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[Live_Love_Learn]

So I've been in the new job for 3 months and they have never had HR before and of course they don't know what HR does so I get told that I'm not doing enough...... considering they don't know the mess I'm looking at thats just great SO FUCK IT I AM DRINKING AND GOING TO FUCKING CRY MYSELF TO SLEEP TONIGHT!!!!!!!
I'm sick of being a a fucking job that people don't know about so they think they can assume we do fuck all. People are the biggest part of the business so thanks for nothing and thanks for my hangover.

[Glass Half Empty]

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LLL
I understand how angry and frustrated you are but is there another way you can deal with it other than drinking?

If you let them affect you this way you're giving them the opportunity to make you wake up feeling like death tomorrow. Don't give them the satisfaction - just stay here and vent with us instead!

:h :l :h

[Live_Love_Learn]

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Thanks!! I haven't drank yet, trying to not blow this out of proportion but I my anxiety has gone through the roof and feel like throwing up, I'm so scared that they don't think I'm good enough and I will lose my job when I know nobody here and have moved here, I don't know how I would survive

[Glass Half Empty]

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OK - well try not to panic for now, I'm sure there are quite a few strategies you can use to sort this out. (I'm in HR too, so I know how hard it can be to quantify what we do, but there are ways!)

So what was the main issue. Did they give you some sort of measures to meet that you haven't, or did they just leave you to it and now think you should have done more?

PS - sorry forgot these! :l :l :l :h

[Guitarista]

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Hi Triple L,

This is precisely the time you need to be cool. I bet you are ace at your job, and I bet there are people (maybe customers?) who you have interacted with in your time there who would agree. There are blockheads EVERYWHERE in management all 'round the world. They know bugger all. I am having similar scenario's at my workplace. My managers have no idea, and are presumptuous fools. BUT! I do not and will not allow their half baked slack attitude to ruin my day again! I love my job, and I look at the bigger picture. Sometimes we have to train those in HR/management.

I drank a couple of times AT them, but this only damaged me. They couldn't care less. My attitude now, is I will not let anyone, or anything de-rail my sobriety and precious life.

Hold your head up, walk straight and tall, and just do your best.

(I do not refer to you Glassy re HR ;-))

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Guitarista;1524056 wrote: Hi Triple L,

This is precisely the time you need to be cool. I bet you are ace at your job, and I bet there are people (maybe customers?) who you have interacted with in your time there who would agree. There are blockheads EVERYWHERE in HR all 'round the world. They know bugger all. ...

(I do not refer to you Glassy re HR ;-))

Smooth G, very smooth! But you're right, LLL and I are 2 of the good 'uns.

[Live_Love_Learn]

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They never had anyone in HR before and used consultants so in 3 months I've pulled apart all employee files and have to present the audit while dealing with no systems in place and it's me on my own also developing training for people. I don't mind but I'm sick of being in HR and the shit kicker because we don't make the money, I love HR though because there are so many facets to it.
Oh and it's funny hat we are great to have around to blame for recruitment or performance management even though you give them the tools....
I'm so anxious I'm shaking and of course life is flashing before my eyes, no job, can't pay rent, can't stress my parents out after the last 12 months they just want me to be happy and this will distress them no end.....,

[Guitarista]

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Live_Love_Learn;1524077 wrote: They never had anyone in HR before and used consultants so in 3 months I've pulled apart all employee files and have to present the audit while dealing with no systems in place and it's me on my own also developing training for people. I don't mind but I'm sick of being in HR and the shit kicker because we don't make the money, I love HR though because there are so many facets to it.
Oh and it's funny hat we are great to have around to blame for recruitment or performance management even though you give them the tools....
I'm so anxious I'm shaking and of course life is flashing before my eyes, no job, can't pay rent, can't stress my parents out after the last 12 months they just want me to be happy and this will distress them no end.....,

Sounds like the whole organisation needs a performance management session/rev up. Can you call a meeting and discuss the obvious communication issues, and map out a forward moving plan for everyone from here? You may need to take the lead and guide your supervisors to the drinking trough, so to speak. ?

5 deep slow breaths, exhaling slower than the slow inward breath. Repeat if necessary. This will slow your body down physically at least.

Why do you want to stop drinking? What damage did it do for you to stop?

[Live_Love_Learn]

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Drinking just made my head more messed up G, I hated myself more and would get so upset that everyone else seemed 'normal'. When my anxiety hits I generally don't sleep, talk a million miles an hour and can't sleep....... I've got my bottle of scotch here but I'm so proud that I'm not just getting drunk all the time like I used to but my head gets messed up, where do I start to fix my job so they keep me??? I stood my ground and said I don't believe I'm not contributing but shit I already have ducked up self esteem issues, I can't let them see it though!!!!

[Guitarista]

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Live_Love_Learn;1524084 wrote: Drinking just made my head more messed up G, I hated myself more and would get so upset that everyone else seemed 'normal'. When my anxiety hits I generally don't sleep, talk a million miles an hour and can't sleep....... I've got my bottle of scotch here but I'm so proud that I'm not just getting drunk all the time like I used to but my head gets messed up, where do I start to fix my job so they keep me??? I stood my ground and said I don't believe I'm not contributing but shit I already have ducked up self esteem issues, I can't let them see it though!!!!

