100 Day Club members/Maintenance Thread

[Rahulthesweet]

100 Day Club members/Maintenance Thread

Hello Everyone,

100 plus club .... Hmm ... So cool ...
So the rulez on this thread ?
I want to stay sober for ever .. I feel just great. But then the idea lf relapse does scares me. In past few months I have faced challenging situations which could lead to relapse. Fancy dinners, drinking buddies, travels, conferences, vacations, weathers and importantly being alone ... W I have not faced is despair, shock, bad twists in life. There maybe more. It is so important for me not bring the guard down.

It would be so great discuss this and seek advice from you all so that I can be sober for ever ...

[NoSugar]

100 Day Club members/Maintenance Thread

Hi, again, Rahul.

I just commented on another thread that my main (only?) fear is that I will lose my strength when faced with the loss of a loved one. I have never been tested in that area.

Some people have shared their experiences about coping without drinking on MWO and I really appreciate those posts. I want those role models in my mind for when the inevitable changes we all will face come about.

Welcome to this thread, by the way :welcome:!

[Rahulthesweet]

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Thanks no sugar.

Be the way ... Everytime I have an ice cream I think of you ..

[Byrdlady]

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Hey Rahul!
I used to worry about relapse also. It wasn't until I hit about 2 years that I came to the conclusion that AL just wasn't an option, so I have as good a chance to accidently ingest some as I would accidently having sex! Bahaha...(thanks Kuya for that one!)
AL is to me as peanuts are to peanut allergy people. When they are in the depths of despair, do you think they want to eat peanuts? No, they cope in other ways and you will become more confident in your ability to STAY quit. At least I have.

There in the very beginning, as you may recall, my marriage was falling apart, so I was trying to quit and repair that at the same time. That was a tough patch. When I was right at 2 years, I lost my Day and when I was at 3 years, I lost my son in law. Both cut me right down to the quick. However, at NO TIME did I think it would be better to numb myself up and escape. At LEAST I had peace of mind about that....my family was counting on me and I was there to step up to the plate! I was proud of myself. Drinking just isn't an option. Period. Your confidence will grow, I promise. Getting that distance between you and AL makes you see so clearly what a ruthless master it is.

So proud of you! In the meantime, keep piling up those days!
Alcohol is not an option. XO, Byrdie

[3June2013]

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I'm with you Byrdie, the longer I am AF the less chance of AL ever being invited into my life again. My brother has liver cancer, and has been pretty sick for some time. When he was diagnosed I was a drinker and I couldn't even abstain when he was around. How sad is that? Now I am a role model for him, and he abstains when he's around me.

I think we learn new ways to cope. We learn how to feel the feelings and deal with them instead of numbing them and hoping they'll go away.

Fear of relapse isn't really something I think about any more. When I get the odd random urge for a drink I now find it sort of amusing. Like "where did that come from"?

[Lavande]

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That's right!
At this point I just laugh off those random AL thoughts. They are pretty vague at this point & easily forgotten. I learned a long time ago to switch my thoughts to something else - distraction works wonderfully

[Samstone]

100 Day Club members/Maintenance Thread

Dear friends
having been a veteran of quits lasting 2 or 3 years at a time, I would like to point out a valuable lesson learned this 3rd time around with Mr. Alcohol: you need to mean your quit. The trouble I believe I had in the past was somehow or another I knew I wanted to drink again. This time around, I knew I must quit or end up a very sick person dependent on medications, yet even in the infancy of this quit, say 200 days into it, I was struggling around Christmas time. Yet I knew in my gut that I had stopped because I meant it. I decided, with a lot of support from here, (Byrdie and Lav, you are both the greatest) that it was done. So the bottom line for me now is that it is to be determined that I simply don't drink any more, but always listen to your quit, not to the voice that will look for an opening. It does become easier with time, other routines are the norm and really, there is no time for that BS. Rahul, your caution is warranted but your quit and duration of time are a testament to your determination. You're doing great.

There's not a day yet that doesn't go by that I know I've stopped. I still do the routine of first getting up and saying thank you to myself a couple of times. I check in here regularly, even if to say a bland good morning and nothing else to at least think of the folks here that have been so helpful (and fun as well).
Sam

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[NoSugar]

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[Samstone]

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[Byrdlady]

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Sam, you nut! Spam sammies!
I am with you, this is it! I have accepted the forever part and Im good with that. That is the part I was missing before this one, I left the door open thinking that I would some day be able to drink again, but in a controlled way. Its all BS. You gotta slam that door, nail it shut and develop a healthy hate for the stuff! If you give AL an inch, he wants to be the ruler! B

[Rahulthesweet]

100 Day Club members/Maintenance Thread

Hello All,

I have gone thru an early phase of withdrawal and other associated phases during early days or sobriety. Last 2 to 3 days I am in this mood which is also due to lot of back log. I am sleeping well, there Is no tension no feeling of being low but it appears that the euphoric mood I have been since past few weeks is not there. Just wondering at this stage what happens and what all you folks faced. This is the first time ever I sober for like 125 days or so.

I am not thing of relapse nor getting tempted but not feeling Great ! Any tips ?

[NoSugar]

100 Day Club members/Maintenance Thread

Hi, Rahul

If you read back through this thread, both Pav and I were in funks at about the 4 month mark. It lasted for awhile. We think it's because being sober is no longer exciting and a source of joy on its own - it has become the norm (the human capacity to adapt to change really is remarkable!) But on the other hand, at this point, the brain has not healed enough to be functioning completely normally. Pav described it as feeling kind of flat.

Just hang in there - it definitely gets better! And in the meantime, work on gratitude and keep on the lookout for joy. That should help you feel better more quickly.

You're doing really well with all of this in spite of all the travel you do. Take care, NS

[Byrdlady]

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Rahul,
You know, I think that there is such a sense of relief for us in our brand new sober path that each and every day that we are sober is something to get excited about. But there are some flat spots along the way. Many folks hit one around 30 days, and many hit it between 4 and 6 months. I wondered at the time if this was as good as it was going to be....there weren't any real celebrations anymore...I had proven I could do it, now I just had to maintain it and that was getting tiresome. So I adopted the posture of 'Fake it til you make it' As long as you don't drink, you will come out the other side of this. If you were able to plot your progress on a chart (like your sales!) you would see that a bad day sober is 1000 times better than a drunk day! We really are miles ahead of where we were, but it doesn't seem like the monumental progress we made at first. Yes, there are flat spots, but you and your body are adjusting to your new life. It will pass and you will be happy again!! Giddy even!! This is just a period of SLOW growth and we don't like it as much as when things are humming along! It will pass, I promise.
NoSugar has posted quite a bit about this phase, there is some science behind it! Hang in there....no matter what, and you will be so happy you did. You will hit a new normal! Byrdie

[Byrdlady]

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Cross Post, NS!!! Same message!!!!!!!!!!!! :H:H XO!!