modders Sun - Fri AF

[Eve11]

modders Sun - Fri AF

drinkingal;1397106 wrote: Hi eve, gosh that sounds like 3 hours of your life you wish you could get back

Haha, how true and more true for my hubby who doesn't like theater much any way. Has to be something really good and entertaining as he just doesn't care for it that much. I'll have to read the reviews better before I do that to him again!

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Eve11

[FarfallaP]

modders Sun - Fri AF

Sunday, also, has been AF for me. FFP

[vlivengood]

modders Sun - Fri AF

Just checking in Saturday I had some beers.... Sunday is AF for me as will be the rest of the week again I hope.....

Write more tomorrow

[drinkingal]

modders Sun - Fri AF

great job FF and V! Sunday was af for me too, I got so much done today instead of my usual Sunday of feeling lazy and listless, what a difference.

TMH, how are you going? are you getting any af days in?

[ToMyHealth]

modders Sun - Fri AF

Hi guys. Good work!

DG - No, I am not, hence, why I haven't been posting here. That changes today! I fully expect to come on here tomorrow and report Monday an AF day. Plan is to get at least 3 in this week. Would be good progress, don't you think?

TMH

[vlivengood]

modders Sun - Fri AF

TMH, glad you still check in and really appreciate the honesty.... If 3 days this week is what you desire that that is perfect!

DG - So jealous I was AF Sunday but pretty lazy got some chores done begrudgingly and made a semi home cooked meal for dinner...... I am go go go all week and Sunday my body just says GIMMIE a break..... I would be wise to get my chores done Saturday but Saturday is my day I enjoy doing fun stuff and getting errands done...

Well hope everyone is off to a hangover free start HAPPY MONDAY!

[drinkingal]

modders Sun - Fri AF

Hi tmh, that would be great, and I know you can do this! In the past I found if I had a few days picked out it just gave me an extra incentive not to drink on those days. Like I could tell myself if I felt like drinking on those days, "no this is sunday or thursday etc and I don't drink on a sunday/thursday" (or whatever) and sometimes that's all the excuse I needed to stick with it for some reason. It didn't always work, but mostly it seemed to help because it's like I had already made the decision in my mind ahead of time, and I just had to convince myself to stick with it (instead of actually making the decision itself). I have to admit though I struggle to af it 5 days in a row at times, but I think I have to just keep working at that some more too. I would love to see you post that you afed it 3 days this week! You really can do this :thumbs:

Hi V, I was hoping my super motivation would carry on but today it's dropped off again, oh well. I wouldn't feel bad about having a down day on a sunday though, I think we need that down time to gather ourselves and recover too, even just from being so busy during the week. I normally allow myself that on a sunday but I think because of my af saturday I was all go go go

[ToMyHealth]

modders Sun - Fri AF

Thanks so much for the encouragement. Really, really appreciate it. I'm sure it's obvious I have not been happy with myself. Most nights I stop at 2, but not always.

I see these 2 women bike by my house a lot in the early evening. Saw one this a.m. and learned they do 10 or 12 miles. Said I would like to join them if that would be alright. Had been thinking a bike ride could take place of Happy Hour, and this will give me added incentive to do such. Can do alone also. I did 5 miles one day last week, need to start building on that so they don't leave me in the dust!

TMH

[Eve11]

modders Sun - Fri AF

TMH,
This is where lurking on the AF sites can help too as they give each other such good advice to not take that drink. Like DG's example of "I don't drink on Thursday, etc."

I know it is harder for you as I am thinking you are retired in a community where drinking is a pretty social thing to do...am I right? This makes it so much more tempting. So, the exercise plan is always a good idea to keep yourself too busy to drink. Or involved in something else, hobbies, fitness, etc. where you don't really have time to drink. I was sharing on another post that I like visiting with a particular work friend after work on occasion but it always seems so much more fun to meet for a "drink" than a cup of coffee or tea at night. So, sometimes these environmental situations make it harder for us. Although I mod fairly well, I don't have all of those social pressures to have a drink as boys are still in school and I'm very busy on school nights.

You hang in there and know that we are here for you.
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Eve11

[FarfallaP]

modders Sun - Fri AF

Today, Monday, has been another AF day for me... I am exercising vicariously, through TMH's exercising and planning to exercise...while chomping down the candy corn, as, it's only Halloween once a year, right???. LOL. FFP

[vlivengood]

modders Sun - Fri AF

AF for me as welll...... Only lost 1lb last week pretty bummed about that.... 6 days at gym and staying under calorie counts EVERY day seems like a lot of work for 1 stinking pound on my second week....

