30 days and beyond

[Stari]

30 days and beyond

OK Heaven & Kate... Since ya BOTH suggested this thread, here I am! Just read all 9 pages and I wouldn't even know where to add a thing to improve what's already been said here so far. For anyone who remembers JaneDoe or Tiara Jane... That's me from 2 or 3 years ago. Been sober going fast on 2 years now. 2 yrs next month actually. I blurbed a fast update on the "Back and Ready to LIVE" thread. I always enjoyed this forum and it's kinda fun to revisit you all now. Thanks for still being here! Every one of you inspire me! And yes WIP, even the Aholes... ESPECIALLY the Aholes... I mean they teach or show me what I DON'T wanna be, right?

[A Work in Progress]

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Stari... nice to meetcha!!! Welcome back!! Glad you are in this thread and... yes, you are totally right about those who spectacularly show us how we do NOT want to be... I keep forgetting about that part! Thanks for the reminder!

[KateH1]

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Hi Stari....well...so Happy You made it over here to this thread! You are going to be a wonderful addition! And I can tell that you will be a lot of Fun as well! So Welcome Aboard our Crazy AF Train! A great place for sharing the non-drinking life style!

[Heavenly]

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KateH1;543688 wrote: Wise, words, Oney and Heavenly......You know, I have been thinking how, many of us receive a compliment or compliments....that are genuine and from the heart....how long do we hang on to those good feelings??? But, somone, quite out of line....makes a horrible remark or two or three....remarks that we know are unfounded and not really about us......and we hang on to that hurt for days!

Namaste! K

You are SO right Kate ...

[Beck]

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Well, looks like I've missed some drama...but glad the drama mostly stays away from the abs boards.

I'm back from my near-drinking experience of last weekend and happily AF again. I tend to beat myself up when I go through a time like that. Had a great conversation about it with an MWO friend and that really helped.

I have read through the stuff I missed but I have the attention span of a gnat so I'm sure I won't get this right...

Kate, sometimes I think commitment and honesty are the only things that get me through. So glad I made the right choice.

Stari - welcome!

WIP - I am aware that you would recommend meditation for my attention span issue!!! maybe I'll give it a go. Still AND quiet at the same time...definitely challenging for me. Glad you are still with us.

Heavenly, I think it was great that you started the other thread and brought the focus back on this one.

I know I'm missing people...out of time for now!

[A Work in Progress]

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Beck;544915 wrote:

WIP - I am aware that you would recommend meditation for my attention span issue!!! maybe I'll give it a go. Still AND quiet at the same time...definitely challenging for me.

Beck, glad to see you, "happily AF"!!

Here's a very nice short video about meditation and enhancing the capacity to pay attention:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A1l7w6r2dm0[/video]]YouTube - Meditation Enhances Attention - Scientific American

[KateH1]

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Shoot! I want to watch that, but I have to go off to a late meeting with a client....so I will watch later!

Hey Beck!! Well...this drama was a doosey! I hope that it has not prompted some to try anatibuse and alcohol.....arghhhhhh! I have pretty much stopped posting regarding alcohol...with the exeption of the ABS threads. To be honest.....I am just sick of the BS! I am grateful for everyone in the ABs threads for their comittment, friendship and for taking the latest in the supplements...."BS Aleviatum", it works wonders!:H

[Beck]

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WIP, Wow that was quick! Smart of you to tell me that the video was short otherwise, you know I wouldn't watch it. :H not ready to commit to a new project...sounds like an excuse doesn't it?

Kate, Sorry for the insanity. I did see some of it on Saturday when I was struggling and frankly could have used a chat but the offender was in the chat room! You know I leave here periodically and have mixed feelings about being here now. Excellent idea for a new supp though!

[Heavenly]

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KateH1;544996 wrote: I am grateful for everyone in the ABs threads for their comittment, friendship and for taking the latest in the supplements...."BS Aleviatum", it works wonders!:H

Where can I buy it please ? Is it online or from a pharmacy ..... :H:h:H

Now I am hooked on emoticons ..... ohhh nooo

Is there an online forum for ''addiction to smileys ?????'' Oh sorry I am on the wrong thread ... just popping off to the other thread .... LOL

[lorisunshine]

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Hello fellow abbers!
Firstly, Heavenly, this thread was a "stellar" idea.
I have been dreaming of posting in this section since I came here 3 years ago, even though I had to try every modster back alley that I came across. In the beginning I gave it my all, but after 3 months I was so full of myself that I had that first little drink and you all know what happened. Not until I was brutally honest with myself and I hit rockbottom did I finally come to the realization that moderation simply was not an option for whatever reason.
My family drank so moderately that I could not blame them or my genes. Over the course of 15 years I just slipped from a social drinker into an all out whiskey gussling alcoholic. Every harm that was done to me needed to be drowned to the point of black out. Living where I am AA was absolutely not an option and from what I read I could not stomach their philosophy either. So I started to make a schedule and would allot myself so many ml of booze per day etc. etc. only to watch myself go on a rampage when the next misery hit me in the face.
I was desperate when I found MWO and thought that I had found paydirt. For the first time in my life I realized that there are many people who are suffering through the same misery on a daily basis. That knowledge alone gave me a big hopeful boost, because by then my selfconfidence was non-existent.
Yesterday I was driving to Toronto for an CAT scan appointment when my Blackberry dinged and reminded me: "Congratulations Lori, you have hit 250 days AF". Yes, don't laugh, but I still am sending messages to myself. I promise I will quit that when I hit 365 days. Right now it keeps me grounded.

