Some other people then talked about their own relapses, often saying they had also become bored of being sober after several years. And it got me thinking about a few things:
1. At the beginning of trying to stop drinking, I went to see a hypnotherapist. He'd been sober himself for 25 years and talked about the importance of "working at" your sobriety. I didn't understand what he meant at the time.
2. I've since learnt, of course, that there's a whole big ballgame to staying sober, and it's not just about not drinking.
But I suppose I was unsettled last night by the talk about relapsing. There are also people in that AA group who have long-term sobriety (20 years plus, so I can see that relapse isn't inevitable).
3. For the past year, I've been keeping an iron grip on my sobriety - very much "working" it, concentrating on what works for me, putting time and effort into staying sober and avoiding difficult situations or uncomfortable emotions as much as possible. I think I'm only now allowing myself to explore certain issues which might have contributed to my drinking, and starting to engage with those uncomfortable emotions. And also I'd like to relax the iron grip a bit - and stop avoiding things I find difficult.
4. No conclusion to this ramble, except that I'm feeling a bit rattled by finally allowing myself to tackle things which might have been reasons for me to drink and hearing the talk last night about relapsing after several years and knowing that's a possibility. Well, I knew it was possibility of course, but hearing about it from people with many years of sobriety who just got "bored" of it was a new thing for me. I didn't think by any means that I was "cured" of alcoholism but I suppose I was feeling quite secure in my sobriety and now maybe less so. I certainly don't want to drink and am not thinking about having a drink, but I'm feeling... unsettled.
5. No neat ending. Just getting it down "on paper".
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