November Mod Squad

[crocus]

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TMH...Yup! Can you give me brief directions about how to use the drink tracker thing; I can never find it.

Hi Everyone! God bless each and every single one of you amazing people!

I am off to church this morning...I love being there...will keep you all at the top of my list. I need to get a handle on my appalling self-indulgence of last week. Yes... NEW week. This will be day 2 for me. A new week! I will focus on OTHERS and be a better person.

I FINALLY slept last night. I really don't know what's up with me and my metabolism. It's like when I get lonely, I get selflish, and sleepless, and drink way too much. I was very productive during that all-nighter...I usually am when that happens...and I do enjoy the time with my housework, my dancing, and my music. May be that's my not-so-great method of dealing with my lonliness. I deeply love my hubby, but he is very distant and aloof most evenings, and Fridays and Saturdays are no different to him than Mondays or Tuesdays. We rarely go out anywhere. But I feel SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO remorseful when morning dawns, and the remorse is painful, and tends to make me feel so sad.

Yet another confession today. When I feel down, and the weather is nice I take long walks through some beautiful local cemeteries and think about the people who are there. Sometimes I bring flowers or something. And I plant crocuses in the fall. I makes me feel very happy and peaceful. Oh my! I'm laughing at myself right now, but there it is! You're the only ones who know the truth about me. Good Grief, Charlie Brown!

[ToMyHealth]

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Crocus, so glad you slept last night! Sorry to hear dh isn't communicative which makes you feel lonely. Can you Facetime with your kids once/week or so assuming they no longer live close?

On main community page go down quite a ways until you see DrinkTracker. Press on there and then you will have to log in. Username: crocus Password: ? Then it's self explanatory. If you have forgotten your password I think it gives you the option to reset it. HTH! Yay for Day 2 for you!

TMH

[Emmy Lou]

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Hello everyone, I hope you all had a great weekend, although it's not over for you on that side of the world yet.
After all my talk of wonderful plans for today, it was so windy I decided not to go out. I did have a great long walk this morning to pick up my car. I could have actually driven it home after Saturdays get together, but I hadn't looked at my vodka bottle until I got home that evening so I didn't know at the time that I was perfectly fine to drive. I love walking anyway and I enjoyed the walk home on Saturday with two girlfriends. I also enjoyed the walk this morning.
Once I'd decided to stay home I made a list if tasks and got stuck into them. I cut up old soda bottles and made pots to plant lettuce and passion fruit seeds. I went to the hardware store. And then I painted some photo frames glossy black. I have a wall of photos in odd shaped frames all painted black in the kitchen, just adding a few more. Then I made banana bread and some muesli bars. I paid some bills and sent invoices, did a bit of sewing work, made a few calls, then cooked pasta for dinner. I feel so good to have gotten so much done. I even did a couple of loads of washing and put the robot vaccum cleaner to work. My cat leaves so much fluff around the place and when I'm working it builds up so quickly!
I've had about 4 vodka tonics tonight watching murder mysteries on tv but now it's time for bed.
Most people in Victoria (a south eastern state of Australia) will be having a four day weekend this week because of our most famous horse race this Tuesday, The Melbourne Cup. It's a public holiday in My state. I don't usually do anything special for it, I'll be working at home, but I will watch the race.
TMH it's so great that your husband is supportive with AF days. My boyfriend has always been able to stop drinking at any time of the week. I asked him what he thought of me cutting down and he said it didn't bother him (funny answer? He's a strange one for sure). He hasn't exactly been supportive nor hindering. I tend to think that he doesn't quite know what to make of it. I've always drunk a hell of a lot for the entire 8 years that he has known me. I guess he'll just get used to it ? He doesn't seem bothered either way. He's a very accepting person of others.
I look forward to hearing your news of the various things you all get up to on the weekend.
And good luck Sewarts on your marathon!
Goodnight all,
X
Em

[Emmy Lou]

