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[DfromCT]

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Hi, All,

Stew, haven't seen you in a while, but have caught up on the latest by reading since my last post. I know I'm stepping into the middle of the conversation, but it seems to me that she was going to make a final decision in October....didn't you post that back in September? If I were in your shoes (and its easy to say, b/c I'm not, I know) I'd tell her how you feel about her, and how being "just a friend" in some cases, and second fiddle to the cucked husband in terms of her trip to Ireland, just doesn't cut it with you. If the trip was long planned, tell her she needs to make some serious decisions and decide who she wants to be with by the time she comes home. Heck, you might be ballsy enough to say by the time the trip rolls around. If she choses hubby, she's played you and you're better off. If she chooses you, you've helped her out of a difficult spot. Get either her or hubby out of the co-habitation. Create a life together.

Anyway, sorry to the rest of the gang for not being very active in the forum this week. We're selling the condo and trying to quickly buy a house before Christmas, it's very hectic. Also had another round of baby shots on Thursday, and a new marketing plan rolled out at work. Yeah, it's crazy around here! We did see some great houses today, though. Anyway, the stress of buying and selling is multiplied by trying to find a selller to agree to a quick closing so that we avoid two moves and living with twin infants in a temporary furnished apartment.

Still AF since Oct 23, though I did buy some wine that I might have with my wife before Thanksgiving. I only bought a half bottle, and was going to have it tonight, but I'm on duty if they wake until midnight, so I'm not going to risk drinking two glasses and shucking my duties. So it will be in the cabinet, I'll discuss with wifey for dinner tomorrow or Sunday.

It's been a real roller coaster of a week, so I'm happy that I've made it through AF. Almost gave in with the wine tonight, but will be so much happier that I didn't.

Hope everyone else is doing well. LG, hows the carb counting going? V, how's Winnie? Ill do my best to check in over the weekend.

D

[vlivengood]

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Kinda Quiet in here, thought I would have a ton of catching up to do but it appears everyone is busy getting their week started.

Stew, I am happy you are happy but you know until she makes the decision to leave her husband that it is inevitable that more conflict and hurt feelings will happen. Did you run the marathon? How did it go.

DC, whats with the need to move right away, how hectic, holidays, work, babies, buying and selling a house.... Crazy.... So is work going a little better for you? Winnie is GREAT, she is such a puppy, I took her to the

LG- hows mom and how was your weekend?

Eve, FF, Ally, DG and anyone else I am forgetting hope you all had a nice weekend.

[DfromCT]

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HI, All,

We spent most of the weekend house hunting, and of course I thought we settled on one Saturday, but wifey woke Sunday pining for a different one, then when I got home from my hockey referee clinic, she went out again and fell in love with yet another! So I did a quick tour of the house, but was so rushed and head spinning that I am just not sure. So I want to see it again, but we're probably going to put an offer on it. It's actually a little bigger than the other two, in a great neighborhood, more conveniently located AND it little less expensive!

V, the reason for this all happening quickly is that we put our condo on the market about 40 days ago since it's a third floor and my wife was tired of carrying the babies up and down the stairs. We were going to take it off the market, and then got a full price offer! The buyer is insisting on closing before year end, however, and we would love to be in the new house by Christmas. It would be great to have our first Christmas with the boys in the house they're going to grow up in!

What's up with Winnie? our trip got cut off in the post (see above!)

LG hope your mom is doing well. Hope everyone had a great weekend.

D

[Eve11]

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DfromCT;1410064 wrote: It's actually a little bigger than the other two, in a great neighborhood, more conveniently located AND it little less expensive!
D

Hey D, this one sounds like the house for you! Good luck with it.

I'm not sure that the board itself is quiet, I just think we have so many threads to go to now that are all different and intriuging in varying ways. Guess, I wish we'd still post the majority of our personal stuff here so we don't miss what is going on with folks as everyone may not have time to read all of the threads as they are designed for other purposes, such as discussing what we're grateful for (gratitude thread), and if we've been AF (AF thread) or how our weekly goals went (Ruby Tuesday thread) whereas the monthly thread has always been more of the chit chat thread of what is going on with everyone on a daily basis from month to month.

