November Mod Squad

[Eve11]

November Mod Squad

MM,
When holiday drinking (and excuses for drinking because it's the holidays) become the focus and not quality time with loved ones then it makes for somewhat sad memories. My one son is a great dancer and the last wedding we attended was not the best memory for me as I got too tipsy and didn't want to embarrass myself so I quit drinking and went to the room early. So, I missed a lot of fun and missed getting to see him do his great dancing and showmanship on the dance floor because those few glasses of wine took priority. I really need to not drink at all at these types of occasions too or delay when I start so I only end up with my limit of two by the end of the night. I will struggle today as one relative drinks a lot and once the wine bottle is open I seem to have a headset it should be all drunk by evening's end. I will post my success tomorrow to help keep me strong today.
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Eve11

[RingingCedars]

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Eve11;1213813 wrote: Hey mighty mite and welcome. Yes, the mod board is a lot more quiet than the AF board as people on AF boards are working daily to not have that first drink. Most modders are not physically addicted to alcohol so the daily struggle not to drink doesn't drive us to the board for assistance as often. However, like you, many of us have a faulty turn off valve. Works sometimes, doesn't other times. We probably will all admit we have a problem with drinking because people without problems don't seek help. However, the world of recovery has been all about ALL or NOTHING for a long time and we do believe there are "some" people who can learn to moderate or have successful harm reduction in their lives. Some come here hoping they can, find they can't, and eventually share they are moving on to the AF world. I am sure some of the AFers who lurk at our site think many of the modders are deluding themselves, but some may think a few actually can moderate with success. Only each individual knows if it is really working for them or not. Moderating is not easy as stated earlier, we all have a problem with drinking or we wouldn't be here. There is the price to pay of counting, wondering, failing sometimes, and questioning if we can really do it. Some feel all of that work just isn't worth it and they happily move on into the AF world. Keep posting here and we'll keep posting back although it may not be daily or as much support as an AF site would give you. Keep in mind that as names get familiar to you, everyone would welcome and respond immediately to a personal message. Just click on the person's name and a drop down box gives you the message to send a private email (as long as they don't have it blocked in their privacy setting). Good luck and we look foward to getting to know more about you.
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Eve11

Good post Eve. I might add that problem drinking may not be the problem so much as a problem with handling what life hands us sometimes. Drinking is just an easy access "remedy" that can easily get out of hand.

Hope everyone maintains their goals tonight.

Also wanted to add I have that finish the bottle once it's opened issue. If they made a smaller bottle, that would suit me just fine. So, although not very economical I've been pouring one large glass out of the bottle the past few weeks and you know what? I'm thinking two might be next.

[Eve11]

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RC,
Thanks for the reply. Well, last night, somehow I turned into a normal drinker for the night. Company came and I had an Arnold Palmer (lemonade and ice tea mix). Actually felt like it didn't matter if the bottle of white got opened or not. Had one glass of wine with the dinner and then after doing dishes, looking at photo album pix, and watching a quick positive show on t.v. we all wanted to see, had my second and last glass as we all sat around and talked. Took the air out of the bottle (special device we have), corked that baby, and put it back in the fridge. I kept thinking it would be nice if I wanted a glass tonight and could have one rather than drink the whole thing last night. Somehow the craving that I usually have, or the desire to finish off that bottle just wasn't there. It was interesting to be given the opportunity to see what a normal drinker feels like when there isn't that craving or desire for more. Can't say why that happened, being given a glimpse of what normal drinkers feel like. To just be able to take it or leave it, have one and stop and be fine. Can't even pat myself on the back because it wasn't me doing anything special. It was just a gift given that allowed me to see and feel the normal drinker's world. To not have that struggle, craving, etc. Was interesting to contemplate how we are all given different challenges in life. Now, take me to Vegas and I am more interested in the shows and what the hotels look like than gambling. Take me to dinner and I rarely order dessert. But open that bottle of wine and usually...:-( s-t-r-u-g-g-l-e.
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Eve11

[Lila]

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hi all
rc, whatever works! and it is not wasting anything, really, about pouring out a big glass.
eve, have you tried the hypnotherapy? it is helping me, but i may be very suggestible!
suddenly what used to be normal for me seems like wayyy too much. well, my guests are gone, dishwasher is running for the 1000th time, will have to run the vacuum soon.
i am NOT shopping, i never do on black friday.
hope everyone is calm and peaceful today, safe driving, etc.
L

[ToMyHealth]

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Thanksgiving got a little away from us. We were doing fine until got spotted by friends' kids who insisted we stop by their house. This young man went right to the wine cooler & opened up a bottle of chardonnay and started pouring. Had fun, great spontaneity, however, paid for it today. Hanging out at home tonite drinking nonalcoholic drinks & toasting to our "recovery".