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It happened again! I opened the page, saw only one post after mine so I just typed out mine and entered it, then all your other posts came up before my new post! Very frustrating!
Oh well.
Goodnight again, and sorry if I didn't include anything you talked about, I'm to tired now to keep typing on this phone!
X
Em

[Emmy Lou]

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I think I will just post a one liner first off next time, so that i get to see what you've all written before I post my full entry,
X

[RingingCedars]

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Hi Modders, hope you all have been enjoying your Sunday. TMH here's a link to a thread I started many moons ago. It's not too long and should give you an idea of my thoughts on modding.
I think the most compelling aspect of my "success" to date is my tenacity to keep moving forward and moderating my moderation. I also started a thread in General called I did not drink yesterday and if you go to the first post I think you'll get more insight into the approach that helped me return to my happy medium. In the last year now I've not gotten shit faced drunk once and rarely have I felt the need to chastise myself in regards to alcohol consumption.
It's all relative to one's own acceptance levels also. For example when Emmy Lou speaks of 4 vodka drinks, I wonder how many ounces make up one those drinks? Those 4 drinks could be standard bar shots or doubles. Really it does not matter to me though as Emmy appears to be satisfied with her consumption. If her drinking level is not detrimental to her life in her opinion then it matters not what I think. Sorry Emmy not meaning to single you out. (bows)
The thing is, if it works for you to use drink tracker, count your drinks, keep alcohol out of the house, whatever then do it and if that does not work then do something different. There is no shortage of "tricks" to try to get to where you are comfortable. The real trick is to be honest and never stop trying. Blessings.:h

[RingingCedars]

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oops I forgot to include the link....rolls eyes runs off to find it again....

[RingingCedars]

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https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...tml#post951400

[nonamegirl]

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HI, Everyone!
So, my husband is watching his Steelers, and I am happy here on the couch listening. (He once admitted that he only did jigsaw puzzles at Christmas with me because he loved me... and I said, "Well, that's great! Because I only watched football because I love you!" So now I don't have to watch anymore.

OKAY.... I know Stewarts finished the marathon! :wave::wave: Hurray! Congratulations, my friend!

Crocus, I also love walking through cemeteries. We have some beautiful ones, here, though of course not as old as you have in Boston. The more I hear about you, the more I think we might be twins separated at birth... though I am an early to bed person.... sorry about that. I am so sorry about your tears. It sounds to me as if you are being pretty hard on yourself. I really hope you do go on that trip. (And guess what? In 23 years of marriage, my husband and I haven't gone on a trip other than to see family either. We still intend to take a honeymoon someday. Maybe now that he's retired?) Anyway, why don't you plan on coming to Montana to visit on your trip? And then I'll come to Boston....

Emmy, what a great weekend! Sounds like such fun. I would have loved to have been a guest there. When are we going to make the big trip to get together, anyway? I guess we'll just have to PM more.

Lasha, so glad about your wife. Sounds like this is a much better answer than the pills. Good luck my friend!

TMH, I am still with you on the doing better thing this month. More AF days. I promise. You and me together, kid. Yes?

Ringing Cedars, did the link show up? I'm not sure. Anyway, it is really good to have you join us. Don't feel pressured, but we like you! We are a very congenial group down here.

Hurray, for all of you. I am so pleased to be in such a great group.

[crocus]

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Hi All!

EmmyLou, I love your name. I also enjoy vodka and tonics, and especially during football games. Today the Patriots are still playing, but I'm taking another day AF today to get a head start on my 3 days a week. It's easier for me to forego a drink on the weekend than it is when I get home from work. Personally, I always measure out my drinks these days because I have a very high tolerance, and if I don't measure, it's all too easy for me to lose awareness of how much vodka I'v actually had.

NN - Yup. Sounds like separated at birth for us. Is't that so nice? SO much in common.

