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[Daily wine]

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Thanks again everyone. Day 3. Lotts of stress with teenage son and at work today. Send me positive thougths!
DW

[Wagoneer]

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Positive thoughts headed your way. Those first few days are hard, I remember them (many times!). You can do this. You reallu can!

[Kradle123]

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Hi DW and good morning,

Checking in :l

My husband is gone this weekend too. That's a hard time for me as well as that when the cats away mindset creeps in...but I have the twins this weekend so.......they will keep me on my toes!!!!!

Stay close, :l:h

[Littlebluebird]

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Oh God! I can so relate to you Daily Wine! I am sitting here feeling like s**t for drinking 5 beers last nite. I can easily say this is a habit more often than not. I want so badly to stop and I just feel like the cravings consume me to the point of giving in ....daily! Lately has been horrible for our family as well. My son who is 19 was arrested the day after my birthday two 1/2 weeks ago. Totalled his (our) car, DUI, drug paraphenalia, intent to sell and possession of marijuana. Oh God! What a list! He claimed the drugs were not his....I said whether they are or not YOU were in possession of all of it! Now all the legal stuff is happening. I am so stressed, depressed and anxious I have been really using alcohol to try to escape. It is definately not working and I know in the long run is not helping whatsoever. I can't believe I wrote this....I have only told one other person besides my husband. I need to stop my rollercoaster ride so I can help my son! The sad part is my husband is doing the same as me, I think sometime we make it OK for one another to keep drinking!:upset:

[NoSugar]

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Hi, LittleBlueBird

:welcome:

You are in the right place to get this done! Most of us could not figure out how to get off AL on our own but have found success with the tremendous support of the people here.

A great place to hang out at the beginning is the Newbies Nest (link below). There is also a link to the toolbox, which is full of good ideas.

I'm glad you are here and hope to see you in the nest!

[Doggygirl]

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Littlebluebird;1513280 wrote: Oh God! I can so relate to you Daily Wine! I am sitting here feeling like s**t for drinking 5 beers last nite. I can easily say this is a habit more often than not. I want so badly to stop and I just feel like the cravings consume me to the point of giving in ....daily! Lately has been horrible for our family as well. My son who is 19 was arrested the day after my birthday two 1/2 weeks ago. Totalled his (our) car, DUI, drug paraphenalia, intent to sell and possession of marijuana. Oh God! What a list! He claimed the drugs were not his....I said whether they are or not YOU were in possession of all of it! Now all the legal stuff is happening. I am so stressed, depressed and anxious I have been really using alcohol to try to escape. It is definately not working and I know in the long run is not helping whatsoever. I can't believe I wrote this....I have only told one other person besides my husband. I need to stop my rollercoaster ride so I can help my son! The sad part is my husband is doing the same as me, I think sometime we make it OK for one another to keep drinking!:upset:

My husband and I enabled each other from the time we met until the time we finally stopped together on 5/22/08. (him pot, me booze) I can totally relate to that dysfunction in a marriage. Are you able to talk to him about it? I hope everything goes OK with your son and this is a wake up call for him.

DW - how are you doing? I hope you're hanging in there one day at a time! NS is right - together we can do what we were unable to do alone.

DG

[Daily wine]

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slipped up bad yesterday large amounts of wine and passed out by 7:00. Not good! Back to day one today. I am so upset I did this and in front of my son. UGH!
DW

[Daily wine]

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Little blue bird and DG...my husband is a huge red wine drinker I am white wine. He was right there with me yesterday and yes I so feel we make it ok for each other. The terrible thing is he had to drive 4 hours to take his son back to his mother and his son had a friend with him as well. He never should have been driving. I seem to get to day 3 then Iforget how bad I felt and have that first glass. I know that I can't moderate at all because once I start Ill keep going until I pass out. I just need to know that it can't be a part of my life. My hubby and I seem to focus all our activities around the wine.
DW

[Miley]

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DW-
I just wanted to say hi. I have a similar story. I am only on Day 4 myself, after multiple attempts to at least do 30 days. I always gave in on the second or third day after I started feeling better. My husband and I are both big wine drinkers....white for me, red for him.

I think this time might be different for me because I am so damn sick and tired of starting over again. The other big difference for me is that I am seeing a counselor and I started reading and posting more on MWO. Today, I feel excited to get to day 5 tomorrow and I thought like hell if I am going to let anything or anyone get in the way of me getting to day 5. I am hoping as time goes on, it will get easier. As I type this, my husband is sitting in the living room drinking a big old glass of red and I honestly could give a crap (for a change).

Stay here, keep reading and posting and let's see if we can get through this. It makes it so much harder when our spouse drinks but at least we have support here.

[Daily wine]

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Oh Miley,
Thanks so much for the response and seems we have alot in common. My hubby is out of town until Friday so that will help. I msut say it was nice to wake up and feel good this morning especially after yesterday so here is day 2. I will keep reading and posting and we can pm too. Thanks!
DW

[Miley]

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Hey DW....how are things today? I think it will be easier while hubby is out of town!

[Daily wine]

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So far so good. I am always good at work. Its after work that I get nervous. I was a drink wine at home while cooking cleaning and then couching it to polish off whatever was left. Plan on staying busy. Tomorrow is my 16 year old sons last day of school for the summer.... Thanks for caring and checking.
DW

[bcp2013]

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You can do it,you don't need the wine,l was a wine drinker,love hate relationship with it,my husband said it was my abusive relationship.lt was alcohol,my husband doesn't drink he couldn't care less about alcohol,he only drank when people said oh come on have one,that's all he would have,so l don't have issues there,only issues with myself ,but l'm65 days sober today and it's okay,l never thought l'd quit but here l am,it is possible,l drank cause l liked to,than it just became too often,l started feeling shitty,gained weight as well,now l have control of myself again ,feels good,you will too ,good luck on this journey alcohol free,you will be happy you are here.good night !!

[Miley]

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I know what you mean about the after work thing. It was my way of "relaxing" after a hectic day at the office. The more hectic it was the more I felt justified to drink. My nights were cooking, drinking, cleaning, making lunches for the next day, etc.....

I am glad to be on the path that we are on.....Day 6 tomorrow!!

[199days]

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The misery and same ole over and over bs gets worse if you carry on drinking , it does not magically get better or go away. Grind out the cravings , tough it out stare at a wall all night if you have to. Liberate yourself from the slavery of this drug. Good things await, I promise.