Moderate May!

[Eve11]

Moderate May!

Thanks all who responded to my plight. Posted an update on the other site.

Lasha,
I am so sorry. Mental health issues are devastating. The hard part about psychotic disorders is people get irrational thinking. She may think the pills are poisoning her for example. In this case, she now believes they WILL rot her brain and is too paranoid to take something that would stabilize her. It's so difficult. The trick I think is to get a very good counselor that can help her with her paranoid thinking. Hopefully there is that type of help for you where you live.

Keep us informed. We're here for you. Thanks to all for being here for me too. You guys are the best support system.

:l
Eve11

[nonamegirl]

Moderate May!

Lasha,
Again, I just wish I could crawl through the computer to give some help. Please know you will be much in my thoughts. Stay strong in yourself so that you can help your wife... you are on the right track with the mental health nurse. I will pray that works and your wife will start taking her meds again. I do know - we have a couple people in my family who deal with mental issues, too. It is so scary. I was worried that we weren't hearing from you. Thanks for checking in and updating us. :l

So, I didn't make it through my self-imposed AF week. Want to know the stupid trigger? It was reading the book that someone here suggested, which is all in all a really good and important book "The Science of Skinny." Learning that all of my favorite comfort foods are really poison just depressed me so much and made me tell my husband, okay I just want to have a glass or two of wine. We ended up having a lovely Friday evening, shrimp and a drink, and did not over do.

[Lasha]

Moderate May!

Hi All,
Thanks Eve and NNG for your kind words of support. Like most people I am not sure about mental issues and medication. Nurse came and we all had a long chat, turns out she's not doing too bad but nurse would like her to see the psychiatrist and to take her meds but my wife says no to both and there's nothing anybody can do about that, it's all about freedom of rights.

All I can say is she is calmed down a bit and is happier now, nurse says maybe she might not need meds now as we can change as we get older but she doesn't know. She did say the meds have no history of giving you brain disease so I'm all confused and can only suck it and see. At least the nurse is going to phone every other day and has given me her 24 hour phone no.

[nonamegirl]

Moderate May!

Hi, All,
Thought I had better sign in and let folks know what's up with me. My brothers and I are going through our parents house (both have passed on...) in order to prep the house to sell. We are going through all sorts of family treasures/history/junk and it is at once heart rending and frustrating. The worst of it is that this house is in one of the most beautiful places in the country, and we really don't want to sell, but just can't do a joint ownership. So, I fess up here and say that I am not really behaving myself as well as I should be. I come back to the B&B I am staying in nearby (house has only two bedrooms) and enjoy relaxing and getting away from it. SO, I tell you all that I will be back to the straight and almost narrow next week... and for now I wish someone would come and take this task from us.

Lasha, thanks for telling us how you are doing. You are still in my thoughts. Good luck.

Eve, how are you?

And how about TMH and Texas? And the other folks? Check in, everybody. If I can confess, so can you.

[Eve11]

Moderate May!

nonamegirl;1506301 wrote: Hi, All,
My brothers and I are going through our parents house (both have passed on...) in order to prep the house to sell. We are going through all sorts of family treasures/history/junk and it is at once heart rending and frustrating.

Eve, how are you?

Hey Noname,

I have been there too with the dividing of property, sadness of the memories...all of that. We kept having parents and grandparents make the oldest brother (who was a stain on society) the executor,and he would try to rip us off every time. It was always an awful ordeal but the younger one and I would try to just be more spiritual with his greed and think "you can't take it with you". Just sad that the birth order makes people place the one with the lowest moral conscience in charge sometimes. Have to clarify.,.not saying that happened in your family but reading your blurb struck a memory in mine.

Thanks for asking about me. I am surviving. Ghandi once said to adopt a child of a race you despised and you would soon learn to love that race.

As a woman who came from a horrible childhood where the father figure was the pits, I always picked the wrong men. When I finally picked Mr. Right (after two failed attempts) and got pregnant right away (yeah) it was devastating to lose the baby (probably because I was older). Then when we tried to adopt as an older couple, I was so judgmental against teen girls keeping their babies and their parents helping them to do that when there were established and financially stable people like us who could offer them everything. So, it was a God thing to have everything reversed and be on the other side of things when my 15 y.o. son and his 17 y.o. girlfriend tearfully shared they were pregnant and wanted to keep the baby.

