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[K9Lover]

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Well what's the alternative to living with it? Not living? Don't let a mistake ruin your entire life. You need to forgive yourself first. It does take time. When you get some time free of alcohol, you can start loving yourself more. It WILL happen if you work at it!

[Iris11]

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It does feel like my life is over and that I've ruined it. Does it really get better with time? Can anyone with a personal story or example please PM me? I feel like I'm at the lowest of lowest places.

[j-vo]

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Hi Iris,
Yes, it does get better with time, but it also requires a lot of support from members here. I'm glad you're going to the doctor's and therapist. That's an excellent start as it's good to have a professional guide you in this situation. Stay with that! And stay with us. Many are "experts" here that can guide you. You're young and you can beat this!

[Iris11]

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As I mentioned, there is one mutual fb friend between my partner and this guy. All it might take is someone to post a picture of us and then the other guy sees it - what if he then decided to tell this mutual contact what happened? I am so paranoid. Or if in a year's time I got engaged to by partner and this mutual friend "likes" it then the other guy could see that too. I'm in hell.

[Iris11]

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I do think it's pretty unlikely that any of these things would happen, but my paranoia is going crazy thinking about this.

[Iris11]

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Making myself sick with bad dark thoughts I don know how I'll be able to keep it from him , although it will destroy us both.

[Iris11]

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I can't even get out of bed - somebody, please, I need your help.! I think I have to tell him but that will destroy both our lives. I need someone to help me, please...

[scottish lass]

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Iris - I hate to say this, but I am not sure you are in the right place for the help you need.
There is a lot of support and ideas to stop drinking - we are all here because of our drinking problems - the issue you are having is due to drinking, but that is not your main concern just now. I am not sure where to suggest you go for help, but you need some counselling of a differnet kind. You need a therapist - you suggest being very stressed - I am not sure how bad you are, but do you need to call a hot line?
You are begging for help here and not getting many answers - I think it maybe because we don't know how to help you,
I am worried about you, and would like you to sort this out - then you can join us and work out how to help your drinking situaton - but you need to deal with the problem that is causing you grief.
Please go get help with that, then come back to us...

[MossRose]

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Iris -everyone here has stories just like this. I do. Not proud of them, but part of my history now. I promise you, it WILL get better. But, first you need to help yourself. Let the AL leave your system, and then the anxiety will lessen. Hang on until then, ok? We'll deal with the next step together. Take care of yourself. Try to be kind to yourself. You are not beyond redemption, girl. You just need to get to a better place so we can talk it out. I've been there, so keep posting. We want to help you.

[Iris11]

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Thanks Moss Roe,
I do need to give up drinking I know. The current problem I have is related to that and I'm jus not coping. People telling me that things are going to be ok are what I need. Hearing your stories helps too. Most peoples advice has been to get on with my relationship and not tell him. This is what I want to do, but it requires a lot of strength.

[Moonchild67]

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Hi again Iris,
As you know I totally get where you are coming from, you are not a bad person you just made a mistake. I personally think it's best not to tell your partner and try and move on from this. That is what I intend to try and do. Can you block these people on your FB perhaps ? That's then takes away one element. I understand the guilt is sooo strong as I feel the same but making ourselves sick won't change what happened, there's a lesson to be learned here and in time the anxiety will lessen and the memory will fade into your past. Try and get moving and keep busy, dwelling will only make it worse, think I lost 4 kilos thru stress yesterday!!! Don't get me wrong I'm by no means taking this lightly but we are human and humans make mistakes, I truly think the alcohol changes who we are, I am by nature fairly quiet and bookish but when drinking am a loudmouth pain in the bum! We need to regain the true essence of who we are, use this experience as a wake up call, as will I. Keep in touch x

[Moonchild67]

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Hey Iris how are you going? Been thinking of you

[YouKayBee]

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Iris

You will be ok if you don't drink, really. At first it might feel like there's a whole load of things to fix, but as time goes on you learn how to deal with things, and the shit caused by alcohol dies down.

Regards having sex with people you wouldn't usually. Whether he took advantage or not, if you don't drink you have a better chance of avoiding the same in the future, it'll be easier to keep yourself safe.

[K9Lover]

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Please let us know how you are Iris... :l

[Iris11]

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I'm not really ok. Haven't drank since the day after it happened so that's good. Am now on anti-depressants and saw my therapist but he was way too confronting. The guilt I feel is unbearable and I'm not sure I will be able to live like this. I've been talking to my mother about it but that's all. She is encouraging me to put it behind me and forget about it. However I'm just feeling so bad and think I'm heading into major depression/breakdown.