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[Byrdlady]

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Rahul, I'm glad you got some good sleep...it is amazing what a good night's sleep will do.
Those HALT (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired) warning signs are really true...Stay strong and stay connected with us! We want pictures of your travels!

NS, I am reminded that 2 years ago today, I got a call from a great friend from middle and high school. They were down at the beach on vacation and wanted to get together one day for lunch so when she called I wasn't surprised. However, she told me that her husband had collapsed and they were on their way to the hospital. This was around 5 in the afternoon on this Sunday night. He didn't make it. That was my first big crisis. I was SO glad I was sober. I drove and was able to help them make BIG decisions that night. If/when the crisis comes, you will be able to handle it, because like Lav says, AL is NOT an option. It's just not. Your confidence will grow and you will realize that you are just done! It's a good feeling, too.

Hope everyone has a great day!! xo, Byrdie

[NoSugar]

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Thanks for your input, Byrdie and Lav.

I obviously don't want to wish a crisis on myself but when I do face one and not drink, I know I'll come out stronger on the other side.

xx, NS

[Rahulthesweet]

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Byrdlady,

Thanks for the note ... well I am not Hungry, angry, lonely) but yes a lot tensed ... need to learn to cope up with it ... will take some pics tomorrow morning and share ....

Good night !!

[NoSugar]

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Welcome, Soft Focus :l! How is it going for you?

[Byrdlady]

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Woooohoooo!
I didnt get you your prize! This for for telling AL to shove off!!!
:finger:

Congrats to you! Isnt it nice that the daily struggles are mostly GONE? What a relief! Welcome aboard!!! B

[Samstone]

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Hey Soft Focus, glad you're here and well done on 115+ !!!

[peppersnow]

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Hi folks - thanks for the welcome! I popped into the woods for several days and am popped back to civilization.

NS, I have that thought occasionally. I wonder if there's something that would ever be bad enough to cause me to cave. It does help to hear stories like Byrdlady's and others who just don't, even in the face of crisis.

On a related note, for the last two nights I've had drunk dreams. Sunday night in my dream, I was furious at my husband for selling our house without telling me, which I found out about when I came home to a "sold" sign in our yard. So I decided to get drunk but then after drinking for awhile I remembered that I'm sober. It was too late - I'd already been drinking, and was so pissed at myself and angry at my husband, but mainly me for drinking. I was so furious that I woke up....It took me a few minutes to realize it was a dream and it was such a RELIEF that I was sober and had not been drinking! Except that even after I woke up I was still super pissed at my husband, who was laying next to me fast asleep snoring, completely oblivious to his crimes committed in my subconscious state. It took me awhile to quit being mad at him and go back to sleep!

Then last night I dreamed that I was just really drunk and I totally FELT really drunk in my dream-state. I didn't remember drinking, so didn't understand how I had become so wasted. It was really bizarre because if felt so real -- I swear I felt a buzz in my sleep, but it was NOT fun because I was freaked out about what had happened and how the AL had gotten into me. I woke up from that one, too, and was just relieved it wasn't real.

So I don't know what the deal is, except that maybe you're right NS -- they say we dream about what we most fear, and some part of my subconscious is fearful that I'll start drinking again. But I think maybe that's a good sign...that my identity as a sober person who doesn't drink has made it across into my subconscious state of mind. The dreams were bad enough so that I dont want to live it ever again, especially dealing with the regret that felt so real at having failed myself.

Anyone else have drunk dreams? Those are the first I've had that I recall...don't know why they were 2 nights in row. I'm willing myself to think of something pleasant tonight before bed and see if that works.

[Samstone]

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peppersnow;1680503 wrote: Hi folks - thanks for the welcome! I popped into the woods for several days and am popped back to civilization.

NS, I have that thought occasionally. I wonder if there's something that would ever be bad enough to cause me to cave. It does help to hear stories like Byrdlady's and others who just don't, even in the face of crisis.

On a related note, for the last two nights I've had drunk dreams. Sunday night in my dream, I was furious at my husband for selling our house without telling me, which I found out about when I came home to a "sold" sign in our yard. So I decided to get drunk but then after drinking for awhile I remembered that I'm sober. It was too late - I'd already been drinking, and was so pissed at myself and angry at my husband, but mainly me for drinking. I was so furious that I woke up....It took me a few minutes to realize it was a dream and it was such a RELIEF that I was sober and had not been drinking! Except that even after I woke up I was still super pissed at my husband, who was laying next to me fast asleep snoring, completely oblivious to his crimes committed in my subconscious state. It took me awhile to quit being mad at him and go back to sleep!

Then last night I dreamed that I was just really drunk and I totally FELT really drunk in my dream-state. I didn't remember drinking, so didn't understand how I had become so wasted. It was really bizarre because if felt so real -- I swear I felt a buzz in my sleep, but it was NOT fun because I was freaked out about what had happened and how the AL had gotten into me. I woke up from that one, too, and was just relieved it wasn't real.

