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[jennyneric]

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Hey everyone, I have been off the boards for a while trying to decide what I wanted to do...abstain or mod...I don't know if I really believe in modding or that it truly can work longterm. I think I may just be waiting to mess up but I hope not.

Here is my plan. I have been AF several times this year for 30-50 days at a time. The last month or so I have only drank on Friday. My plan it that I will only drink 6 oz of vodka on Friday night between 7-11pm. Never drink in public, never go for happy hour. When I drink with anyone, except my husband, I drink too much too fast and then everything goes to crap from there. So I only drink on Fridays at my house and only 6 oz. I know this is strict but it's really all I need to avoid the bad things about AL and enjoy the good. Thank you for listening and for everyone's support over these many months on MWO.

[rebirth]

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Hi jennneric. Welcome!

If this plan is what you think keeps you balanced then it's an EXCELLENT plan! x

So it's my saturday night and i usually have my four glasses but I have a long drive to London tomorrow so i dont want to feel too tired. Think I will have less.

[letgolaughing]

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hi everyone
rebirth, i don't know you well, but followed your story here, i didn't want to chime in because like i said i felt i didn't know you well enough, but i feel like you have made a good decision and you now have a fresh start!

lila-i'm a worrying to. what if what if what if. my therapist has been pushing meditation on me as well. i've tried it a couple of times and liked it. i just keep forgetting to do it! LOL

so, i've been doing well, with my M-Th AF and no more than 3 on the weekends. however, this week, i could not wait for Friday! geez. then i really wanted a drink. so, i'm hoping that the more i do it the better it will get, but if not, i could see me easily overdoing it on friday nights because i am so ready for a drink that night!

when i was having wine every night, i didn't have that feeling come friday. i 'm still a work in progress i guess.

[ToMyHealth]

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Hello all. Welcome Jenneric. Period of 4 hrs once/week is strict. Good for you! Hope to hear from you more frequently than that.

Rebirth - you held out until Friday, so you had an extra glass, at least you stuck to your moderation plan. If you're like I am, alcohol makes one tired the next day so if you have that long drive you are wise not to at least have as much as usual. Could equate golf with meditating - everytime I really look around and appreciate the lush tropical bright green of trees, grass and the beautiful blue sky with fluffy cumulus clouds.

LGL - boy, do I identify with what you're saying! It's like we're little kids, yippee, it's Friday, I can drink!!! You're certainly not alone - we are all a work in progress.

We did the Friday night Happy Hour, dinner. Had 4 gl of chardonnay. I, too, want to make that 2-3, no more. Have to be cognizant of that. Plan to be AF today as we're playing golf tomorrow and I just never realized how much energy golf takes being relatively new to this game.

TMH

[Lila]

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welcome Jenneric!
LGL, I forgot all about the meditation thing, but after all this happened, when I went right into a panic/depression mode out of almost nowhere, well, I am thinking maybe meditation would be good!
TMH, I think there is a lot of meditation in being around nature. I get so much peace from being outside, so I can really see that.
Rebirth, so proud of you! This can't be easy, but you are not letting this de-rail you!
have a great Saturday night everyone!
L

[Lila]

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the kids are at their dad's. finally! Having a celebratory few glasses of cab, watching my favorite show on Amazon video. Still, I am planning the AF September that 4me talked about.

[4me]

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Hi all, just checking in before bed. I have been to busy to post. I will try and catch up with everyone tomorrow.

Lila, I leave for MT next Sat. Plan to start my 30 day AF when I get back, so it will be a bit into Sept. before I start.

[ToMyHealth]

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Check in during middle of night - no wine tonight so awake. Yesterday was a good workout day and today was golf & biking. Think it helps to be very hungry when dinner time rolls around - more interested in eating than drinking.

4me, Lila, I've been contemplating the 30 day AF whether all of Sept or upon your return, 4me. Things are going pretty well; loved fact dh made comment "I think you're on to something with buying the smaller bottles of wine". We can have a dozen but there's just something about opening that 2nd one that hasn't been happening. We always bought the large because of price difference, at least where we used to live. We have found a shop that carries our favorite in small bottles for almost half the large. Much better for our bodies & brains - 2.5 glasses each. So obviously, I like the success of that. Doesn't sound like I'm ready, does it? 3 days to decide.

Rebirth - been thinking about you. You too, LGL, and Jenneric. How did your weekends go?

TMH

[Lila]

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I am not sure either what I want to do...

[4me]

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Hi Jennerick, :welcome: Sounds like you have a plan and are off to a good start.

Lila and TMH, I love the idea of doing AF as a team! We should pick a day to start and keep each other motivated. The newbies nest is a great place to get support as well. I get back from MT on the 10th. I need to get settled back into work, so I am thinking on the 12th. Who says it has to be on the 1st. 30 days is 30 days. I am keeping to my plan staying AF through the week. I did have a few slip ups, which I hate, but for the most part have been on track.

LGL, your doing great. I think meditation is a great idea. It's hard to fit in all of the good stuff we should do for ourselves.

Rebirth, hope all is well with you!

Good night all!

[ToMyHealth]

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Very slow here. Eve never really got back on board and Rebirth probably feels she has more pressing issues. I think Jenneric decided to go AF and, if so, good for her. Haven't seen Bean and LGL is having good weeks.

4me - Love that you have a 30 day plan. And agree, 30 days is 30 days, does not have to be from the first, just as all diets don't have to start on Monday! If you have read this moderation thread for a few months, you will note that I'm the oddball that has sleep issues after AF days. So like I say, I'm still contemplating such.

Lila - what is making you unsure? It's certainly ok, just wondering.

TMH

[Lila]

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TMH, I am not sure! Maybe I will miss my glass of wine! But going all together sounds fun. 4me, good that gives me time to think a bit.
It is slow around here, I felt like I was talking to myself. I hope the others check in, come on guys!

[4me]

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Lila and TMH, we can do this! I am here! Talk to me. I am freaking out too. You know what is so weird, so many people here hooked on wine. I am sure you have both looked in at the newbies nest. If we spend our spare time there, I know we can do it!

[rebirth]

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Hi guys!

Sorry for not posting but I started a thread in the genral discussion and have been posting there. I have been feeling very sorry for myself lately.

But just to say that this is the first breakup that I have not drank myself stupid. I am still sticking to my AF week days and moderating on the weekends. It's possible!

[Lila]

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rebirth, it is hard to go through a breakup! but you were strong. you kept your boundaries and are not drinking.
are things getting easier or are you still feeling bad?