It then became, let go of my selfishness to be a grandparent, and look out for the best interest of the baby. So, even though I tried to encourage adoption, I have to admit that everytime she said no, my heart soared at the prospect of that baby remaining in our family.

So, it has been interesting to walk in the moccasins of the other person as our Native American friends always told us to do. Still not sure what will happen but it's been eye opening for sure.

Love all of my peeps here who have offered wisdom and support and know that many who haven't yet, just didn't see the posts.

We really are blessed to have this site to share our souls, fears, feelings, when sometimes it's not always about our struggles with drinking.

Thanks all!

Hugs,

Eve11

[ToMyHealth]

Moderate May!

Hi ~ doing pretty well here. Up at 1:50a so that tells you something. Not sure why I cannot sleep tonight as I did have 2 glasses of wine. We had our Pairings Party for our Summer Suvivors Couples golf tonight. And admit I went thinking I'll have a nonalcoholic beer. Greeted a new couple, glanced at her glass of white wine, and that's what I ordered. ((sigh)) Am happy, however, that the night did not continue on with more wine.

NNG - that is such a daunting task, feel for you. Went through it myself in 2002. I wouldn't feel too badly about unwinding at B&B. We had just lost our sister 3 weeks before my mother passed. The remaining 4 of us spent long weekends at Mom's house. She was a packrat, not quite a hoarder but close. So remember my one brother coughing so hard at night that we wondered if he would make it. He died a year ago from his COPD. I wish you were able to keep the home. You'll be back on task soon. ((hugs))

Eve - thanks for sharing. Life lesson, that walking in the mocassins. It struck a chord as my other brother and his wife had one child, wanted a large family and it wasn't happening. They took in foster children. On their app they said they did not want a mixed race child. Guess what happened? They took care of a mixed race little boy for 6 months, grew to love him, wanted to adopt him and were refused. You are so right that it's great we have our MWO cyber friends.

TMH

[ToMyHealth]

Moderate May!

Morning Update: In spite of not getting enough sleep, I feel pretty good today. Weight was up. :stomper: What do restaurants put in their food anyway! It was light appetizers. One very small plate. Fingers are swollen. Oh well, it's temporary. Feel like in addition to golf today, I can get some more exercise in. Been slacking.

How's everyone else this fine Thursday morning?
TMH

[Lasha]

Moderate May!

Hi all,
NNG, My heart goes out to you I couldn't empty my Dads garage after his passing as it would be just too much for me so left that to my nephews and when I had to take his clothes to the charity clothes bank it was awful.

On a cheerier note my wife seems OK for now without her meds so wait and see.
I had to go for a meal last night at 8 o'clock as a celebration for getting through a milestone of work with 3 workmates in our team. I had 2 ciders and thought I must be the only one not drinking heavily as it was also Chelsea's europeon cup final on the TV. As I looked around, nobody was drinking a lot and the only ones that were was a couple of bored looking grumps in the corner. I had a great time, met an old friend and came home at 10 o'clock. Know what, I blended in rather well, it's only me that notices when I'm not drinking a lot :H

[ToMyHealth]

Moderate May!

Lash, so good to hear things are calmer now with the wife. And good job on the not drinking too much and recognizing you are actually the norm. Reminds me of way back hearing an addiction counselor state that most people do notdrink. Found that incredulous. Started looking around, and it amazed me how many people had cokes or iced tea or coffee in front of them (at night).

Am finally going for those lab tests today. Reason I've procrastinated is my hesitance to not travel outside the gate. Sounds lame, I know, but it's the truth. Felt like I was in Harlem when I went to the first one so did not want to go back there. Plus the lab tech was a little too close, too, well you women will know what I mean. At any rate today I'm putting my big girl pants on :flyingunders: hitting the roads!

TMH

[Stewarts]

Moderate May!