Yes, we need a Winnie update but they're probably as busy with their new "baby" D as you and wifey are with your two sons.

Take care all. It's been a good week for me. Saw an awesome movie that every one with any type of addiction problem should see, "Flight" with Denzel Washington. Loved it!!

Big :ls to all,
Eve11

[ToMyHealth]

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Agree, Eve. With all the new threads, busy personal, social life, and election I felt overwhelmed for a bit. Getting a handle on it now. Feels good.

Thank you for the movie recommendation. We may go to the LPGA tournament on Saturday so a late Friday afternoon movie might be just the thing to do night before. I saw a trailer on "Flight" but sure didn't pick up that it was about addiction.

Good luck D. on the house deal. Hope it works out for you!
V. fun times for you with Winnie, sis & son's visit coming up.
LB - Mom doing better?
FF - know LB is low carbing it - been meaning to ask you - with your late afternoon apple snack and then early dinner on days you're at home and don't drink, have you lost weight? I would think so.

Hi to DG, Stewarts, anyone else I've missed. Hope everyone had a chance to thank a veteran today.

TMH

[LibraryGirl]

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Hello All. I've not been feeling up to updating much lately, and I'm sorry. I do miss you all! I'm trying out a different WOE now, and doing up and down days with high cals one day, and very low the next. It will work to my advantage as far as AL is concerned, because there is absolutely NO way I can drink on DD's (down days), and I try not to drink on work nights either. That will limit me to 2 nights one week, and one the next, as the DDs are falling twice one weekend, and once the next. Don't know if that makes sense at all, but the point is I'll be drinking less. I'm also not going to stick with strictly low carb anymore, haha.

D - Thanks for the update on the house hunting. I hope your offer is accepted and that you have a "smooth move" before Xmas. That would be awesome!

V - Where did you take Winne? You stopped in the middle of the sentence, lol. Tallk about busy!

TMH, LPGA tour sounds really fun. My bf would love that.

Eve, thanks for the movie recommendation. I love D. Washington, so I'm sure it's good.

FF, dg, Ally, and all I missed, hope you're all doing well.

Mom is doing ok, I think. I can't seem to reach her most of the time when I call, but my brother says she is improving. I will be visiting with her next week during Thanksgiving. My sis and her hub were with her this past weekend. Oh, and the sis I said had abruptly left her partner of 14 years and started seeing a man...well, she got married Friday. It was kind of a shock, although she had said they were getting married soon. Saw the update on FB--Got Married Today! Lol, how things change!

Talk at cha all later...

LG

[FarfallaP]

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Hi Everyone,

LG, glad your mom is doing ok and you'll see her next week...what a shock abt. the sister getting married so suddenly! Your WOE sounds alarming to me...friends of ours are doing something similar, not for weight control but for health & neuron-repair..let us know how it goes!
V, hope your visit with your sister is heartwarming for you both.
Stew, good luck with your many endeavors...
TMH, the apple & early supper plus lo cal ice cream treat help get me over the infamous '"witching hour," but I have not lost any weight. In fact, the fruit is a bit on the hi carb end of things, and combined with my lack of exercise, I am now about 4 lbs. over my personal limit. I am now trying a new type of massage to hopefully clear up my sore leg, so as to start moving again. This is called Release Therapy, have you heard of it? Lots of people are using it for tennis elbow.
D, good luck with making wise decisons re the new homestead...an exciting time!
And, last but not least, DG, thanks for the tally board and the encouragement, and Eve, thanks for the constant encouragement, too!
Happy Humpday...it's almost Wednesday! FFP

[Alcoholic]

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Hi everyone:

Yes, I've been distracted by an enormous penis that appeared here on MWO so haven't been able to concentrate on much else.

