I am in a lot of pain today, going on a 2 day headache. The euphoria of the 'good news' is waning because of it. I have found a pain management specialist, but can't get in for at least 2 weeks (really?) and they want my medical records before they'll even make an appointment. So, busy about that today. I'm feeling down and needy, so I'm just gonna share the struggle I'm faced with and hopefully you can all throw your two~cents at me...
My daughter (she's 25) has been bugging me to visit her (she's in California, where 'we' grew up, I was 17 when she was born). I told her I HAD to get a diagnosis first as my pain level is constant and thru the roof. So, yesterday upon calling her with news, she had the ticket information in front of her and we made the reservation. I leave May 1st! It's exciting and at the same time, I'm concerned for a few reasons:
1) Chronic pain is miserable. Nothing much is helping me cope with it. I have a few pain pills that I have to use very sparingly because my doc isn't empathetic to this whole diagnosis (I almost felt I should apologize for not having something much worse!): Degenerative Disc Disease and a Bulging Disc. So I am concerned that I will be miserable much of the time, but I promised her & can't get in to see my specialist for 2 weeks anyway. Being in too much pain ALWAYS puts me at risk of self~medicating with alcohol, but that can happen anywhere, anytime.
2) California, if I'm honest, is a REAL temptation for me. Abstinence is associated with my little cabin on the lake in MI, my projects, reading, long walks, my 'older' family, the 'chill' life here. California is where I had all my fun times, the struggles with alcohol came later in Colorado, so CA is a strange association for me. I can see me by the pool, cocktail in hand, hair blowing in the wind...:H Does this sound like a booze ad yet?!?
I am super close with my daughter, so she knows I'm sober and all the struggles I've gone through and that it's almost 3 months for me ~ SHE IS FULLY SUPPORTIVE. However, if I said I wanted to try and moderate she wouldn't 'scold' me either. I don't know why I'm even entertaining this moderation possibility, but I need to be truthful with myself and you guys about it if want to make solid decisions! Clearly, I have to get my head right BEFORE my plane leaves the ground. Gulp.
ANY/ALL INPUT IS APPRECIATED! Thanks, P.
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