October Mod Squad

[ToMyHealth]

October Mod Squad

Hello all ~ from "everyday's a Friday" land. LOL Getting ready to go to the Fitness Center for a good workout, then do some book shopping. Taking out pork tenderloin for dinner, have already decided to not go up for Happy Hour. Actually, we haven't been there for a long time, since before our Sept trip.

Hey, D., hope you, wife & boys feel better.

TMH

[LibraryGirl]

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Hello All. Wonderful day isn't it? I adore Fridays.

D is modding!! Congrats on keeping it within your limits. Hope you and your family all get better soon and get rid of the sniffles!

Eve, you're such a great support to all of us. What ever would we do without you?:l

TMH, Hope you enjoy your workout. May I offer a book suggestion since you're in the market? Well, I will suggest a few that I have on *my* list, but haven't read yet..."They Disappeared", by Rick Mofina and anything by Kate Morton...I loved "The Forgotten Garden" and I see she has a new one just published this month! Yay! I have so many titles written down (some with multiple stars that I think I'll really like), and I love going book shopping! Enjoy!

Just getting through the morning here and it's time for me to knuckle down and start writing my latest book review. It's due today!

[Alcoholic]

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Hi, all: I'm new:

Know some of you and really appreciate some of you esp eve and library girls words to get me through the last couple of days.

I'll need time to read back a few days material to get to know you. Joined kind of late as oct is coming to an end, so there will be a nov one starting up I presume?

I am still in newbies nest, some days better than others and to be honest some days I really want to pack up and leave but I have a buddy here I'm committed to stay 3-4 days to complete our 10 AF quest.

Hope ill have a chance today at work to peek in time to catch up. I'm awfully bad at reading past posts, though,,,, my apologies up front...

[LibraryGirl]

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Alcoholic, are you definitely leaving MWO when you finish your 10-day challenge? Welcome to the Mod board, btw!

[Alcoholic]

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Library girl: I'm so torn.

I don't do online stuff like this much and it's my first experience. I learned so much from mwo, ESP the supplements and posting and reading the forums helped to prevent drinking. But I got such negative feedback from others that makes me wonder if its worth it. So maybe I should just take what I've learned, finish my 10 says w my buddy and move on w my life. But I would like to find a site where I can check in I prevent me from drinking though.

Do you know of any site that isn't as divided between moderation and abstinence or are they all like this?

[jenniech]

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Alcoholic: you raise a very good point. There is such a strong divide between abstainers and modders on this site...I stopped drinking completely back on 8/12... made a commitment to myself to do 90 days AF....I was also going to do 90 AA meetings in 90 days, but that came to an end Monday after a bad Sunday meeting.....I was sharing, was cut off and I felt not only embarrassed, but pretty pissed. I mean, my sponsor kept telling me to share, share, share. And then when I do, they cut me off. Hello??? I did get a lot out of the meetings for the first couple of weeks, but for past month, it has been a chore ..... You see, I can't decide if I am really an alcoholic or not. When I stopped drinking, I had absolutely no withdrawal symptoms. I also felt like an amateur drinker compared to everyone else in the rooms. I guess the real tipping point was when everyone at the AA group told me that I should NOT go to my 30th HS reunion because I would be too tempted and even if I did not drink, it would cause me to have resentments, etc... But, I had friends flying in from all over country. Friends that I keep in touch with and wanted to see. So, without telling my sponsor, I went to the reunion. I did not drink. I drove home afterwards and had a simply fantastic time. They were wrong. Maybe THEY shouldn't have gone, but I went with no problem!!

The reason I did stop drinking was because I WAS drinking too much over the summer. My father was an alcoholic, so I was constantly worrying that I was one too. But now I really feel like I could simply drink only on special occasions and it would be ok. Am I delusional to think that I simply fell into a really bad habit?

A special occasion has not yet presented itself where I felt like I really wanted to drink, but I am thinking of giving myself permission if that occasion should present itself. I am wondering if i am crazy thinking this way? Or do I need to just do it and if I fall back into the same patterns as last summer, I will just start over again being completely AF.....

anyway, i haven't posted on MWO in quite a while because I have feared harsh judgment from hard core abstainers......