L, you know that booze is a depressant, a major one, and an anxiety maker, and a self esteem killer. If you go in to work a little hungover from the night before, well, I know at least for me, I will have a negative edge, and will not be at my best. I know you know this, but i'm reminding you again.

Can you call a meeting with them and tell them you love the work, the company, the history, what the company stands for (all that stuff, even exaggerate if you want), BUT, you need to know and understand CLEARLY what they require from you. Get it written out maybe? It should be in your position/job description but maybe their interpretation is different to how you understand it. I'd call a meeting for the purpose of clarifying what they want and expect from you. Would this help?

[Live_Love_Learn]

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I asked him, he said he doesn't know HR! They just want to see results!! I just sent through training to them today explaining how hat will add value and I've just finished the audit, I will report on this but I'm pissed, in 3 months you need to know the fucking business and I'm across the whole business, there are different places to cover, different cultures, but of course job losses are everywhere so they are looking around their business wandering what they really need....

[On.Bac]

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Live_Love_Learn;1524036 wrote: So I've been in the new job for 3 months and they have never had HR before and of course they don't know what HR does so I get told that I'm not doing enough...... considering they don't know the mess I'm looking at thats just great SO FUCK IT I AM DRINKING AND GOING TO FUCKING CRY MYSELF TO SLEEP TONIGHT!!!!!!!
I'm sick of being a a fucking job that people don't know about so they think they can assume we do fuck all. People are the biggest part of the business so thanks for nothing and thanks for my hangover.

Hangovers are for novice alcoholics. Before you goto bed, eat plenty of bread, a turkey sandwhich or two will rid that problem. Trust me, take my advise, even if it means a cheap drive through burger. get them ahead of time and eat them right before you pass out. No hangover. Those hangover pills are a waste of money.

Don't blame your hangover on anyone else because you couldn't manage the stress and had a bad day and decided to get hammered. That's you, anything can be your point of blame or enabler. You cuoldn't just sucked it up and went to bed and tried again tommorow. One day at a time, and dont let people get to you so much. They're not that important, they just like to havea submissive group to manage that they can intimidate. Don't let them. Just ignore it, no mattr how pissed you are, just smile and let it go. They want to see you explode so they will have something to feel good about. BIG BOSS MAN.

Just do the best you can, one day at a time, when you think bad thoughts, categorize them as irrational negative thoughts and tell yourself, this has nothing to do with whats going on right now. Alcoholism and drug addiction follows a simple protocol. Lets look for a reason to get fuqd up. Don't give in. B/C they're hurting you emotionally and you're hurting yourself physically. Learn the serentity prayer and use that courage to change only the things you can, and if you can't remember who your star player is and why you're alive. They may have bigger pay grades or think they can run you, but you've got just as much of a right to be alive as they do. Don't let them run you over or get you down.

One day at a time. Go to sleep sober and wake up and think, i have nothing to feel guilty about. Because if you drink, you've got 2 negative thoughts to feel guilt about. Them and most importantly, yourself.

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It could go even further. They ruined your day, you drink, you ruin your family friends day, add ontop of self guilt to continue the cycle. An alcoholic is like a poison , it's pissed off, it infects itself and others around it. Kids family etc. lot to think abuot just from having a bad day. I'd suggest a script of klonopine for days i couldn't handle the BS at work. Just a safety net, go to a bathroom brake while you're steamin mad and take your nerve pill, it'll help you forget about it. Main thing is remember, they're not better than you. But, yes many enjoy the monotony they've created in the playground schedules (job) as long as they're the ones calling the shots.

[Live_Love_Learn]

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FYI OB I am sober and I thought this was a place to talk but your a champ at making me feel shittier, cheers for that. Guess I can get through shit AF since I. Can read that without falling apart, I came here for support.

[Guitarista]

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Live_Love_Learn;1524091 wrote: I asked him, he said he doesn't know HR! They just want to see results!! I just sent through training to them today explaining how hat will add value and I've just finished the audit, I will report on this but I'm pissed, in 3 months you need to know the fucking business and I'm across the whole business, there are different places to cover, different cultures, but of course job losses are everywhere so they are looking around their business wandering what they really need....

Just do your best L. Ditch the booze, walk tall, and see this through. Keep cool and do your job to the best of your ability with a smile and positive attitude, that's all. Take your lunch breaks and recharge. Things could easily be very different by the end of the week, and may turn around in your favour. It will work out one way or another. I reckon your main job and priority is YOU. Keeping yourself sober and taking care of you.

G'day Bac!

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LLL
It sounds as though they really have no idea what they want and are clutching at straws.

Did you agree on any KPIs when you started? (sorry don't know where you are so what jargon you use). what did they say they wanted you to achieve, or was it just "come in and improve stuff". Can you use this as an opportunity to improve communication and clarify what are reasonable expectations?

Also Sweetie I don't know your situation but you said "can't stress my parents out after the last 12 months they just want me to be happy and this will distress them no end....."
. It sounds as though your parents love you and care very much about you. Please try not to worry about them at the moment and just focus on the issue at hand. However much you worry at the moment, it is NOT the end of the world. Work is just work! While you and the ones you love are alive and healthy nothing else is unsurmountable!