August Mod Squad

[LibraryGirl]

August Mod Squad

I did have subway. I had a turkey on Italian with avocado. MMMmm. Gone now, hee hee. Time to make dinner. Btw, I am not like you two. I like something different every day.

Another AF day for me. Having some coffee with Italian cream right now. Will probably get 4+ AF days this week. Long way from 7 days a week, I think. I remember thinking, How did I ever just drink one or two days a week?! Now, I'm back to it, and really pleased that it's doable and not difficult for me now.

[Cashregister]

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Still here just have a lot on my plate at the moment with dad having surgery today and life in general is high paced at the moment. I think I'm on day 11 - too busy to count. I'm still reading though
Cashy xx

[vlivengood]

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Cash: hope all goes well with your fathers surgery, and congrats on day 11!!!!!

LG I love avocado but have a very slight allergy to it, sometimes I say F#%K it and eat it any way!!!! Doing well on the AF days I can't seem to get more than one under my belt but I think it's honestly because I just don't want to right now..... I am very proud of all the liquor free days I have under my belt though!

D: u are making me hungry again!!!!!!

Read for an hour now watching some old Alley McBeal.... Ha! Just having water for now but may have a few beers once hubby gets home around 6:30....

Hope everyone has a peaceful moderate or AF Tuesday Night!

[LibraryGirl]

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Tried rearranging the living room tonight, briefly. Moved the sofa around, and I hate it. Now everything looks cluttered on one side. Bf has his lazy boy chair right smack dab in the middle of the living room in front of the tv, so he can play his games. It annoys the crap out of me. I see so much that needs cleaning and changing in this house, and it is overwhelming. Not to mention there is still a freakin TREE on our back deck from where it fell a few weeks ago in a storm. Insurance won't pay because my deductible is way too high, and paying for it out of pocket is a huge strain as well...ugh, hate when I start thinking of everything I need to do, then just want to hide because it seems like too much. Ever have those thoughts? Meh, it's just me probably.

[vlivengood]

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All the F'n time LG..... This was supposed to be our starter house until economy tanked been here 10 years now so many issues to deal with I usually say F' it instead!!!!

It's soooo easy to drown ourselves it miserable thoughts and pile it on and on like we deserve it or something......

Pick small things u know u can conquer at a time and make a plan for the tree removal either save for it or whittle away at it a lil bit each night LOL sorry made me laugh.....

Hope u are able to flip the script in your head and find something positive to dwell on instead

[LibraryGirl]

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I did, I said f'k it too and played a game on the pooter. Now it's time for bed, and I didn't get to watch the show I wanted to on Netflix. Wanted bf to watch it with me, but TW13 is too enticing apparently. Oh well, it will still be there when we have time.

Gonna go see if I can unwind and get some rest. Thanks V.

[Cashregister]

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This is a laugh - this is What I did last weekend - now I'm paying for it
Hyperbole and a Half: This is Why I'll Never be an Adult
Hope you enjoy it!!

[vlivengood]

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Happy Hump Day fellow Modders:

Cash, that was pretty funny, thanks for sharing......

Well my night went down hill had 2 separate work issues that were causing me a ton of stress... then some family stress about getting my son up to college in 2 weeks, so I wound up having almost 6 beers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Whoops, went to bed by 10:30 and woke up with a slight headache and definitely not feeling top of my game.... nothing like the old days with the liquor but still not a good call on my part..... So I think I will make today an AF day

Hope everyone else is off to a good day

[LibraryGirl]

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Hey you good people. Home early today because I left work this morning to go and stay with my mother. She had to go to the emergency room last night, and I didn't find out until I got to work. So, I spent almost all day with her and I think she is doing ok. She has bronchitis and is very congested, which is why my brother thought she needed to go to the hospital last night. She was in pretty good spirits while I was there, but not much appetite and, of course, coughing a lot.

V, sorry you overdid it. I had more than that Sat. night, lol. Although I didn't have to get up early, thank goodness. Well, maybe an AF day will do you good. I'm on day 4 AF. Thought hard about buying some beers or wine on my way home, but rejected the idea. Work comes early.

Hope you all are doing well. Thanks for sharing the link, Cashy. I enjoyed it, and I love her blogs. I was surprised to find out she's only 25 yo. Very bright young woman. I understand she's been going through some depression and hasn't blogged much lately...Hopefully, she will be back soon.

Will be back lata!

LG

[DfromCT]

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Hi, All,

Sorry for the absence most of the day today. Busy as can be at work, and my wife and I are stressing out on each other a bit. Ok, a lot!

It seems like what ever I do or say, if it's not in exact agreement with what my wife is doing, she thinks I'm being judgemental. We're both short on sleep, and I'm probably a little snappy with continued alcohol withdrawals, but it's really tough. Forget about suggesting hormones or her sleep deprivation are contributing factors, big mistake! I feel like I'm doing as much as I can, last night taking the 12:30 AM feeding, which stretched until close to 1:30, didn't get to sleep until after 2:30, and was exhausted after getting to the office for a 7:45 call this morning. Despite making dinner and taking the midnight feeding I awoke to getting blasted for suggesting that the babies might have been cranky last night because they ate too much yesterday. Ok, maybe I was wrong, but last night was their first REALLY cranky night, and I was just looking at what was different, not criticizing her. We also disagree about using the portable rocking cradles, which I feel shouldn't be used overnight when the person watching the babies is sleeping (SIDS risk), but they cry and don't settle back to sleep as quickly lying flat in their crib with the firm mattress, which is what the AAP recommends.

