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    Shoulds, oughts musts

    ?I must be perfect and never make a mistake. I should always be in control.
    I must succeed. I can?t stand failure. I should always please and gain the approval
    of others. Rejection is horrible. Life must be fair. Others should give
    me my own way. I must be right. I must win.
    Others ought to appreciate the things I do for them. Life should be easy.?
    We can torture ourselves and others with a number of rigid shoulds,
    oughts and musts. These ironclad convictions can produce guilt, shame
    and other unpleasant emotions when we fail to live up to them. They can injure
    our self-esteem. These inflexible beliefs can leave us angry when others fail to
    meet our demands. They can injure our relationships.
    These convictions can be hard to eliminate for several reasons. Firstly, because
    they have worked for us to some degree in the past. In times
    of stress they have helped us to survive. Secondly, they can be hard to
    eradicate because we may not even be aware of their presence and the
    influence they have on us. Due to frequent and long-term repetition
    they have become part of our private logic and automatic thinking.
    Are you changing your shoulds to coulds ?


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    Shoulds, oughts musts

    Very intresting points there mario,

    There is nothing we should do, we always have a choice, so maybe its a could do.

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      #3
      Shoulds, oughts musts

      GREAT!!!
      Outside of a dog a book is mans best friend. Inside of a dog its too dark to read

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        #4
        Shoulds, oughts musts

        Awwhh I missed this earlier....GREAT post.


        ps Techie I ADORE your signature!
        "It's not your job to like me, it's mine!"

        AF 10th May 2010
        NF 12th May 2010

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          #5
          Shoulds, oughts musts

          Ah yes. I'm on day 2 here and trying to find people who have been successful and stayed successful. It is a maze wondering around the site but I'll keeplooking. Hi. T

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