to this site!!

                              Sending you big hugs,
                              xx,
                              UN :lilheart:

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