Anyway, work sucked today, probably because I don't feel like I got too much done, and was tired all day, and my wife kept emailing me continuing the argument. That's not like her, she's usually all about serenity and calmness, but each time she called or emailed, it just kept the arguement going further, and really makes me feel less like we're a team. We'll probably have to have a session with our therapist, which we haven't needed in months....

Anyway, I got home and my daughter came over for dinner and we took the boys into the living room and sent my wife and MIL to bed. The boys are starting to stir, though the one that should be feeding at 9:45 is waking first (I think he's got a poopy diaper, oh joy!) and I'm solo here letting the wife sleep until after the midnight feeding, when we'll trade places and she'll move to the couch in the nursery and I'll go to bed.

Sorry for the rant, I'll check in a bit later after the boys are fed, changed and settled. Hope everyone had a great day.
Dave

[FarfallaP]

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twins!

Hi All!

I have not been posting much, as I've not had much to say.

However, I do want to join the rest of the gang in saying Congratulations to Dave on both his AF achievement AND on the safe arrival of the twins!

I have been sending you good thoughts in a special way, Dave, as I share with your mother and MIL the privilege of being the grandmother of twins, too. My co-grandmother and I also went to be with our children when the twins came home from the hospital.

We were both HONORED to be included in this very special time in the life of a young family and NERVOUS at the responsibility of helping to care for such fragile little ones. In spite of the fact that there were four of us adults, we ALL felt sleep-deprived at some point or another.

I was always chilly, the other grandma was always hot; it seemed as though things were always changing, we couldn't even get the household chores, cooking, laundry, etc., done just "right." Everyone was a bit uncomfortable a lot of the time! (Plus, we each have opinions about child rearing, and sometimes it's hard to know when to speak up and when it really a) doesn't matter and b) is not our place....)

But, we all muddled through, and with every passing day that the babies got bigger and stronger, things began to settle down...and it got to be both calmer and a lot more fun.

How grand that you have your daughter with you, so that she is reminded of her special place in your heart even while she's sharing your love with her new little brothers.

And, again, my congratulations on keeping your "cool" and your AF/moderation plan in place...this is definitely a time when keeping one's wits about one is necessary, at all hours! Good luck! FF

[LibraryGirl]

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A quick hello, and I will check back later. Hi FF, glad to see you! D, hang in there, I will reply longer to you, later.

Have a great morning everyone!

[LibraryGirl]

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Ok back, and no new posts since my last one. Where's V?

D, I just wanted to comment on your situation. I find it remarkable that you and your wife are able to just get through the day (and night) and take care of two newborn infants at the same time! Who in the world would not be stressing out? Your wife may indeed have some hormone issues, as do probably all women after giving birth, but she is also sleep-deprived, anxious and everything else that comes with having a new baby (babies!). My sister suffered severe depression after she gave birth to triplets (27 years ago), and has been on AD's every since.

This is a tough time for both of you, even though it is joyous as well. I guess you have to give your wife all the slack that you can, get as much rest as you can, and hang in there. It will be sooooooo worth it!:l Also, keep posting about your frustrations and doubts, and anything else you need to talk about, because I've found it helps keep you sane. If you need or want to talk privately, my PM box is always open.

LG

[vlivengood]

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I'm here, spent all last night talking to my sis in California, she is not doing real well so I am leaving to go see her for the weekend after work today, so last night I was talking with her and trying to spend time with Hubby seeing as I wont see him for a few days. Got a ton to do at work, so I can be out tomorrow without to many repercussions....

If I find some time this afternoon before I go, I'll write more..... I do mange to read everything and will chime in with my 2 cents as soon as I can...

In the meantime hope everyone has a great Thursday

[shueaddict]

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DfromCT – I feel for you, man. I was like your wife … .

The first few months are TOUGH!!! Motherhood really put pressure on my absolutely perfect and loving relationship with my hubby. Most of the things hubby said irritated the crap out of me. Most of the things he did I viewed with suspicion or exasperation (duh, that’s the least you can do, I gave birth, remember?!) . Be ready for more fights over what is the correct angle to keep the bottle at and how the babies should be burped, yada yada… When he said something about having a tummy ache himself I snapped “speak to me after you had a C section!!!”… and no, I had no postnatal depression and I am not a mean bitch by nature … I was a quick healer too but none of that mattered.

When my baby reached 3 months I said “stuff this !!!“, got a full time nanny and went back to work. ONLY THEN I started to have some sympathy for poor hubby – when I had to do breakfast meetings myself after nights of spending forever putting the baby back to sleep. Young babies and demanding jobs are not an easy mix. I had to experience that myself before starting to feel sorry for the millions of hard working dads out there, who feel unappreciated, misunderstood and taken for granted.

Do not even try to get sympathy from your wife over any difficulty you might encounter trying to stay sober. In fact, don’t try to look for ANY sympathy. In her eyes she made the ultimate sacrifice, nothing you do can come close to giving life. Vent and look for support here or seek your friends!

The good news is that all passes … you get used to it, babies grow quickly, they adjust and become easier to look after. I have yet to encounter a couple that “got along really well” right after having a baby. It DOES get better later and we choose to forget all the difficult moments and focus on the wonder of seeing our kids grow.

And the only piece of practical advice – swaddle the babies, put them on their side and wedge their back against a rolled towel (or special cot wedge) – babies wake themselves up when they flap their arms and legs.

You are a blessed man, cut your wife some slack (use the “ignore” feature when she says something hurtful), you will both get over the shock of looking after twin babies and life will be wonderful, no need to pre-book the therapy session yet !

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