Arggggggg!!!!

[christyacc]

I just want to drink right now. I can't get anything. I'm fighting with my husband. I have no confidence. I just want to forget everything.

I am so angry.

[K9Lover]

Arggggggg!!!!

Awwww Christy :l

What can I do to help? I'm here if you need me.

Remember, drinking is a temporary solution that causes bigger problems.

[mama bear]

Arggggggg!!!!

come on girl......scream, punch something, take a walk...don't drink
it will lead to a fight, hangover and bad things.......

[christyacc]

Arggggggg!!!!

The problem is, in my dumbass brain I'm not ready to stop. I want to drink. How can that be possible????

[mama bear]

Arggggggg!!!!

you are an alcoholic....pure and simple...and you use booze to numb everything
we have all done that and that's why most of us are here
But....the only way to break the cycle is by not drinking sweetie
do what i do...get lost in a good book
can you talk to your hubs??

[christyacc]

Arggggggg!!!!

He's part of the reason why I drink I think. I am so unhappy in my life. I decides to go with him to the gym just now because I don't want to just sit around. I have fun when I drink but right now I look like an idiot crying on the treadmill.

I just really don't know what to do. I shouldn't drink but I LIKE it. How can I be ready to stop?

[Aoife]

Arggggggg!!!!

The easy part is giving up, the hard part is maintaining it. Keep Going you will feel brilliant later that you achieved. Very proud of you for yelling out. Wish I had done that last week. !

[mama bear]

Arggggggg!!!!

when you are tired of the misery it causes, you will be ready
it took me two years, but now I have a good life
and a happy marriage

[Sober Visitor]

Arggggggg!!!!

Hi Christyacc,

Can you maybe challenge your thinking about drinking more than you do? Why do you like drinking so much? What is it about drinking that makes you want to continue to destroy your mind, body, spirit, relationships, life? Is it the taste? Is it the wonderful way it makes you feel in the morning? Is it the lonliness that it relieves or does it actually keep you stuck feeling lonely? Perhaps making a list of pros and cons with what you really like about drinking verus what you really dislike about drinking would be a helpful exercise for you, and be as honest with yourself as possible. Perhaps when all is said and done and you review what you've written you will realize that you really don't like drinking that much after all, but that it's just something you keep telling yourself because quitting seems too difficult or you're afraid or whatever. You may even come to the conclusion that it's really the alcohol that's making and keeping you so unhappy.

The thing is, and I can't emphasize this enough, if you keep telling yourself "but I like drinking" you are making it much more difficult on yourself than it has to be because you're reinforcing and sending the the wrong message to your brain. If you REALLY want to quit (even if you like drinking), it would be better for you to choose different phrases to repeat to yourself such as "I hate drinking" or "I don't drink" or "drinking sucks" or "alcohol is poison" so that you can send the right message to your brain that will help you to succeed. Believe it or not, nothing that any of us say to you will be as important to your recovery than the words and thoughts that take place between your own ears. They are the ones that you will hear the loudest and listen to the most. They are also the ones that you can choose so be sure to choose them wisely. My phrases of choice were "alcohol is poison" and "I don't drink." I kept it simple for myself, and repeated those two phrases over and over to myself every day as much as possible. Eventually my brain got the message and so did my inner junkie and the obsession to drink lifted. Our words and thoughts are so much more powerful that we even know.

SV

[christyacc]

Arggggggg!!!!

Sober Visitor;1364143 wrote: Hi Christyacc,

Can you maybe challenge your thinking about drinking more than you do? Why do you like drinking so much? What is it about drinking that makes you want to continue to destroy your mind, body, spirit, relationships, life? Is it the taste? Is it the wonderful way it makes you feel in the morning? Is it the lonliness that it relieves or does it actually keep you stuck feeling lonely? Perhaps making a list of pros and cons with what you really like about drinking verus what you really dislike about drinking would be a helpful exercise for you, and be as honest with yourself as possible. Perhaps when all is said and done and you review what you've written you will realize that you really don't like drinking that much after all, but that it's just something you keep telling yourself because quitting seems too difficult or you're afraid or whatever. You may even come to the conclusion that it's really the alcohol that's making and keeping you so unhappy.

The thing is, and I can't emphasize this enough, if you keep telling yourself "but I like drinking" you are making it much more difficult on yourself than it has to be because you're reinforcing and sending the the wrong message to your brain. If you REALLY want to quit (even if you like drinking), it would be better for you to choose different phrases to repeat to yourself such as "I hate drinking" or "I don't drink" or "drinking sucks" or "alcohol is poison" so that you can send the right message to your brain that will help you to succeed. Believe it or not, nothing that any of us say to you will be as important to your recovery than the words and thoughts that take place between your own ears. They are the ones that you will hear the loudest and listen to the most. They are also the ones that you can choose so be sure to choose them wisely. My phrases of choice were "alcohol is poison" and "I don't drink." I kept it simple for myself, and repeated those two phrases over and over to myself every day as much as possible. Eventually my brain got the message and so did my inner junkie and the obsession to drink lifted. Our words and thoughts are so much more powerful that we even know.

SV

:l
Thank you. This is something I am going to copy and paste to my cell where I always have it.

[Kradle123]

Arggggggg!!!!

I think I'll do the same Christy.

I am also having an arrrrg evening and a last couple of days to boot. Will paste this great advice to my forehead !

Thanks Sover V :h

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