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[Erik K]

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Chains. Very glad to meet you. Im a yank in Oklahoma. Looks like you have been at this awhile. 3 days is better than zero right. I dont have any advice really. Youve read and tried most things it looks like. I just quit. I drank for 27 years, pretty much everyday heavily...unless i was deployed to the desert chasing taliban. I have been sober 155 days. I just stopped. I went to AA 4 times and didnt go back. No meds either. Just the love of a good woman. In any case im here for you. I dont have much in way of giving good advice because for some strange reason i was able to just stop with little side effects. Blood pressure went a little wacky. And those dreams F%$#ing dreams were bad for awhile but all good now.
In any case I'm here for you. Across the pond and all that but here nun the less.

[InChains]

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thank you everybody for your support.

K9: My fiance is only just becoming aware of exactly how hard this is for me to do alone. I'm trying to get help from a centre near me soon, recommended by a friend on forums.

Snap: I already have the number of a nearby clinic, thank you for your kind offer. I personally don't want to go down the meds route, especially given my existing level of medication.

cleansed: if you need to talk, I'm about til quite late most nights and you're welcome to pm me.

erik: congrats on 155 days, i can quit, I have minimal physical withdrawals but mentally I cannot cope, I figure age is probably the main reason for that, but I could be wrong.

[Erik K]

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Cleansed. Same to you as i posted to Chains. Glad to meet you. I also love to cook. the one thing that really hit me from the start was i LOVED to have a drink while cooking, well 12-15 drinks actually. in any case i substituted sparlking water for the AL beverage. I liked the Ozarka tangarine it burns good going down. I was amazed at how much it helped. Sorry about the doggie. Im a dog person too. Love them very much. It aint easy when you loose one. We did last year, it helps in the knowlege that they are totally spoiled and lived a very happy life. In any case keep all of us updated on the Doc and Topo treatment.ok.

[Erik K]

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Chains. Im 50. Does that help at all. You mentioned your Fianc?. and a very good point. You cannot do this alone. Best to be up front and honest with your fianc?. As i said the love of a good woman has been the edge i needed. My beautiful and very very very patient wife is what has saved my life. We actually went bottle hunting after i sobered up. You would not believe all the places we found my stashed vodka bottles, empty of course. We actually had a few good laughs. It was not all laughs but she has been involved the entire time with every facet of my recovery. That made the difference.

[InChains]

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Erik - I'm 20, I've been drinking heavily 7 years, I haven't been a fully sober functioning adult... ever. My fiance knows I have a problem, we've been together for about 7 years too, share everything with each other. We laugh alot about my problems, to keep us sane, a few jokes about times I've blacked out and 'woah did i say that' kind of thing haha.

[free at last]

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Hi Inchy,
Like Erik, I have a supportive spouse to help me on my path of a sober life (married my best friend and sweetheart at 23 years of age, 31 years ago!) I know my daily drinking has pushed our relationship to the limit. For him, the falling asleep on the couch, the "curtain" I pulled closed when I drank by myself in silence, the not remembering our conversation of the night before or what movie we watched, got old and we were growing apart. I realized not only do I want another 31 years with this man, but I want to be PRESENT to enjoy my life and our relationship. While I doing this for myself, his support has been so valuable.

All of this to say, perhaps this is an opportunity for you and your fiancee to work on this together?

[Mayzay]

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It's getting to grips with oursleves as non-drinkers...we have used drink for years for all sorts of +ve & -ve reasons and it is part of who we are and it is so hard (and depressing) to think of never having that great feeling of drink again...but the issue starts when it's not about fun and confidence and improved self esteem but the opposite...it's having to get to grips with a new self...NOT easy...possible??? YES....but hard....x

[Mayzay]

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ps free at last-that is so beautiful....x

[Erik K]

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Whats up Mayzay good to meet you. Ya Chains. Mine was teasing me the other day and we laughed about the huge hole in the wall i just patched. About a week before day one i was wrecked as usual and i tripped over the bathroom scale flew backwards and hit the bathroom wall with my backside. I had a hole in the wall that looked just like my backside hahaha. I have repaired it but you can still see a slight imprint of my ass under the fresh paint. There forever im afraid.

[InChains]

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so badly need company again, keep trying, keep failing

[kuya]

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What time is it there Inchy ? It is morning here.

[InChains]

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just mornign here kuya, 12.04 am

[kuya]

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I know you are feeling crappy ATM, but try and get some sleep.

[InChains]

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can't sleep atm, soon though

[kuya]

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InChains;1496594 wrote: can't sleep atm, soon though

Drunk or sober I struggled with sleep. It has taken all this time sober to get back to some kind of normal.