But I'm really surprised by how little I drank since I started kudzu and l glut 1 month ago that I went on line and stocked up on them. Never want to go a day without them again!!!! I wish I knew about them 5 years ago..,,

Good to hear everyone here doing well.

[Eve11]

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Alcoholic;1410874 wrote: Yes, I've been distracted by an enormous penis that appeared here on MWO so haven't been able to concentrate on much else.

Amazing the side effects of some of those meds!! :H Now that was a brilliant post!!
:l
Eve11

[Stewarts]

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Hi all, thank you for your concerns. As far as the marathon, well, due to the tragedies all along the NY metro region, the NYC marathon was cancelled. So, some running friends of mine and I, decided to run the Harrisburg, PA marathon this past Sunday. Because of the NYC marathon cancellation, the participation for their marathon doubled, actually more than doubled...I think they had orginally 800 participants and then 1,000 more signed up all from NYC, it was a fun day and the city was very welcoming and hospitality.


Well, I screwe this marathon up. it was advertised as a flat course, I didn't think it was flat and I pretty much broke every single rule of distance running. I decided to go all out and see what happens, I was flying! Then it caught up to me. I never had to stop stretch, even walk at times EVER in a marathon, lot's of things can happen in 26.2 miles. So, with that said, I crossed the finish line at 4:04. For comparison purposes, I finished the NYC marathon in 2010 in 3:47. If I ran it "right" I probably would've broke my 3:47 time, but I decided on the more balls than brain approach to try and break 3:35. Anyway, it was still fun and the good news, I pretty much know my 1/2 marathon pace and its pretty damn good, for me, and I'll just have to run another marathon next year to redeem myself, that's all.

As for the gf situation, that is still the same, but she realizes this can't go on forever. She is also coming to the realization that if this doesn't work out we will not be friends, which is good, while this always was "real" it's really starting to hit her now. In a funny way, kind of like when I was getting divorced, when we made the decison, it wasn't that bad, for me, when it got close to actually signing time, and it was "real" I started to freak out and did launch into severe depression.

Alcoholic, I started taking kudzu as well also. I started taking it over the weekend, and noticed the same thing about not really wanting to drink, then again, I also had a marathon to run and three hour drive back to NYC. I actually did drink last night, not too heavy, really because I was bored, I know bad, I started talking to some old friend and went 2 over my four limit, I know, bad, but I couldn't work out or run, because I'm sore, and I didn't feel like watching TV, probably bad excuses, but whatever - Oh, it was also a place I tend to avoid now, because its so comfortable you get sucked in (and nice people) :-). Oh, and I've been forgetting to take the Kudzu the past few days, so I can't really report if its working or not. I gotta get back on that and we can compare results.

Be well on this Wednesday.

[ToMyHealth]

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Hi all ~ You know I just feel partied out, peopled out. Does that make sense? I want just quiet, normal days and nights for awhile.

LB - I've done the Johnson Up Days Down Days Diet. Yes, it's hard to stay under 500 calories on the down days. Dh and I have had good luck with Fast-5. Similar concept. Eat whatever you want but within a 5 hour window everyday. We did get the free tickets to go to LPGA. Last year we went to the Shark Shootout (Greg Norman event) and saw many PGA players up close and personal. I don't follow Ladies Golf much but know it will be fun and impressive.

FF - have not heard of Release Therapy. When my leg bothers me I see a chiro. Never used to until my dd became one and convinced me of the value of adjustments. But good luck with it, hope it works for you. Since 1980 my body has been so used to moving that it expands very quickly when it isn't on the go so I get myself in for an appt if just plain, old stretching doesn't do the trick. It's bothering me a bit lately and know I've slacked off on the after workout leg stretching.

Al - wish those supps worked for me like they do you. I notice nothing from the L-Glut, down to the bottom of a jar now. Admit I take it thinking more of the good for muscles, etc. benefit than reducing cravings benefit. The kadzu made me dizzy. And not just a little bit, a lot. May try again one day.

