I actually said No today.

[Cinders]

No. I can't say that word to people. I assume if they ask me to do something, they really need it.

Well, today I said no. I knew it was the right thing to do and it was.

The person I said no to was not upset, not angry, nothing. She said, "Mama, I understand. I just thought I would ask."

There will be others I say no to who are not as kind or understanding. They will be angry, or haughty, or put me down because of it.

But today, I said no.

That was difficult for me but I think a lot of us alcoholics have a difficult time with that two letter word.

Today I was thinking about myself. Not selfishly, but in the spirit of what I can and cannot do.

So, for today, I said no.

I am glad I said no to someone who loves me and understands.

Cindi

[Cathy40]

I actually said No today.

Well done Cinders! I bet you feel a lot better for it!

[greeneyes]

I actually said No today.

That is fantastic cindi!!! You need to reclaim your power not to wield it, just to own it. I did that at the workshop I never could explain. Having a bit of squirrelyness now as date approaches but I will hold to it. Tightly. My self worth, my self esteem, my boundaries my spirit and soul. :l I'm so glad for you.

[lilmea]

I actually said No today.

That was difficult for me but I think a lot of us alcoholics have a difficult time with that two letter word.

Cinders-I always felt so guilty if I said no to anyone. But I've learned that for my own sanity as well as sobriety, I must set bounders. This includes saying no sometimes.

Thanks for the post.

[Cinders]

I actually said No today.

Hugs back, Greenie. Hugs back. :l:l

I understand.

Love,
Cindi

[greeneyes]

I actually said No today.

I nknow you do and I feel you holding my hand. :h

[scrubbly]

I actually said No today.

Good work Cinders!!! This is a matter of practice for us too, and I'm glad that this "practice round" was met withOUT the negativity that you have so wisely stated may sometimes happen when you practice again in the future.

[LVT25]

I actually said No today.

Good for you! I'm learning to use the word also!

[IAD]

I actually said No today.

Good work Cinders ! ( Come to think of it my wife said "NO" to me today too ! Ha! ) IAD.

[almostthere]

I actually said No today.

A boy I had a date with two days before I started my sobriety which is AF4 keeps wanting to talk and hang out. I feel as though I need a week or so to be around anyone but good friends and family

[Heavenly]

I actually said No today.

To all of you who have managed to say No, I say well done and keep up the good work..... :goodjob:

to those of us who need to learn to say No, I say good luck.

And don't give up trying ......

[IAD]

I actually said No today.

Heavenly !!!! But what about those who where told "NO" too! ha! IAD

[KateH1]

I actually said No today.

It's called "setting bounderies". There is absolutely nothing wrong with saying no. Anyone, especially adults who cannot accept the word no, or become angry when told no, need to grow up! It really bothers me when people constantly say yes, and then complain that they are unapreciated.....the martyr thing.....argh!

So...I am with Heavenly on this one, congrats to Cindy and anyone else that said no today, no is a perfectly acceptable reply!!

[greeneyes]

I actually said No today.

Hubs didn't want to be told no. He wanted wanted what he wanted. Entitlement or whatever. So he'd ask his brother to do something and his brother would decine and the gawd let eh pestering begin. Finally brohter figured out it was easier to say "yeah, sure" and then not show up. You can figure the rest out I'm sure.