30 days and beyond

[lilmea]

30 days and beyond

cross-post Heavenly-Your weird!! :H

[Heavenly]

30 days and beyond

lilmea;741618 wrote: cross-post Heavenly-Your weird!! :H

Yep ... I must be ... you should see the kind of awkward friends I have ..... ha !!!

[Heavenly]

30 days and beyond

ok ladies found a high risk craving time - pmt/pms time !! Grrr

[bear73]

30 days and beyond

this has been really helpful I'm 11 and a half weeks sober and stressing about the idea of NEVER drinking again - thank you.

[KateH1]

30 days and beyond

Bear73.....don't fret to much......you are still in the very early stages of sobriety.....as time goes on, you will fully embrace life without acohol....even Embrace it!! When the thought of Never Drinking Again, puts you into a panic......just remember all of the reasons that you decided to stop!!

I honestly, love my alcohol free life! Like today....Dave and I walked to one of our favorite restaurants and had an absolutely wonderful, relaxing lunch. We had iced tea instead of wine.....people were drinking wine all around me......my thoughts were.....I will leave this lunch and have a very productive afternoon.....no carrying on the drinking at home, no regrets, no hangover, no depression, no anxiety, Just a nice memory of a lovely lunch!

[lilmea]

30 days and beyond

ok ladies found a high risk craving time - pmt/pms time !! Grrr

Heavenly-I've wondered about that. It's been awhile since I've had to worry with the pms and all that, (I'm 56) but I wonder if we don't still 'cycle' through with our emotions. I know I go days and days with no cravings and then suddenly I'll have a few days when they are "back in action" Thanks for that info. I'm going to start keeping track and see if the high rick craving time is true even now.

Bear73-I only have a few more af weeks than you do. When I first got here, I was afraid I would never be able to stop drinking. I just couldn't imagine being able to do that. But I have and I love this af life. I am determined to keep it. I try to stay focused and 'live in the moment' As Kate said-"I want to fully embrace life without alcohol"

[KateH1]

30 days and beyond

I would love the input of other long term abbers.......Labels....what is your opinion on labeling ourselves as alcoholics. I have read that some think that by "owning their shame and wearing the label" it improves their chances of long term sobriety. I disagree....of course, this is only my opinion and I would not begin to dictate what anyone else should do.

I accept that I am an alcoholic and that I cannot and do not drink. But, I do not identify either to myself or to others that I am an alcoholic...no more that I identify with any other label.....of which I like everyone else could own many labels.
What are your opinions of Labels??

[mario]

30 days and beyond

hi kateh1,Well when i was drinking,i was secretly full of jealousy & envy of those people who could drink normally,who had the love & respect of there family,who lived a normal live and were accepted as equals by there friends.Now i dont have to be envious anymore,i have earned by my efforts to live the right way

Now, labeled and judged? That's no one else's business. Let them float along in their own little perfect world. No one judges me until they've been through and dealt with the things I've had to.

[KateH1]

30 days and beyond

Mario....I believe that Labeling oneself is different from being judged. Frankly, I do not live for or by the "Lofty Opinions and/or Judgments of others"....good or bad. What is most important is my opinion of myself and my own behavior. I will always be acutely aware that I am an alcoholic who can no longer drink if I wish to have a long and fulfilling life. The past is in the past......I have moved on and I continue to move forward. But, just as I do not believe that anyone has the right to Label anyone, neither should be Label ourselves.

My husband says it best....he hates it when friends call him "doc"....not that he is not proud of his accomplishments.....but as he puts it......"medicine is what he practices for a living".....but being a doctor is only one part of him......he is much more than that.......and indeed he is!

[mario]

30 days and beyond

KateH1;751056 wrote: Mario....I believe that Labeling oneself is different from being judged. Frankly, I do not live for or by the "Lofty Opinions and/or Judgments of others"....good or bad. What is most important is my opinion of myself and my own behavior. I will always be acutely aware that I am an alcoholic who can no longer drink if I wish to have a long and fulfilling life. The past is in the past......I have moved on and I continue to move forward. But, just as I do not believe that anyone has the right to Label anyone, neither should be Label ourselves.

My husband says it best....he hates it when friends call him "doc"....not that he is not proud of his accomplishments.....but as he puts it......"medicine is what he practices for a living".....but being a doctor is only one part of him......he is much more than that.......and indeed he is!

kateh1 that's exactly what i was trying to say :thanks:

[momof3]

30 days and beyond

I do not label myself as an "alcoholic." However, I am fully aware that I cannot drink and will not drink. Sobriety is my number 1 priority. Just as many diabetics can become medication and symptom free if they follow the right diet and live a healthy lifestyle, I believe that if I follow the protocol that is right for me, live a healthy life, and do not drink, I am not what I would call an alcoholic.

I have a friend who was recently diagnosed with multiple sclerosis. She does not tell many others that she has MS. She does not want others to define her in that way nor does she want to define herself in this way. I feel the same way about "alcoholic."

[KateH1]

30 days and beyond

Well, put, Momof3!! Great to see you and to hear that you are still going strong!!

[momof3]

30 days and beyond

Thanks Kate,

I'm not hear often but come on from time to time and post on threads that inspire me to contribute in ways that might be of help to others.

M3

[momof3]

30 days and beyond

Thanks Kate,

I'm not hear often but come on from time to time and post on threads that inspire me to contribute in ways that might be of help to others.

M3

[Heavenly]

30 days and beyond

momof3;753860 wrote: Thanks Kate,

I'm not hear often but come on from time to time and post on threads that inspire me to contribute in ways that might be of help to others.

M3

That's what I like to hear, and we do appreciate your posts ... thanks momof3