I cheated while drunk ....

[Justme223]

So I've read many forums here about others cheating while drunk. My story isn't much different, I snuck out of my house already drunk and cheated on my family. Overcome with guilt and disgust doesn't even explain a little of what I'm feeling. I love my husband and family so much, I never wanted this. But unlock others on this site I told my husband. I couldn't do it I was physically ill. What happens next ..... Did I mess up by telling him? Feeling very depressed and low please no harsh comments.

[NoSugar]

I cheated while drunk ....

I'm sorry this happened, JustMe. I hope your husband is able to forgive you and you find a way to forgive yourself.

Do you want to quit drinking?

You would be so welcome in the Newbies Nest (link below). It helps to have the support of others as you try to do this and that is one of the busier threads. You might want to check out the Toolbox, also, if you haven't already done so.

I hope to see you over in the nest and am glad you found this site.

[K9Lover]

I cheated while drunk ....

Hi Justme!
No harsh comments or judgements here. We do understand. Alcohol makes us do things we normally wouldn't do, or even think of doing, sober. What happens next is probably between you and your family, we can't predict that. What we CAN predict is that things like this will continue to happen if you keep drinking. You never have to go through this again if you remove alcohol from your life. How did it go when you told your husband? Please stick around...we can help you!

K9

[Justme223]

I cheated while drunk ....

It went as expected I hurt him. Being the amazing guy that he is, he wants to work on this. And doesn't want to ruin our children's life's. I mean before this I wouldn't have really thought I had a drinking problem, I have had bad times with it, but nothing like this. I know it was my choice but I wasn't making a choice that me myself would have made since I wasn't sober. I know if he wants to work on this and we both said we didn't want a divorce, I need to do what I can to help the healing begin. And looking at everything now obviously nothing good can come from alcohol. Thank you both, I just need to not feel like I'm alone.

[NoSugar]

I cheated while drunk ....

You don't have to be alone :l.

Why don't you commit to not drinking for 30 days and see how it goes? That is what most people in the Newbies Nest do. There is a roll call for keeping track of the days (and getting encouragement).

Since you and your husband are committed to saving your marriage, maybe he could help you with this, also.

Take care of yourself, NS

[Quakegirl]

I cheated while drunk ....

Justme, it sounds like you have something so precious, it's really worth protecting. I am just 5 days into my second real quit, but already I feel like a different person from the drinking me. It's really worth it, to get back to who we are.

[free at last]

I cheated while drunk ....

Dear Justme,
I think we have all done things we regret while under the influence of AL. That your husband and you want to work through this is an incredible testimony to the value you place on your marriage. Committing to at least 30 days AF, to clear your head and give you a sense of what it is like to be fully present, is a good start. You have to look forward now.

[Justme223]

I cheated while drunk ....

I'm making the change and committed to 30 days as a start. It's hard because my husband is a drinker as well and using it to cope with this situation. Being around it is hard ..... Today it felt like maybe it would make everything easier, but that's how I got in to this mess. I'm ready to take control. Thank you everyone.

[kronkcarr]

I cheated while drunk ....

justme223,

You are one lucky lady! Your husband wants to work through your wake up call.

I'm just past 10 months of sobriety and my experience is that I really like myself now. I'm clear and making good choices. With good choices I'm not overwhelmed so I don't want to escape my world. I found that drinking was a huge habit.

Good luck. Keep reading and posting.

[Lindee83]

I cheated while drunk ....

Need support and no judgement please

Hi there- I am brand new to this site. I find myself here because I am in a difficult place, realizing I need help and support. Recently, I went on a girls trip and cheated on my husband of 7 years. I was very drunk and feel so bad about myself. So bad that I don't know how or what to do. I have been drinking too much for a while now. Somedays none at all and other days I drink way too much. I am mostly at home with my wine, but when I do venture out I find myself a different person. Drinking, life of the party and loving male attention. At home I not this way and don't think about other men. 2 weeks ago I was very intoxicated and completely crossed the line. I slept with a man and I am married. Sober I would never behave this way. Drunk, I craved and loved the attention. Sober I am ashamed and wishing there was a way. I wish I could turn back time. I know I have a problem with alcohol, as I am a different person sober. Drunk, I find myself wanting male attention and this time I gave in. I love my husband and family dearly. I don't understand my drunken behavior. How can I change so much while intoxicated? I am ashamed and feel alone and terrible about myself. I want to change and I need to stop drinking. Please don't judge me. I understand I made a catastrophic mistake. How can I move on and forgive myself? How can my husband be with me? I haven't. Told him, but feel like I am the worst person on the planet thanks for your support in advance.

[K9Lover]

I cheated while drunk ....

Hi Lindee,

No judgement here. We all understand what you're going through. We've ALL done things we are extremely ashamed of when drunk. That's what got most of us here, realizing we don't like what we turn into while intoxicated. I know that's the case for me. I don't like "drunk me"....AT ALL. I don't know whether you plan to tell your husband or not, only you can make that decision. What you can do is cut back and eventually quit drinking...no, it isn't easy, but yes, it IS SO worth it! You'll never have to bear the burden of this shame and guilt again...and that is the most freeing feeling in the world. You should join us over on the Newbies Nest thread. It's big and busy, but don't get overwhelmed, you will be welcomed. I'm glad you've joined us. You can do this, and we can help!

K9

[Justme223]

I cheated while drunk ....

Hi all!! Im still on the sober train I believe its 30 days today....? And hi Lindee I feel exactly the same way and after that incident and being sober for this past month im learning so much ... about myself ... about other people and just about life. This was the best decision I have made in a long time. I would say get yourself sober first then go from there ..... my cheating actually came with more consequences, and my husband is still loving and supporting me (I dont know how but he is) good luck to all

[3June2013]

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Justme awesome news! So glad to hear you're doing well!

[h4ck573r]

I cheated while drunk ....

I completely agree with K9.

Don't worry about judgement, we don't do that.
However there must be another reason beside alcohol that you did what you did, alcohol just encouraged that, and it was your choice to drink it. (I know you will not like what I just said), there is a reason you drank too, find out what it was and work on that too.
I was drinking because I couldn't bare the stress, I though drinking made me better... It actually made me and my situation worse.

[h4ck573r]

I cheated while drunk ....

Well done , this was another victory I heard about today .