Wow, so glad to read your posts. Just what I needed.
Here's my story:
After being married for 21 years my husband had an affair. Long story short...I started drinking.
We are now about 6 weeks short of our 30th anniversary and I can't say we are going to make it.
The history of our marriage is that he is a great provider but we have no real relationship. We don't carry on the day to day conversations, we have nothing in common and live separate lives, not because I want to but because that is just him. As long as I act happy, keep the house clean, laundry done etc that is fine with him. He does not want to hear that I am unhappy because then he thinks that I am just ungrateful and nothing he does will never make me happy. What I can't get him to understand is that it is not "things" that make a person happy but a real relationship.
So a few weeks ago I drank too much and in the morning I apologized but I also shut down. He's mad and has a right to be. But somehow I stopped talking to him. I don't have the energy to put into my marriage and stay sober.
I wish I could explain what is going on because I am at a loss as to what to do and where to go from here.
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