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    #1

    April Mod Squad

    Hey Modders and lurkers,

    I just posted a very honest, soul searching post and the whole thing got wiped out. Don't have the energy to re-invent it so just want to briefly say let's keep coming here to help and support each other in our moderation struggles.

    For the most part, everyone who comes is here is alcohol abuser. Some may be dependent, some may be addicted. The addicted ones will have the greatest struggle trying to moderate. Those of us who are abusers or dependent want to believe we can moderate but it is a continuous struggle and I think, just as abstainers need solid support to stay on the right path, we do too.

    I am going to make it my goal this month to try to post more frequently so that I am self monitoring well and helping others who need my support and that of other members.

    Let's not be April FOOLS! Let's make it a great month!

    :l
    Eve11
    "Control your destiny or somebody else will"

    ~Jack Welsh~:h

    God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me. ~Author unknown, :thumbs:
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    #2
    April Mod Squad

    Hi Eve--no plans to be an April fool here. I wonder if you could re-write your soul searching post in a word document(so you don't lose it)and re-post it for us? When you have time of course. When I'm trying to put articulate my thoughts carefully, I need to do this. Sometimes I do that and then end up not posting at all---not in relation to mods though.

    Start by doing what's necessary, then what's possible and suddenly you are doing the impossible.


    St. Francis of Assisi

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      #3
      April Mod Squad

      Hi RC,
      Just responded to your post on monthly mods which is a very inspiring thread with lots of good activity.

      Yes, for long posts, a person should always consider a word document and then just cut and paste. I think what happens for me sometimes, is I don't realize it is going to be as wordy as it ends up being. I guess I wasn't signed in and it wouldn't post my work and then when I signed in it wiped my work out.
      Sigh... oh well. Another time.

      Well, here's to a successful April and hope we get a lot of people sharing and supporting each other.
      :l
      Eve11
      "Control your destiny or somebody else will"

      ~Jack Welsh~:h

      God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me. ~Author unknown, :thumbs:

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        #4
        April Mod Squad

        Hiya Eve, RC and KG ( pre-empting your post : ),
        Has been a wee while since my last post. I have moved from one end of the UK to the other. From South to North. So I am in a place ( Scotland ) where I have always found that people often regard alcoholism or rather lets say ' excessive daily drinking' as relatively normal ( people seem to just let drunks be ) in small towns and the only thing to do ( Bless em ). I got caught up in this a few years back and had it in my head that partying and drinking many pints each evening was a perfectly acceptable way to spend my time. Not this time. Much has changed since then. It may very well be an accepted pastime for some but I have moved on.
        I have been drunk once since I returned to the world of alcohol consumption on Feb 25th.
        I was not happy with the slip but it was not the end of the world. I am choosing my drinking situations more wisely. Eg: Not attending 'risky' or 'trigger' events. I am choosing my beverages with much more thought. I used to like a pint of the cheapest lager. I now tend to drink belgium beers and treat myself to the good wine in a bar- not the house wine which is often rather..ick. If I order a drink and do not like the taste or realise I am not in the mood, I will not drink it. I will either order something else alcoholic or an AF bevie.
        I say all this because I used to drink cheap and nasty beer by the gallon and would have drank anything really as long as it got me drunk. I am not out of the woods but I have changed. I am not at all completely clear of that subconscious fear that I will get drunk again but in more and more situations I can feel confident that I won't get drunk.
        I have said this before: This is a miracle.
        We- Humans are very sophisticated machines capable of incredible things, one of which is our power to adapt - change - evolve - evolution!!
        Evolution does not come about because people sit on their bums wishing for change. Action needs to take place. Concrete tangible action.
        Not sure where that was going but gotta get it out to know what it means.
        Happy April All.....
        My plan is to get out into the hill in my new walking boots.
        Get a good 8 hours sleep a night.
        Be good to myself.
        Keep posting.
        Save money!!
        Drink Tracker.
        SJ xxx
        I am Perfectly Imperfect!

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          #5
          April Mod Squad

          Hi Eve, RC and Gidget,

          Yes April will be a fabulous month for us in regards to taking control of our addictions. I am succeeding with AL and have started ( again for the umpteenth time!) to exercise and eat healthily. The sun is out and i got to look good in my summer clothes again. Chocolate, cakes and savories is the next addiction that I shall be battling with.
          Be strong-
          We define ourselves by the best that is in us, not the worse that has been done to us.
          Be constructive. Clear the word of CAN'T

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            #6
            April Mod Squad

            Hi all,

            I think for those of us modding and feeling somewhat successful, we can see changes when we think about it. For example, I would ALWAYS have champagne whenever I went to or hosted brunch. Had a lovely brunch a couple weeks ago and thought to myself, "Why would I want to drink champagne at 11:00 in the morning! It would just make me want to go back to bed!" And so I didn't.

            Gidget,
            What you wrote about the community (most everyone drinks) made me realize that friends in my life have changed too. I am no longer friends with the mom who wanted 2-3 glasses of wine at lunch! I would have 1 to her two, and foolishly had 2 one time. I was a bit tipsy when I had to get my boys from school and vowed "never again!" and I haven't!

            Yes, there is growth, and there is progress. Let's make April a great month!
            :l
            Eve11
            "Control your destiny or somebody else will"

            ~Jack Welsh~:h

            God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me. ~Author unknown, :thumbs:

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              #7
              April Mod Squad

              Hi guys AL consumption still in control here. Sounds like everyone is doing well. xo

              Start by doing what's necessary, then what's possible and suddenly you are doing the impossible.