So I don't know what the deal is, except that maybe you're right NS -- they say we dream about what we most fear, and some part of my subconscious is fearful that I'll start drinking again. But I think maybe that's a good sign...that my identity as a sober person who doesn't drink has made it across into my subconscious state of mind. The dreams were bad enough so that I dont want to live it ever again, especially dealing with the regret that felt so real at having failed myself.

Anyone else have drunk dreams? Those are the first I've had that I recall...don't know why they were 2 nights in row. I'm willing myself to think of something pleasant tonight before bed and see if that works.

even in dreamland, the male species is wrong!!! Just goes to prove the theory that if a man was alone on a desert island, would he still be wrong.... of course!

Pepper, funny, I remember posting awhile back on this thread, the very same thing about dreaming I was drunk and how relieved I was to wake and find it was only a dream (didn't blame the wife, though). Possible process of letting it go? Still, I never trust the beast!! Glad you're doing well
Sam

[Byrdlady]

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Sam! Bless your heart (as we say in the South). I was going to ask Pepper if she got a good kick in to hubs while he was asleep (and SNORING, no less) ...just on general principle! Those drinking dreams are disturbing. These days, if AL is involved, I'm happy to say I am usually NOT drinking it, but I had one more recently where I WAS and it was appalling. I had a big case of the GSR's and it gave me a healthy dose of what I DON'T want to happen.

Oddly enough, I used to be dental hygienist....and I often have dreams of my teeth falling out. I was telling my dentist about it and he said that is a common plague for people with GOOD TEETH! Fear of losing them! So maybe it's a good thing we are having these crazy dreams to keep us honest!
BTW, be sure to floss every day. XXOO, Byrdie

[NoSugar]

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Hi, Peppersnow

Pav posted this link about drinking dreams last night. The writer's was a pretty awful one and not nearly as entertaining as your first one!! I wonder what made you think your husband would just up and sell your house ?

I've had a few of these dreams since I quit and I had similar ones a long time ago when I had to quit eating wheat. I would dream that I ate a cookie or something and wake up so bummed because I knew I was going to feel awful for days and a stupid cookie just wasn't worth it!

This must be a mechanism our subconscious uses to keep us on the right path given what an incredible relief it is to realize that these are dreams! Who would want to live those nightmares???

:imglad: you've still got all your teeth, Byrdie

[Lavande]

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Welcome Soft Focus
Congrats on your 100 AF days!!!!

Drinking dreams seem to be part of the process for I have had my share of them & smoking dreams too - yuck! The further you move away from these nasty addictions the more you have to wonder 'why' did they happen at all? We're all smart, educated folks - not like we didn't know any better. I will not tempt fate or the gods or anyone.....I will not go there again because I'm not sure there is another quit left in me. Much, much better this way

[Myluck]

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Hi all, it is really funny - I recently had a dream too that I was drinking. Woke up mad at myself and was very happy when I realized it was just the dream. I think the fact we dream about it and it actually wakes us up means that AF way of leaving is moved to sub conscience level! That's deep!

[peppersnow]

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Glad to know others have those dreams - the only good thing about them is the relief of waking.

Byrdlady, I also dream of my teeth falling out...they start crumbling one-by-one in my mouth and I start spitting them out. Next to my disaster dreams of armageddon, when my kids and I try to avoid being hit by all the planes falling out of the sky, my teeth falling out were the dreams I hated most. But the drunk dreams are worse, I think, than my mouth full of crumbling teeth.

NS - read that Wordpress piece, and was that ever intense! Not so much the dream but the description of what's inside the mind of an addict. I loved the picture...dead on! :thanks:

[Pavati]

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Hi, All:

Welcome, Pepper!

When I was drinking and would have a big weekend (drinking too much say three nights in a row), I would always have very vivid dreams the night I stopped. CRAZY dreams. My friend later said in college she and her friends called that "The Show" that happened after a big weekend. Weird what we must do to our brains to have that happen.

I have had a few drinking dreams, and they all involved my extreme dread to have to come here and confess to you all. That was the hardest part about it all - I was really good at making up excuses and lies for myself, but I knew none of you would believe them. The power of a sober community...

As for teeth dreams - they are classic. Teeth supposedly represent power and strength so when you have those dreams where they are crumbling or falling out it could mean you feel like you don't have control or power over something in your life. I don't really have those any more, but I have the sister dream of being in school in my underwear trying to teach chemistry (I'm a history teacher), or I am wandering around college campus trying to find my math final that I have to take even though I haven't been to school all semester. I think those are related to power and control as well.

See y'all later.

Pav

[peppersnow]

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Pav - I also have the "forgot to drop my class, never attended once, and now I have to find the room where I take my final" dream as well. Probably once a week, actually - but i also work at a college. And being late for a flight, but I'm too tired to run through the airport and don't know the gate. Either I'm trying to catch a plane, or its falling out of the sky.

Happy weekend and happy dreaming!