[drinkingal]

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Hi jennitech, Eve has a post here "can you moderate" and in her first post there is a link to an alcohol dependency test and that's a good starting point I think. It just really varies from person to person. Just ignore all the nonsense that took place in that topic and read the first post by eve, it was meant to be a standalone post for information but it got a bit hijacked

https://www.mywayout.org/community/f3...ate-68441.html

[ToMyHealth]

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Weekend has flown by. Have had computer problems so catching up this morning. I did my workout on Friday but never made it book shopping. Can't remember why not. Sat. out the door early for golf tournament offsite. It was soooooo windy! Other than that, a nice day. Later, we watched the MN Gophers beat Perdue. During half time went for a 2+ mile walk.

LG - thx for book recommendations! I did get The Forgotten Garden from the library but sorry, could not get into it. Doesn't mean I won't at a different time. Just your mood at times. Right now I'm reading one of John Sanford's books Buried Prey. Love the Mpls-St. Paul setting.

Hey, Dave, take care up there in CT. We just got off phone with friends in Philly. So hope it doesn't get too bad for the NE.

TMH

[FarfallaP]

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Hi Jennitech,

I wondered where you'd got to! I'm glad to see you're still ok! In fact before I go to sleep I start to list all the good things about not drinking and one of them usually is doing my nighttime face rituals, which reminds me of the first post of yours which I remembered noticing! good for you for being brave enough to go to the reunion AND stay AF! I was brave enough to go to one of mine and was surprised by several things...one being, how many folks did NOT drink, and another, how AL had damaged/ended the lives of so many others. Also, my dad was an alcoholic too, so all three of us kids have that fear before us all the time. Moderating has worked for me, but it is not exactly easy. I want to keep my options open, but the use of alcohol as a "coping" mechanism is something I feel I need to constantly guard against. I agree with Drinking Gal re the test she mentioned.
TMH, glad yr computer got fixed. windy here too. I, too, have my fingers crossed for Dave's welfare...Happy Sunday, everybody! FFP

[Alcoholic]

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Jenniech:

Yes, I'm afraid of post anything after all these harsh stuff but I agree w dringkingal, too, it's easiest to just move on.

In DSM IV the bible of psychiatry they differentiate alcohol dependence (more serious) w alcohol abuse. Go on line and search to see which kind sounds more like you and along w the test drinkingal suggested, maybe you will find your answer.

Also agree w you, Jenny: everyone is different. So I'm glad you went to the reunion and had a good time sober. Sometimes you know your self better than other know you, right? And you are not your disease!!!

[Alcoholic]

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FFP I thought you were a guy until I read about the facial.. Sorry.

[FarfallaP]

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even with all my concerns about my rosacea on the other thread? Gosh, in a way, I'm actually a bit flattered...I think I talk too much to EVER be considered a guy! Anyway, not to worry...our common problem, this little issue with AL, is an equal opportunity damager, hits both guys and gals...
Have a good Monday, everybody! FFP

[Alcoholic]

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Ffp: men can have rosacea too! But I actually didn't read your rosacea thread, assume part of ur username meant fellow. I posted something about having a negative mammogram result once and other members have called me a man . Glad you were not offended. Anyway, you were right that that it was really a compliment because that meant your comments were not too emotional and were well balanced. Not like the ones that would be written by one of these emotional women needing mammograms and facials .

[LibraryGirl]

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Hi All. Weekend went by too fast! I feel like I need another day for rest. Been really ill tempered tonight, and the suspicions on this board and the arguing really didn't sit well with me. I guess I need to go to vlivengood's camp and just chill.

Hope everyone is well...Sandy missed us, thank goodness, but I hope everyone who had to deal with her are okay!

[Alcoholic]

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Library girl: I hear you: just chill back w people here and and in the mod thread for now. Go to control panel and ignore some people that you don't like. No reason to waste your valuable energy and time fighting w some people... Plus, it can cause us to drink.... Lets focus on being w positive funny people instead, how's that, girl?