              St. Francis of Assisi

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                #8
                April Mod Squad

                I'm thinking of joining this thread. I've been modding pretty successfully for 2 months. I've been extremely strict with myself, although I have not found it difficult as I had prior to 6 months abs. Ill post more when im at home. Its a little hard to do on phone! Looking forward to building a strong mod group!
                Sometimes what you're most afraid of doing is the very thing that will set you free.

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                  #9
                  April Mod Squad

                  Hello all,

                  Gidget I related to your post alot. I use to drink cheap wine because I just cared about getting drunk. Not anymore though. Since my abstinence I learnt that I can deal with life without needing to drink on every mood I was feeling. I think the AF months really quashed alot of bad habits in regards to my drinking.

                  It's been a good three months that I am drinking in very healthy quantities! I now go to the pub to socialise. I drink a small glass of wine on the hour. It was odd to drink this way but the more i practise the more natural it's becoming.

                  What about you guys?
                  Be strong-
                  We define ourselves by the best that is in us, not the worse that has been done to us.
                  Be constructive. Clear the word of CAN'T

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                    #10
                    April Mod Squad

                    Just wanted to let you know my drinking history.

                    I drank very heavily for 15 years. I drank about a bottle of cava a day and binge drank on the weekend. I suffered from a hangover EVERY sunday and I blacked out at least once a month. I have scars and burns on my arms from drinking and cooking, running etc.I drank first thing sunday morning and throughout the day. I went to AA meetings a while back and tried moderating then.I was classified as a functioning alcoholic. I would manage three AF days but then drank the missing units desparately for the rest of the week.

                    I drank that way for about another year and it wasnt until I stopped drinking for a good four to five months that I resolved my drink problem. I really dont know why it's posssible for me to moderate...it's a mystery to me. But I am grateful because i know that many cant. But some people can. Moderation is possible for some people.
                    Be strong-
                    We define ourselves by the best that is in us, not the worse that has been done to us.
                    Be constructive. Clear the word of CAN'T

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                      #11
                      April Mod Squad

                      Hi everyone,
                      I'm going to give you some background on myself like Rebirth did. My drinking got really bad about 7 years ago. I would always binge on the weekends, and although I didn't drink everyday, there were many times where I would drink 4-5 days a week, but always more on the weekends.

                      When I came to MWO, I lurked for about a year. Then the following Sept. I decided to go AF and did that for 60 days or so. I decided to give modding a go, but didn't realize that with modding, it can be easy to slip into bad habits, which I did. Last August, I started attending AA. I went to about 3-4 meetings per week. I learned a lot from my experience. I learned how to live life without drowning myself in booze! It was very beneficial to me, the time away from al, learning that the small things in life can be enjoyed without drinking, building my confidence, and so many other good things. I decided to leave AA because of some issues I had with the philosophy of the program. I found myself getting frustrated with these ideas that had no flexibility.

                      After leaving AA, I ordered the "Responsible Drinking" book through Moderation Management. I've read this book and used the tools in it. I can say that the 6 months that I was AF was extremely necessary in being able to moderate. I think Rebirth has said that during that time, you lose your compulsion to drink, the obsessive thoughts, and that's true. The tips in the book have helped me stay on track, and I'll continue to be extremely aware that if I don't, I could slip back into very bad habits.

                      I believe that addictions can be cured for some, but I also believe that I never will be a "normie." I must be very aware of my actions and choices. For the last couple of months, I've created my own "program." I do something daily, whether it's reading or watching a program related to addictions or alcohol, or lurking here to keep myself from slipping back into the lifestyle that hindered my health and productive way that I want to live my life.

                      I look forward talking with you all!
                      Sometimes what you're most afraid of doing is the very thing that will set you free.

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                        #12
                        April Mod Squad

                        Hi j-vo
                        We have so much in common! I also read the same book and there are some wonderful tips! The one drink and hour really works for me! It helps me to curb my desire to drink quickly. Infact I was really surprised at how one drink was actuelly enough to make me feel mellow and relaxed. I use to be too busy trying to drink alot and I never waited to see how the AL affected my body!

                        My tools is being on this site, reading up on AL addiction, exercising, eating healthily and ALWAYS aware that I will never be a normal drinker.
                        x
                        Be strong-
                        We define ourselves by the best that is in us, not the worse that has been done to us.
                        Be constructive. Clear the word of CAN'T

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                          #13
                          April Mod Squad

                          Giget, what you say is very profound!

                          We- Humans are very sophisticated machines capable of incredible things, one of which is our power to adapt - change - evolve - evolution!!
                          Evolution does not come about because people sit on their bums wishing for change. Action needs to take place. Concrete tangible action.

                          This is one of my reasons for having left AA, because I felt I was capable of more than the Big Book telling me that I had--that I had more control of my choices than I was being led to believe, that I had some power. I also believe that in order to change, it takes work, and that we can move on from difficulties in our lives. They don't have to be permanent, unless of course, we continue the same behaviors and make the same choices.

                          Hope everyone has a great night!
                          Sometimes what you're most afraid of doing is the very thing that will set you free.

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                            #14
                            April Mod Squad

                            Great posts!
                            Be strong-
                            We define ourselves by the best that is in us, not the worse that has been done to us.
                            Be constructive. Clear the word of CAN'T

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                              #15
                              April Mod Squad

                              Hi everyone! I would love to join this thread!! Hi rebirth and J-vo! I remember you guys from the AA thread... I too am going to try and moderate , I was AF for 9 months but have decided that after that long reflection and work in AA that I will keep vigilant and watchful as I moderate. I have a plan to keep my drinks to 7 a week at the most and to be very mindful. I am glad to read your posts of hope.

                              Cher
                              May our choices today not result in regret, but rather be wise

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