Some members who went before me encouraged me to try Rhonda Lenair and I did and unbelievably it worked for me too. Choosing this route was so out of character for me because I am usually very analytical and tend to demand irrefutible proof of success. Frankly, at this point I don't care if the hair from a witches chinnychinchin helped me to become alcohol free - I am just free and who am I to question the universe?

This time around I have stayed vigilant and when Christmas celebrations came around I did get rather melancholic while opening the traditional Burgundy for the family. In the end I did not miss the wine at all because my cranberry juice was any bit as good and I could check off another day of my countdown to one year AF. I also dumped out all the decanters and they are sitting empty in the corner gathering dust. I am telling my guests that the latest finding states that the lead content in crystal is very bad for us....haha....I should sell the damn things on ebay.

I have made a committment to myself and my wonderful daughter. I will never drink again no matter what the circumstance.

My biggest fear was how my closest friends would react. You know what, they don't care if I drink, it was all so simple. I bring my Perrier and thats that - nobody questioned me.

So, if I may, I would like to stick around here for a while, because this is the place where I desperately wanted to be at for 3 years and I like the company.

Sorry, if you are still reading you deserve a medal....shucks it's another epistle.

[A Work in Progress]

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Great post, Lori! It's wonderful to see you here...

[LVT25]

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Loved your post, Lori. One question. How do you send yourself a message on your blackberry?

[Heavenly]

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A Work in Progress;544978 wrote: Beck, glad to see you, "happily AF"!!

Here's a very nice short video about meditation and enhancing the capacity to pay attention:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A1l7w6r2dm0[/video]]YouTube - Meditation Enhances Attention - Scientific American

Thanks WIP ... it's almost 'filmed for me' ... my attention span is terrible recently ... before someone stops talking my mind has gone to something else, and it looks so rude ... although I am not doing it intentionally ...

Food for thought and also not being a meditative person normally, it is piquing my interest if it will help me to 'calm' my mind and in turn help me with long-term sobriety,
ie. focusing on sobriety instead of my mind jumping to ''do I want a drink, can I moderate, would one drink hurt ...? ''

hmm ... I will start looking at your meditation info ... thanks

[Heavenly]

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lorisunshine;545275 wrote: Hello fellow abbers!
Firstly, Heavenly, this thread was a "stellar" idea.
Oh, thanks it was Kate's idea and I implemented it ...

lorisunshine;545275 wrote: Over the course of 15 years I just slipped from a social drinker into an all out whiskey gussling alcoholic. Every harm that was done to me needed to be drowned to the point of black out....... So I started to make a schedule and would allot myself so many ml of booze per day etc. etc. only to watch myself go on a rampage when the next misery hit me in the face.
I so understand lori, very similar to me too ....

lorisunshine;545275 wrote: I was desperate when I found MWO and thought that I had found paydirt. For the first time in my life I realized that there are many people who are suffering through the same misery on a daily basis. That knowledge alone gave me a big hopeful boost, because by then my selfconfidence was non-existent.
Yesterday I was driving to Toronto for an CAT scan appointment when my Blackberry dinged and reminded me: "Congratulations Lori, you have hit 250 days AF". Yes, don't laugh, but I still am sending messages to myself. I promise I will quit that when I hit 365 days. Right now it keeps me grounded.

Yes, me too lori, without the support from here I wouldn't have maintained my long term sobriety, I stopped because of ME ... only myself made me stop drinking, but without people here I could have started drinking again.

lorisunshine;545275 wrote: . Frankly, at this point I don't care if the hair from a witches chinnychinchin helped me to become alcohol free - I am just free and who am I to question the universe?

Soooo funny ... you can have mine if you want .... :H:H


lorisunshine;545275 wrote: So, if I may, I would like to stick around here for a while, because this is the place where I desperately wanted to be at for 3 years and I like the company.

Sorry, if you are still reading you deserve a medal....shucks it's another epistle.

Hey lori, don't you ever think of going somewhere else, WE WANT YOU here .... ok?
I love epistles ....

[lorisunshine]

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Hi guys and thanks for the warm welcome!
LTV I mark my calendar every so often and then the blackberry reminds me of my "appointment" with myself. I know it's totally nuts but it makes me smile, especially when it happens in a boring meeting.