modders Sun - Fri AF

[drinkingal]

modders Sun - Fri AF

D :H, how about

To try to turn the tally to a table takes too many twists and turns

Try saying that 5 times!

[FarfallaP]

modders Sun - Fri AF

Hi guys,

V,I hope your new pup comes to you soon...
DG, I hope YOUR pup's eyesight is going to be ok...worrisome..
Family reunion happening at the moment, not an AF Thursday for me...at least, somewhat lo-cal, as too much to do, too little time! FF

[vlivengood]

modders Sun - Fri AF

Hope you are having fun FF

I AM HAVING A FABULOUS EVENING!

Hubby has Fridays off so I don't have to make lunch and set up his breakfast and also decided to go get subway so no cooking.... Weather today was cloudy damp cool and wet which is a treat in Vegas..... Came home opened windows, lit candles, got in sweats and curled up on couch with hubby, kitties and Survivor...... Took a break from TV for Crazy massive 10m T-storm with loud crackeling thunder and lighting illuminating sky for miles and enough rain to row a boat down our street we sat on porch and watched it all!

Thought for a minute man a cold beer would be nice but then thought how nice is this that I soo happy and content and AF!

4 days this week for me......!

Hope everyone else is having a nice evening as well!

[Eve11]

modders Sun - Fri AF

Hi all,
Thought I'd post in the AF site here as I am AF tonight and was last night and the night before and the night before...

Actually I find that I don't have time to drink on weeknights. For me, drinking is done in a relaxing environment like dinner at a restaurant or socializing with friends. With my teens at home I don't like to give the impression that drinking nightly is a good thing so I generally don't have anything at home in front of them, only if someone is over for dinner and we're having wine with dinner.

I've seen a lot of changes since I started serious moderating. Used to use going out to lunch as an excuse to have a glass of wine. Now I never do that and order lemonade or ice tea. Used to use the excuse of spaghetti dinner had to be served with a glass of red wine, now it's cranberry and seltzer (still red :H though!). So, lots of improvement.

However, as a moderator, I still absolutely enjoy my date night out where I enjoy a glass or two of a fine wine with dinner or with an appetizer. I no longer give myself permission for 3 in a night however, and limit it to 2. Usually it's an enjoyable evening but every once in awhile there's the craving to have "just one more". That's when I feel grateful to have you, my mod squad buddies around.

Night all! *see* you tomorrow!
:l
Eve11

[LibraryGirl]

modders Sun - Fri AF

Good morning. I'm so glad you had a good evening V. It sounds lovely, watching the storm from the safety of your porch all snug like. I used to have a huge screened in front porch on my old house in a older part of town and I really miss it! You've come a long way too...getting lots more AF days. Good for you!!!

Eve, sounds like you've got this thing down pat. I wish I could say that I always keep it to 1-2 drinks, but alas I would be lying. However, I do not overdo it often which is a far cry from overdoing it almost every night. Baby steps...

AF yesterday, so 4 days this week for me. Thanks again dg for this thread!

[vlivengood]

modders Sun - Fri AF

I really like this thread because of the diversity of when we are all AF and when we decide to have a drink.... I guess for any AF day I am having I know one of us is enjoying a drink and for every non AF day I have I know at least one of us is having an AF day......I am babbling in my TGIF euphoric state....

LG thanks for the props on the AF days remember just a few weeks ago how I struggled two just string together 2 in a row and good for you 4 in row as well......

What's everyone's weekend plans? Hubby and I are going to movie and drinks with friends tonight, tomorrow I wanna hit the gym and do a little shopping, and help a friend move, not sure about Saturday night yet.... Sunday will be my chore and cooking day as usual....

Hope everyone's off to a good start

[Lasha]

modders Sun - Fri AF

Hi all,
Not ready for AL free nights yet but would like to be AL free during the week and enjoy moderation at weekends.
Still had a good week for me. JUST a bottle of wine and two ciders nightly but seem elated I've managed it.
Must keep tapering as I'm feeling better and determined to do it.
When I feel like a drink I read MWO and the temptation goes.

[vlivengood]

modders Sun - Fri AF

Lasha, that's why its called MWO We each have our own individual problem and solution but they all run parallel each other and we can benefit from everyone's journey!

[drinkingal]

modders Sun - Fri AF

Hi Lasha, it sounds like you are doing exactly what I did and you will know when you are ready to take on the next step in your journey with this. I found that if I worked on one change at a time I was able to make it stick, and if it didn't stick I had to figure out why before going any further. A change can be anything from stepping down by one more drink a night, or doing an af day, or delaying your start time, drinking more slowly, and at first you have to stay focused to make sure you stick with it, but as each change starts to feel normal, I knew that's when I was ready to take another step forward with it. It does get easier though with practice and you start to mentally adjust to drinking less along the way so it doesn't feel like you are white knuckling it. One thing you could do is too keep a notebook handy so that if you struggle with your reducing, sit down and figure out why. There are going to be times when you might go over your limit etc, and those are really good learning opportunities I think to figure out what was different that night etc. so that you can figure out what you need to do differently so that you don't get discouraged and keep moving forward. Good Luck

[drinkingal]

modders Sun - Fri AF

TMH, how are you doing? is everything ok with DH? please check in and let us know you are doing

[Lasha]

modders Sun - Fri AF

Hi all,
Eve, great thread about how to moderate, thanks, will keep telling myself "do I really want a bottle of depression". I'm at the point of coming down a little more then the big one "abstain for a day". Never thought I would say that.

Thanks to drinkingal & vlivengood for the encouragement.

One of my problems is when I've had a good week at work, I seem to want to reward myself with a few extra, then am annoyed with myself the next day. I've got to stop that NOW.

[drinkingal]

modders Sun - Fri AF

Lasha;1391805 wrote: Hi all,
One of my problems is when I've had a good week at work, I seem to want to reward myself with a few extra, then am annoyed with myself the next day. I've got to stop that NOW.

Hi lasha, ok so what you do now is get out your notebook and write down "rewarding myself after a good week" as a trigger. Do you mean a good week with your drinking? Then you sit down and figure out what to do differently, e.g just being aware that you're thinking this way will make you more aware and you have to challenge your thinking. e.g. why do I need to drink more as a reward? I'm already allowing myself to drink so why do I need to drink extra aswell? That's just an example, but you just have to find the right argument to change your thinking about it.

[Lasha]

modders Sun - Fri AF

drinkingal,
Good reply, I have a pretty high pressure job and sometimes feel out of my depth, surrounded by university Engineers asking questions all day. When I finish the week I find I need to blow the cobwebs away.
That has to stop and good point, I'm already blowing the cobwebs away by allowing myself a bottle of wine, no need for more is there.
When I can abstain during the week then a bottle of wine at the weekend should be my reward not a bottle of wine and 4 cider's.
That's my goal

[drinkingal]

modders Sun - Fri AF

HI lasha, it also may be due to your al tolerance, and truly the lower it goes the more buzzed you get from drinking less, so as it drops you don't need to drink as much to blow away the cobwebs But what you have to keep in mind when tapering, is that the less you drink the more your tolerance drops so if you want it to drop, then stick to a certain amount consistently and if you give it enough time, you'll feel it dropping, because you start to feel that same amount affecting you more and more.

[Lasha]

modders Sun - Fri AF

Thanks for that drinkingal, I'm determined to keep up tapering and no blowouts.:thanks::thanks: