100 Day Club members/Maintenance Thread

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I have had a couple of thoughts in previous months but now i have hardly any. i hate al, im a reformed drinker. get me started on al and i am off stating how bad it is, how the laws need to be changed and i am sure i drive others nuts. I think sometimes i am too complacent or its too easy for me but i always check into mwo twice daily, i always read on here, i will talk to my children about it and i have my support at hand. the only major urge i did have was when someone said to me that "they can control my drinking for me". How nice would that have been. At the end of the day i am the only one that holds the control.

[Samstone]

"....You're Legend around here, Byrdlady. We're so lucky to have you in our lives." (quote from NoSugar) NS, I agree wholeheartedly. Thanks for the update TJAF.

No close calls since my first year anni, but there is an occasional latent "gosh it would be nice to have a beer right now." I hear it and no it is NOT happening. Happens when I've physically worked hard and it was my old reward item. "A" beer, yeah, right.

[Byrdlady]

TJAF, If Im ever at a party and see someone's head spinning like the Exorcist, I will strike up a conversation! Who knows, it could be one of us!

I have had THOSE THOUGHTS but push them out immediately. It was my way of coping for so long, there are tendancies there to revert back. I just have too much to lose. Now that I know what NORMAL feels like, Im not willing to give it up. It has taken work sometimes not act on the thoughts, but it has been worth it.

Thank you all so much for your kind words!! They mean the world to me!!! Xxoo, B

[Cherokeer]

Birdie, Congratulations on 4 years. Amazing!!! I do my best to avoid any and all situations where I'll be tempted. It's not fun for me to be with a bunch of drinkers. I'm pretty lame now at parties. I stare at the door until I can bolt. The one or two times in the earlier months I've been tempted I..well I text you Birdie. LOL My granddaughter is due next week so that is my excuse/reason one that I will NOT be a drunk Grandma. I remember as a kid my Great Grandma getting wasted drunk on four roses and my grandmother sitting on her for hours to keep her from killing someone because she was one of the meanest bitches that ever walked the earth. I swore I would never be her or the subsequent 2 generations after that.

[TJAF]

Cherokeer. Parties can still be fun without booze. Dance, tell jokes, work the room, cook, just do what makes you happy. Who says that drunks get to have all the fun.

[GradeT]

Hi lavander and every one!

Have a wonderful AF weekend ! :welldone::welldone:

[Cherokeer]

TJ, I need some new funny friends. Being sober, my friends just aren't that funny. :sad:

[Samstone]

Chero
meander on over to the daily abs thread. There's usually a joke or two over there, Mick has a never ending supply!

[Eloise]

OMG I really thought about drinking this afternoon!!

:hororr:

I even imagined slipping into a bar and ordering a white wine. I saw people drinking in the centre last week and it just looked so inviting.
My hubby is off working and I am home alone. Who would know? I could sober up before he returns and he would be none the wiser, right?

Yikes.
It was fine, I did my errand and then made it home but boy oh boy! This is really the first time since I stopped drinking that I felt a pretty strong tug.
Bubble Hour for me tomorrow guys, that usually helps.

I ate some cookies last night too. We were out of fruit (and was too LAZY to go to the store) and I thought 'it's one night, no biggie.' But I woke up after about an hour and was like 'COOKIES!' The other thing I do is see how many days I can go without going to the store. Will I EVER grow up? Probably not is my guess.
omg.
This sounds ridiculous! Why do I do this?!!!!

I am fine, fruit is stocked up (what a kid I am!).


Just needed to get this off my chest... fine now.

[Eloise]

TJ, I need some new funny friends. Being sober, my friends just aren't that funny. :sad:

Well, shame we don't live in the same country Cherokeer as I manage to keep myself laughing by doing stupid things like locking myself out of the house and then have to make friends (with the receptionist at the nursing home next door) to kill time until my husband gets back. Now that it's winter our stone steps are way to cold to sit on for a couple of hours.

Or, lock the keys in the car for laughs at the dentists office (all the way in Rotterdam). The office ladies say 'oh here she comes again, Calamity Jane, let's see what she is up to today?!' I just managed to catch the mail before my husband found the rescue invoice from the service guy. Good save. Another giggle...
Maybe go take some Dutch classes. You will laugh all the time with how ridiculous you sound!
I am full of good ideas! :hahaha:

[Myluck]

Hi all. I am stopping by. Day 461 for me. More then a year. DH is also still on the track. I feel bad by stopping by so seldom hope everybody doing good. I will try to check in more frequently ☺️

[Cherokeer]

Eloise, I'm so glad you didn't give into temptation. Funny how that bugger will sneak up on you at the weirdest times. I love wine glasses. I've collected them since I was a little girl. Funny since I never drank until I was almost 40 but every now and then there is a TV show where the actors drink red wine out of the most gorgeous large bubble Waterford crystal like wine glasses and it looks fabulous and inviting. Course I just have to pull up one of the (hundreds) of times I've made an ASS of myself after a few glasses (bottles) of red wine and thankfully I get a nauseated with shame. Like you it rarely happens but I'm prepared for the whenever.

It is too bad we don't live in the same country. I've a warped sense of humor and I love to laugh. So things really have to be funny but unlike when your drunk and you think everything is funny there aren't that many funny people. I've decided that I'm going to force my mindset to be happy and positive no matter the external. This last month has been really bad for me. I've been sick, had a lot of migraines, really bad knee pain, back and hip out. I found myself getting really negative. But I am going to change what I can for best and be grateful for all that I can. I've lost 9 pounds this week, I'm wearing my essential oils (Joy) and saying my internal mantra (I am happy, I am grateful). I believe that you can speak things into existence. That intentions are powerful and words have energy.

My mother is hateful, bitter, and downright venomous. I don't want to be her. But it is up to me. Unlike her who believes life happened to her I am an active participant in my life I choose to not be like her. It's funny how (if your not careful) the beliefs, behaviors, and actions of those who raised us can become our own. God help me!!!! Because that woman is nuttier than a bag of hammers. :egad:

[Cherokeer]

Sam, I'm going to definitely pop over there. Thanks!

[Pavati]

Hi, all:

Another milestone - first Byrdie's four years, and now NoSugar's two. Both MWO legends! And if memory serves me correctly, Lav will have a biggie in Feb...

I think it was Scottish Lass who pointed out that it isn't the big events she worries about, but those times when we're not prepared and alcohol just sneaks in.

I wouldn't say I had any close calls per se, but I have had very strong thoughts to take a sip after someone was raving about a champagne or red wine, which weren't even my drinks of choice. I guess I WOULD call that a close call. I also had a very strong thought that I would try moderation (HAH) after my kids were gone to college (six years from now!) with my husband's help. Good thing it was a future plan...

I am terrified of relapse, too, which is why I read so much about it and try to do what I can to prevent it. I could see myself succumbing to complacency after several years - I feel so good... That's why I stay connected here, and will continue to do so.

Happy Monday. Happy sobriety!

Pav

[Eloise]

:allgood:Cherokeer... Have you tried yoga? I cannot rave enough about how just a 1/2 hr a day helps.
All that breathing and stretching really changes my point of view.

So sleepy... Rough days filled with anxiety, not what i need. Yoga, yoga, yoga!

Pav- i am terrified of a relapse too, which is why I plan to continue to stick close here too,