Stew - congrats on the race! That's a very decent time. Takes a lot of discipline to pace yourself. My very 1st marathon I was told if I ran 10 min miles I would finish in 4:20. Since only goal was to finish I did just that and finished in 4:22. After that, goal usually was to break 4 hrs. Sometimes I did; sometimes I didn't. Last qualification for Boston I was old enough to have 4 hrs to do it in, ran a 3:58. PR was a 3:45 and that was my first qualifying time. Would you ever like to run Boston? Preferred NY over Boston.

Have a wonderful Wed!

TMH

[LibraryGirl]

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FF - I have done quite a bit of research on my WOE, and it's perfectly safe, as long as you're not diabetic or hypoglycemic or something. In fact, it has many advantages including some age reversal, improved pain (if you are suffering with arthritis, inflamation, etc.)...fasting has many health benefits, and I don't fast over 24 hours, and it's not complete fasting, as I have around 500 calories. Eventually, I will try to get to 20% of my recommended calories which is under 400. On up days, it's not "all you can eat" but eating to maintenance for your height and weight (and sex). Just trying it out and I am absolutely certain it won't hurt me. I just hope I can stick with it!

[Alcoholic]

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Hi, everyone:

D: congrats on moving on w your life w new house hunting!

Lg: happy to see your mom getting better and your sister wed! This WOE is interesting. Waiting to see how you guys do on it.

TMH: sorry kudzu and glut don't work for you. I'm bummed about topamax not working for me because I'd like to lose weight w it.

Stew: keep taking kudzu and let me know. Man, I don't know how guys do marathons but I can't even climb the stairs at home!

Everyone else: I'm so glad my drinking journey is so much controlled now!!! I'm a happy camper. The only things I worry about are
1. Long term side effects of kudzu and glut
2. Whether they will lose their effectiveness over time.


I drink very seldom. Maybe once a week. Maybe 1/2 -2 glasses of wine. Any more I feel headaches, heart palpitations. I love how they work for me!!!

[Stewarts]

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TMH, yeah, I'm usually a sub-4 marathoner...Oh, if I didn't run the race like an idiot, I think I had a good chance of breaking 3:45. Every serious runner I ever spoke to all talk about a race they had like this, like the one I had. I had a running coach, a very elite runner tell me he went way too fast, I think in one of his Boston marathons, and he was reduced to to walking by like mile 12. When I felt the legs start to go, especially in my quads, which never give me problems, I knew exactly what happened and I was like F@#$!! I even know the point where I screwed up or could've changed it for the better. I was running sub 8s and low 8s, and then I had an 8:22 on mile 7 I think, so I followed that up with a 7:50...I should've stayed at the 8:22 pace or even a little slower, I would've crushed my NYC time of 3:47...anyway, live and learn...

AL, you sound like you really have everything under control, that's great. I will start taking the kudzo again and compare notes. I did have a little anxiety this morning for going over my limit, even if I wasn't binging and/or getting "smashed" even the little over messes with my mood (and diet)...some of the triggers were there...women (if I didn't sit down next to one, I probably would've left after two), her talking about setting me up with a few of her girlfriends didn't help....anyway, like I said, I will start taking it habitually and we can compare notes.

[DfromCT]

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Hi, All,

Just checking in, fighting a cold (yuck) and taking the afternoon off. Didn't go home, but just lay down here in my office and took a little nap on the couch.

We settled on a house, yes the one I was talking about in the last post. It took some back and forth negotiations, but we agreed on a price that doesn't bust our budget. We still haven't settled on a closing date, though, and I think the sellers want to close after Christmas, so it could be two moves. Our broker was SO not looking to push the point that we wanted to move by the end of December, he didn't want to risk the deal. Kinda pissed me off there, but what are we going to do?

Hope everyone else is doing well.
D