O well maybe next week will be better

[ToMyHealth]

modders Sun - Fri AF

Monday was AF. Yay me! No problem whatsoever except that couldn't sleep. I doubt I got more than 2 hrs and it sure showed in my golf game today. No one was having a good day and you would't believe all the comments such as "I don't why we play this stupid game, why don't we just sit around and drink".

Eve - you hit it on the head. And sometimes I can say well, today is Thursday and I don't drink on Thursdays. But then you're at a function, whether it be a golf tournament, or charity or whatever, and you've probably shelled out big bucks for it, and there is free beer & wine or at least 1/2 pricing. And there is always the proverbial invitation to stop by for a drink. Or you stop in bar after golf thinking you are going to have 1 or 2 but then someone else joins you and buys another round. My partner today is a lifetime member of Wt Watchers. She said when I'm out to eat and dessert is included, you bet I'm going to eat it, after all I paid for it. Same reasoning. And the reward thing. She was going to eat lightly for lunch as she is going out for dinner. By the end of the round, she said I deserve a big, juicy hamburger. Maybe not a good analogy but in a way I think it is.

Anyway, it did feel good to be AF last night, not fall asleep during debate. Next AF night I will take some OTC sleep meds or Benadryl.

TMH

[Eve11]

modders Sun - Fri AF

TMH,

Yes, the environmental situation can make things so much harder so you really have an additional struggle unlike someone like me who has more pressure not to drink as I'm carting teens (no licenses yet) to practices, the gym, etc. An evening home is supervising homework or getting them to do chores after our family dinner. We purposely don't include AL in dinners at home as we don't want to instill that message to them that drinking is done nightly as we want to model that we are not daily drinkers and don't want them to be either.

Your situation is very tough as I find we drink daily when on vacation as we stay at hotels with executive lounges with free drinks. I have noticed however, that we generally never go over 2 a day although we could have as many as we wanted. Maybe it's the fear of going too overboard because when we can drink as many free drinks as we want that it keeps us in better check somehow. I am not sure of the best trick for you as the whole thing can be so tempting. I just know for health reasons it just isn't good to drink daily. I have a friend 5 years younger who does that and she is starting to look 10 years older as the AL dehydrates her skin, etc. Plus, our bodies process AL before food so it is so easy to store fat rather than lose it as the body is so busy processing the AL first.

Maybe a plan for you is to try to commit to only certain days of the week when you will drink (choose the days that are hardest to say no to...for me it's Friday and Saturday). Remember you can still drink socially with an Arnold Palmer or O'Douls beer or a fun non-AL mix. Maybe the bartender at the golf club can come up with some ideas of a good non al drink.

I grew up in an environment where there was nothing much to do but for the adults to drink. Everyone seemed to own a bar or resort and really the only social thing they did was to visit each other's establishments and drink. I saw so many adult drunks on a daily basis that it was pathetic as they drove off of roads, urinated in their pants, etc. So, I have a special empathy for people in tougher social environments where it is easier to fall into that hole of get sucked in to drink too much.

Modders or AFers browsing our site today, any other ideas for TMH?

Also, TMH, it seems you had a huge stressor with a dear friend with Lou G. disease and it's easy to decide to drink when we're stressed by things.

Well, keep coming back and know that we are here to help you and not judge you as you try to streamline your intake. It seems you were doing real well at different points so maybe reflecting on what you did and didn't do would be helpful to you and others to hear about.

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Eve11

[FarfallaP]

modders Sun - Fri AF

Today, Tuesday, has been AF for me again...and tomorrow we head back to Florida, for tennis, and lots of temptation...some tennis buddies/functions tend to include lots of drinking opportunities just as TMH's golfing situation does...but the water in the Gulf is still 82 degrees, and I can hardly wait! Hope Tropical Storm Sandy stays east of the US... FFP

[LibraryGirl]

modders Sun - Fri AF

Had a few beers on Sunday, but Mon and Tues have been AF. I do find that being around other heavy drinkers is a big trigger for me. My ex drinks heavily and even before he suggested it, I was asking for a beer! What's up with that? He had vodka in a closed top cup... I told him I don't drink like I used to, but he laughed like he didn't believe me. That was Sat. Thankfully we didn't stay long because I could have drank much more. Bf had 1 and a half (beers) and told me, "I've had wayyy too much to drink." Lol, I don't think I've ever dated anyone who drinks less than he does. It's good for me though. At least he has ONE good trait.:H

Going to read my book in bed. I'm so exhausted tonight. Sorry I didn't comment on anyone's posts. :l

LG