Anybody know what's good on tv on Fri nites? LOL

TMH

[mightymite]

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Hi TMH, Lila, RC, Eve and everyone else I may have missed,
Boy am I exhausted. My company finally left this morning. Well, almost. Our two sons are still here and will leave tomorrow. I had to laugh Lila when you said the dishwasher had been run 1000 times. Here too. I am so sick and tired of cooking I told my husband the kitchen is closed tonight. Pizza it is. House is almost put back together and will be done after the boys leave tomorrow.
I have to say I am quite proud of myself. I stuck to my goal of not drinking on Thanksgiving. I didn't miss it at all and no one even noticed. I was so busy throughout the day and evening it wasn't even a big deal. Now I will have some this afternoon. I am done with the house for now and it is a beautiful day and I want to sit down with a glass or two. Probably two. But I am happy I went a Thanksgiving without wine. It has been many, many years since that happened.
I hope everyone is doing well and sticking to their goals.
MM

[Lila]

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hi modders
glad everyone sounds good and in control.
i was doing so well, and then last night i accidentally drank more than i should have. i never feel ashamed but today i do. i am not sick or anything, just surprised. i haven't been taking my supps or listening to the cds. well, today is another day. sigh!
L

[ToMyHealth]

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(((hugs))) Lila, been there done that! Was good yest; had 1 gl of wine while preparing dinner and 1 gl of wine during dinner. Plan is to be AF today - going to play golf with same friends we were with on Thanksgiving so might be a bit of a challenge. I need to make my decisions and stick to them!

TMH

[Lila]

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thank you, TMH! ugh! a bottle of wine on my counter with about 2 inches left in. I can't believe it!
what is working best for you, as far as modding goes?

[mightymite]

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Hey Lila,
I know you were asking TMH, but thought I'd pop in. I have made the decision to not drink in social situations. That is my downfall. I think you have to pinpoint your triggers and address them accordingly. If your time to drink is while you are making dinner for example, then make yourself a really nice af drink in a fancy glass with lime or lemons or something. Also, make sure you have your tools set and in place. When the urge comes, do something. Get up and go for a walk, eat something or have a big glass of water. It is different for all of us but you have to find what works for you. Plus, just telling myself what my goals are really helps. I hate disappointing myself and others. Make yourself accountable in some way. Hope this helps you.

[Lila]

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mighty mite, that makes a lot of sense, thanks, today is a new day!

[Lila]

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hi all, quiet here today!
i listened to the hypno cd this morning. it really got me very relaxed. the other time i used it i fell asleep.
nothing exciting to share, but i feel like i am back on track.

[mightymite]

November Mod Squad

Evenin' everyone,
Just checking in tonight. I'm keeping to my goals and have found that since I am modding, I don't feel so consumed with the thoughts of al. Has anyone else felt that way?
Well, off to the gym. I have 5lbs. that I just cannot get off. Even when I had gone 22 days af, I still could not lose weight. And I work out every day! Maybe it's old age. :upset:
Have a good night everyone and best of luck sticking to your goals.

[crocus]

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Modded over Thanksgiving

Hi Guys. Well, last post I was deciding about whether or not to drink over Thanksgiving. I decided to try it. I had done 29 days AF and felt great. I found that modding was pretty easy. I had a great time with my whole family and friends, (I cooked for 12). Wine and champagne were the drinks of the day, so I just mixed mine with 3/4 cider or orangina soda and was perfectly happy. No hangovers, and fully in control. Then, over Friday thru Monday, AF easily. One drink Tuesday evening after work, and AF now until Friday. I'm figuring to stay within the 7 drink a week that is considered safe for women. How did you guys do over the holiday?

[mightymite]

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Way to go Crocus sticking with your plan. You did a great job. I did not drink on Thanksgiving because that is my goal. I cannot drink in social situations and I wanted to get dinner on the table hot, not burned and on time. :H I had a great day and it was very easy not drinking. I was so busy I didn't even miss it. Plus I was able to spend quality time with my nieces and nephews. But I am having my Chardonnay at home with my hubby while he has a couple of beers. I only want to drink on Sat. and Sun and no more than 3 glasses each day or less. I have been able to keep to my plan. I have found that since I chose to mod I am not as obsessed with al. How about you?