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[In a Bad Place]

I have been reading the posts on this site and feel like this might be a place where I can share my fears.
I recently found out that I am six weeks pregnant, and I am not handling it well. When I found out, I was drinking very heavily during the 3-4 weeks (several bottles of wine a week). I am also on 150ml of effexor daily for OCD, which the internet says can cause birth defects.
If the prospect of hurting my baby wasn't terrible enough, I also just started a new job two months ago after completing my graduate degree and FINALLY getting work in my field. I can't stop crying. I can't think straight. I am not sure I want this baby, but what if it's my only chance? What if I hurt her? I am driving my husband crazy. He keeps saying it is my choice, but that is not really helping. I don't know what to do.

[NoraC]

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I'm so very sorry. :l:l It has to be your decision if you want to keep this baby. I know that it's such a hard decision.

If you want to keep the baby, you should make an appointment right away with a doctor. Find out about the Effexor....they will probably want to have you stop taking it. Regarding the alcohol.....stop drinking now. You will see that there are many women here that did drink before they found out they were pregnant.

Thinking of you.:h:h

[almost free]

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Hi In a Bad Place,

So sorry for the situation you find yourself in. I don't know which is worse, to have a husband that is neutral and won't help with the decision, or one who has strong views, which may conflict with what you ultimately decide to do. I would not worry so much about the alcohol. Several bottles a week is not a massive amount, and it's not straight, hard liquor, either.

There is a website, called Ask a Patient. com. There is tons of feedback there, on any med you want to search on. Some people leave an email address so that you can communicate with them. I didn't do much reading there on effexor, but maybe someone there has had experience or done some research on this drug and pregnancy. It is a good resource to check out what patients, who are on a particular drug, have to say about it.

I don't know if this is the kind of drug that needs to be weaned off slowly. Some meds have really difficult withdrawals, unless you do it slowly. I think you should consult your doctor as soon as possible, so that you can get all the facts to help you decide what to do. Check with your doctor about the effexor and try to stop the booze asap.

This is a wonderful site for help and support with that. We are here to help. Come over to the Newbie's Nest, under 'Just Starting Out'. Tons of people over there, just starting or starting over. We have 7 people starting on day 1 today. Others are on day 2, 3, 4.....You don't have to do this alone.

I don't know if you are a praying person, but try to calm your mind and not panic. Just take it one day at a time. Try to see your doctor, so that you can get more info on effexor and how it might affect your baby. And advice on whether to wean off the effexor, or what. Sending my thoughts and prayers your way. Stay close and let us know how things are going. Hugs!

[Kradle123]

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Hi IBP and welcome. :welcome:

Here is a good thread, pretty new Which deals exactly with your situation.

https://www.mywayout.org/community/f7...ncy-73428.html

Just push on the link and you can read the posts I also posted another thread within this thread which also dealt with drinking early in pregnancy.
One person had a supportive partner. The other one didn't.

Lots of good insight and experience.

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[resrchqueen]

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[Hippyman]

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In a Bad Place;1475680 wrote: I have been reading the posts on this site and feel like this might be a place where I can share my fears.
I recently found out that I am six weeks pregnant, and I am not handling it well. When I found out, I was drinking very heavily during the 3-4 weeks (several bottles of wine a week). I am also on 150ml of effexor daily for OCD, which the internet says can cause birth defects.
If the prospect of hurting my baby wasn't terrible enough, I also just started a new job two months ago after completing my graduate degree and FINALLY getting work in my field. I can't stop crying. I can't think straight. I am not sure I want this baby, but what if it's my only chance? What if I hurt her? I am driving my husband crazy. He keeps saying it is my choice, but that is not really helping. I don't know what to do.

Relax and don't forget to breath! Deep breathing rushes more oxygen to the brain so you can think more clearly. Starting on the road to recovery can be very challenging under the best circumstances. IMO it's time to get your priorities in order. First get and stay sober. With out that, alcoholism is a deadly painful down hill slide. Being a parent who is controlled by alcohol sounds like a recipe for disaster. Only you know what you are capable of. I think you wouldn't be here asking for help if you could handle it yourelf. Stay close. Read lots. Post and let us get to know you. You CAN find your way out of this. I KNOW YOU CAN!

[Juja]

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Sweetie,

Drinking won't help your thought processes in the least, so stop drinking, gather your wits, and breathe. Have a clear mind for the things you must attend to. You are adult, you can do this.

First of all, you have to see your doctor re Effexor, AL and your choice, whatever it may be. Call tomorrow, first thing. Please don't delay--take action to find out your options.

You are not alone in your angst. Many here will understand your conundrum.

A heartfelt hug for you.:l Have strength.

J

[Nursie]

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Hi sweetie,
Yes, this is the right place for you but we can't take the place of medical advice. (Even though I am a FABULOUS nurse, lol).
Don't make any rash decisions until you still your mind and speak to a trusted doctor about your options. There ARE medications you can safely take while pregnant. They can help you decide on what is best for you.
I did MANY bad things prior to finding out I was pregnant. 5 weeks straight of diet pills, antidepressants, loads of alcohol, and worse.
I got very healthy for the rest of my pregnancy, my mind was clear and relaxed and I prayed my ass off for 8 months. That's just my story and of course everyone is different, but I hope it can help you to put things into perspective.
Check back in with us, ok?