It's been awhile since I've been on. My modding for the most part has been good, except for a few recent minor slips, I say minor because I didn't get completely smashed, just had the one or two more that gave me a headache the next day or led to some recent bad eating habits. I need to watch that more than anything. One night, I don't count, because I was out with some old friends that like to get after it, we went to a show. When we were hanging at a bar after, a real dive serving PBRS, in the second one, I started feeling ill....I could see where this night was going, so I just left...they stayed out to who knows what...nothing wrong with that, I just didn't want to feel like total crap the next day....

yesterday I wanted to watch the end of the rangers game at a bar near me. I stayed within my limit, but then started talking to some woman. she wanted me to stay and have another drink or two with her. I really didn't want to, drink, I didn't mind talking to her, but I had this feeling I could have sex with her, so I obliged. It was only two more beers, but the end outcome, was what I anticipiated. I woke up this morning with some slight anxiety..I feel ok now, I'm really not sure why I got that anxiety. I got great sleep last night and was in bed at a very reasonable hour...if anything, the AL helped me get to bed quickly.

Anyway, my weight this morning is what really stressed me. I am training well, it's picking up, I think I'm getting into some bad eating habits...and lately, they have been related to AL consumption.

Anyway, enough of me venting...EVE, I posted in your other thread...you will get through this.

j.

[ToMyHealth]

Moderate May!

Hi Stewarts! Nice to "see" you again. Know what you mean about thinking of the next day and not feeling on your game.

I have good news. Liver enzymes are normal.

TMH

[Stewarts]

Moderate May!

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ToMyHealth;1508106 wrote: Hi Stewarts! Nice to "see" you again. Know what you mean about thinking of the next day and not feeling on your game.

I have good news. Liver enzymes are normal.

TMH

Well that's good...congrats!

[Lasha]

Moderate May!

Superb news TMH
Well done

[Kradle123]

Moderate May!

Stewarts;1508103 wrote:

yesterday I wanted to watch the end of the rangers game at a bar near me. I stayed within my limit, but then started talking to some woman. she wanted me to stay and have another drink or two with her. I really didn't want to, drink, I didn't mind talking to her, but I had this feeling I could have sex with her, so I obliged. It was only two more beers, but the end outcome, was what I anticipiated. I woke up this morning with some slight anxiety..I feel ok now, I'm really not sure why I got that anxiety. I got great sleep last night and was in bed at a very reasonable hour...if anything, the AL helped me get to bed quickly.

Anyway, my weight this morning is what really stressed me. I am training well, it's picking up, I think I'm getting into some bad eating habits...and lately, they have been related to AL consumption.

Anyway, enough of me venting...EVE, I posted in your other thread...you will get through this.

j.

Hi Stewarts:

I don't normally post here but was wondering if I read your post right: You had sex with a complete stranger after a few drinks and the next morning you were worried about your weight? I guess I'm worried for you and it's not about weight but STD's, pregnancy....

I definitely ended up a few times with people I normally wouldn't and it was always AL related of course.

Maybe because I'm a mom of 2 little girls, I had to ask about that.

But I think I read your post wrong because you said you had an early night....You sound good though, training is tough!

[nonamegirl]

Moderate May!

Hello, all,
Hmmm.... sometimes I wonder why folks who don't usually post on the modders threads feel they need to post on the modders threads. I have been shot down and given harsh words on the Newbies thread and on the General Discussion thread when I didn't deserve it, but have NEVER heard a harsh word here from someone who is moderating. But then again, we are a welcoming group down here, and so, Kradle, you are welcome to post your thoughts.

To all the lovely modders who offered their support... I am back from the week of cleaning out my parents' house. All in all it went better than we had any reason to hope. Just need to now go up and give everything a thorough scrubbing and get it staged and flowers planted. My brothers and I didn't kill each other, but the sister-in-law came close to being a target and we all lived through it.

Stewarts, glad you are back. Good luck with training. I am also in training (when the migraines allow.) Our marathon is July 14.

Lasha, so glad things are better with your wife, and I pray they remain better. Good luck, my friend.

TMH, ... GREAT news on the liver enzymes! Keep up the good work.

Eve, you are still in my thoughts. I know this is a long process.

:l:l:l to all my friends.