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[little beagle]

My life is out of control. I want to be alcohol free. I hope I have the strength to do it. I stay sober during the work week, but go nuts on the weekend. Here it is Sunday morning and I have nothing but regrets. Any words of encouragement and advice will be appreciated.

[Cinders]

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:welcome: Little Beagle,

It sounds like you are a binge drinker. i.e. Able to go days without but once drinking, all bets are off.

Binge drinking has its own challenges and hopefully those who have learned how to get sober as a binge drinker will jump in with some great advice.

The first bit of advice I can give you is that if you don't drink, you won't have regrets. Sounds trite, I know. It is simple but very difficult.

Read around the site, learn from others and be willing to listen to those who have managed sobriety.

Your life can and will get better without alcohol.

I hope to get to know you better as time goes by.

Cindi

[porqoui]

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:l little beagle...I so know how you feel. My life was out of control till I found MWO.

I was not a binge drinker as Cinders referres too but a daily (somewhat) functioning alcoholic.

You have found a great place to be.

Hop on over to the https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...est-30074.html for a lot of comradery and support.

I found reading https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html helped to keep me sane as I tried to deal with all the regrets that I had brought on myself.

Being Sunday it is a great time to surf around the forum as there's lots of peeps not working today.

Stay safe and remember one day at a time....we didn't get here overnight....PPQP

[little beagle]

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tool box

This is very helpful. There are a lot of things I can use to help the process.

[Doggygirl]

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:welcome: Little Beagle! I hope you find the help and hope you are looking for here at MWO. There are many of us who felt very helpless as it sounds you do, and we are sober today. You can do it too.

DG

[kuya]

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:welcome: to MWO. You can rid yourself of this problem. Accepting it IS a problem is the first crucial step.
Perhaps think about what alcohol gives you will help you decide what alternative ways you can find to get these feelings other ways

[Tipplerette]

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Welcome Little Beagle, I, too, was not a binge drinker; a daily one.. but I, like you, recognized that my drinking was a problem for me and came here. That's the first step and once you've gotten around the boards a bit, you won't want to leave and over time you WILL gain your sobriety. Some seem to get it quicker than knuckleheads like me who have been struggling for years; it's up to you. I hope you stick around and look forward to knowing you more. xx

[porqoui]

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:hallo: Little B...just checking in to see how you're doing. Glad you found the tool box helpful. Did you make your way over to the "newbies nest"? We're here for you....PPQP

[treetops]

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Hi there Little B. I hope you have made it to the Newbies Nest. I don't know your age but the problem with binge drinking is that often as we get older it starts to become less binge and more a daily recurrence. The two get blurred (literally). You are still in a good space where you have days of clarity to think about what Alcohol means and why you go beserk at the weekends. If you decide to stop the booze fuelled weekends - in time - you will find other ways to still let go after the weekdays. It isn't easy to stop the boozing but as lots of us here can show - its doable. We are here to support you.
Meanwhile don't beat yourself up (too much) about what happened last night or yesterday - nuture yourself and think of all the positive alternatives for the future.

[little beagle]

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Thank you. I feel better after sleeping again. Ready for work again this week. Newbies nest very welcoming. Instead of grabbing that beer on Friday I am going to check in here first!. I hope that will help give me strength to Not grab it.

[YouKayBee]

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I just wanted to say I too was a binge drinker but towards the end any day could be the start of a binge, and any day the end because I just didn't care.

If you can stop this now it'd save you a lot of heart ache. Can you change your routine for the weekend?Do something different even if it's just lock yourself up in a duvet with DVD for company?

[K9Lover]

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Welcome Little B!
I started out as a binge drinker on weekends, but that slowly progressed to being a daily binge drinker! As your tolerance for alcohol builds, you can pretty much do it every day in extreme amounts. It's only when you quit that you realize how BAD you were really feeling every day. I can't believe how CRAPPY I felt every single day...how on earth did I manage to drag myself into work every day?
As far as regrets...ah yes, I was the queen of shame and guilt "the morning after". I do NOT miss any of that.
You CAN do this, I know it. Stick close to us. Good plan for Friday night...hang out in the Nest!
Again, welcome!
K9

[mama bear]

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you can do this Little B
Welcome to our crazy family!!

[Wildflowers]

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K9Lover;1498671 wrote: Welcome Little B!
I started out as a binge drinker on weekends, but that slowly progressed to being a daily binge drinker! As your tolerance for alcohol builds, you can pretty much do it every day in extreme amounts. It's only when you quit that you realize how BAD you were really feeling every day. I can't believe how CRAPPY I felt every single day...how on earth did I manage to drag myself into work every day?
As far as regrets...ah yes, I was the queen of shame and guilt "the morning after". I do NOT miss any of that.
You CAN do this, I know it. Stick close to us. Good plan for Friday night...hang out in the Nest!
Again, welcome!
K9

This is a fairly good analogy of what awaits you in time. It's called YET= Your Eligible Too. If K9 would have kept going, it could have gotten even worse. It can get to the point where your brain can become sensitized & it won't take as much alcohol to have the same effects. Sorta like it does when a person first starts drinking, well if their drinking to get drunk.

Learn the medical truths, facts about alcohol ~ ethanol & how it destroys your beautiful brain, all your organs!... There is evidence that binge drinking is just as harmful as heavy drinking! In time alcohol ~ ethanol ( like gasoline ) will rob you of your soul. It promises to leave you empty inside, dark, miserable, confused, depressed, void, hopeless & lonely... Makes you do things, that aren't Really You!....

You are far to beautiful & smart to destroy your life for a bottle of poison! Please don't trade your life for the whispers of lies alcohol tells you!!! Be honest with yourself, really honest. Alcohol is harming you, not helping you be the best you can be. You really do deserve to be the best you can be. We all do! We all are worth it!....

Please Live Your Life To The Fullest!!!.... :l

[Alky]

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K9Lover;1498671 wrote: Welcome Little B!
I started out as a binge drinker on weekends, but that slowly progressed to being a daily binge drinker! As your tolerance for alcohol builds, you can pretty much do it every day in extreme amounts. It's only when you quit that you realize how BAD you were really feeling every day. I can't believe how CRAPPY I felt every single day...how on earth did I manage to drag myself into work every day?
As far as regrets...ah yes, I was the queen of shame and guilt "the morning after". I do NOT miss any of that.
You CAN do this, I know it. Stick close to us. Good plan for Friday night...hang out in the Nest!
Again, welcome!
K9

Well put - this is my story too. I went from the binge drunk, to being a functional daily drunk. I was so good at hiding intoxication (I am really ashamed of this), I was pulled over once for speeding, and once for a seatbelt violation, and neither time was given a field sobriety test. I finally sought medical help when I felt like I was skirting the boundary with non-functional daily drunk. The drunk that is unemployable and is unconscious most of the day and up most of the night. The key is replacing this unhealthy habit with healthy ones. Only you can figure out what the right habits are for you. And in this day and age of modern science, if you need medication to help, there's no shame in asking a doctor for help. I did. There's a whole forum on here dedicated to that.