My daughter and her new husband are taking me in to the House of Blues in Boston on Jan. 11 to see Jake Bugg. You all should check him out. SUch good music, and he's only 19! I've seen him before, and am so grateful that the kids include me in some of their music outings; I have such a blast! My son in law complimented me today. He said, "Mom, we only take you because you look good in jeans and can dance. We don't hang out with just anyone." Made me feel so happy and alive! They are INSISTING that hubby and I go someplace warm in Jan. "No, Mom...you're going and that's IT!" Love love love them!

Ringing...So glad to meet you. I too am grateful for such a great group.

Good night all. Hoping for some more sleep tonight. If tomorrow evening is nice, I may have one or two vodka and tonics in the evening after work. My husband drinks 3 or 4 a day and enjoys it when I join him. Blessings all around!

[nonamegirl]

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Happy Monday!

Heehee.. after I read my last post, I realized it might sound like I don't watch football anymore because I don't love my guy... nope. Don't watch (much) because HE doesn't do jigsaw puzzles.

RingingCedar's comment would have been more appropriately addressed to me, I am afraid, than to Emmy. I take his (her?) advice to heart. This month I am working on more AF days... promise to all of you and to me.

I woke up at my usual time this morning, which of course is an hour earlier this week than last. Ah, well. Body will adjust. Sleep is elusive, at best, anyway and I love the early morning hours. Finally got out of bed at a not too weird hour.

Love to you all. :h

[Emmy Lou]

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Hi All, I hope you had great weekends. Looks like everyone is happy.
Ceders, I don't mind being singled out at all. You raise a very good point. Measuring drinks ( and counting them) is important to me.
If I'm not in a position to measure I look at the label to see how many drinks are in the bottle. You can then look at how much is in the bottle when you start and when you finish. I'm a bit of a maths obsessive, I enjoy working things out. I started really looking at it even before I started thinking about moderating because of one night when I got really drunk. It turns out that my friend who owns a bar was pouring me oversized scotches, I didn't notice at the time but he realised he'd done the wrong thing when we were all sharing a cab home. I had to get out a fair way from home because I was feeling so sick. I could hardly walk straight. He had to get out and walk me home. He didn't feel so good about delivering me to my boyfriend who was waiting up for me after work. I told him that although he thought he was being generous, he'd really done me no favours! I was so ill!
I'm AF tonight, a bit sick of soda so I have tap water on ice with a squirt of lemon. Very cleansing.
Bedtime now, I've picked up 10 tailored jackets today which will probably take me a week and a half to finish so I've a long day (of many) tomorrow.
Have a happy Monday and thanks for being there.
X
Em

[Lasha]

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Hi All,

Had a rat a tat tat on the front door last night and I said to my wife I know that sound, yeh he was a muso as well, and sure enough there was my old mate who went off the rails a few years ago after his wife died.

What a sight for sore eyes, he looked great well sort of, he's trying to moderate as he collapsed and had to go to hospital where they drained 25 litres of fluids from his stomach as his liver has packed in.

A stark reminder where over drinking can get you! He's lost his pub, house and all money. And now his Liver.

He stopped for 3 weeks but hated it like me so drinks 10 pints a day as opposed to 20 with plenty of vodka. I'm a bit confused because if his liver has packed in then how can he drink 10, pretty strong organ. The Doctors told him if he doesn't stop he'll die in a few weeks.

I felt like a alcohol advisor but how can I be when I still drink and sometimes too much but I'm the only person he trusts so I'm going to help him as much as I can to cut down his consumption.

Sorry to depress you all but had to mention it.

[RingingCedars]

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nonamegirl;1580401 wrote:
RingingCedar's comment would have been more appropriately addressed to me, I am afraid, than to Emmy. I take his (her?) advice to heart. This month I am working on more AF days... promise to all of you and to me.

NNG I'm sorry my comments were less appropriate than could have been. I could have easily substituted "one" for Emmy's name and "her". I was attempting to use the situation as an example and not Emmy as it were. Forgive me.

Make a great day Modders.

[Stewarts]

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Wow, catching up... so yes, marathon number 6 is complete. 3:50:53, my second best time...considering the non ideal weather... this was an interesting one