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[crocus]

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Hi There Everyone! I can't post tonight...en route to bed...hugely busy last two days...very tired finally!
In reading everyone's posts, I just want to quickly thank you for that pat on the back you all gave me.

AND...to say that I think we are all doing very well with our resolve to be happy, temperate people. I notice how different we all are, and how interesting and encouraging it is to notice that none of us is trying to adhere to a one-size-fits-all moderation of alcohol use. It's so good that we each DESIRE that. Plato taught the importance of learning to love the right things, and I really think we do!

More later after I sleep, work, and then...the weekend. I am doing pretty well with not overdoing things. Better is ALWAYS better, right

Goodnight all.

[RingingCedars]

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nonamegirl;1584517 wrote:
Had a great idea to paint the inside of the doors with blackboard paint so I can doodle ideas. What a great idea with so many household applications too.
nonamegirl;1584517 wrote:
I appreciate your "I didn't drink yesterday" thread, but don't post on the abbers boards anymore

The thread is in General NNG. There are no rules spoken or unspoken as to who can post in General. If you think you deserve it or it might motivate you, then hell yes, post!
Waves to everyone.

[nonamegirl]

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Good morning, again, to another beautiful day. Today is Thursday... whew, how the days do go by!

Okay, so. Time to fess up. Yesterday I got home from my volunteer job and chores, frustrated with traffic and all. My husband had spent the day hauling too heavy bags and boxes of trash and yard-sale stuff up from the basement and his back was hurting. He said, "You know? We've been so good. Let's have just one and sip it. We could both use it." And I said, "Well, I would really love that. BUT, let's have a big cup of tea first, sit and rest, have a cookie and talk. Then if we still want a glass, we can have one." I was thinking of you all, how I didn't want to tell you I had not followed through on my plan. We had our tea, we relaxed, we de-stressed, and then, yes, we did have one glass. And I did limit myself to just the one. If I had had a glass of wine right after getting home, I know I would have gulped it and been quickly on to the second and third, so I guess this is progress.

Thanks, RingingCedars, for your comments. However, it was indeed on the General Board that someone bit my head off and kicked it around a bit, at a time when I was looking for support. That same person had offered gentle support to others in a similar situation...but not me. I haven't gone back.

[Emmy Lou]

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NNG well done, the tea first is a great strategy...I wonder if I could use it when I go to my boyfriends house for dinner?
I know what you mean about abbers biting off your head but I look at it this way. They're probably doing it much tougher than modders most of the time, and they're not thinking straight. I just think that it must seem unfair when you're strung out, to have us la di dahing about having just a few. Especially when they're trying not to have any. Doesn't make any nasty comments right, just explains it I suppose. We're all human. And we get heaps of love here.
That said, you should be able to post in a general board, just be aware that it might cause an unwanted reaction.
I had one hour with my boyfriend tonight. Our schedules have not been synced for a couple of weeks, and it doesn't look like it's going to improve for another two more at least. So we caught up for dinner at the local bar. Poor Darl had to leave before he'd had more than just a taste of the beautiful wine. I bought him one when I got my second, so I drank his too. So it's three drinks tonight, but it was really gorgeous wine and it went so well with the anti pasto and garlic prawns which were our dinner. Gotta go to bed now, got my house sitter coming in the morning and I've got to get up early enough to henna my hair...no time for anything these days!
Nite all,
X
Em

[nonamegirl]

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Hey, Emmy... just to clarify. I was abbing, at the time, so wasn't giving any flack about my tipple. Ah, well. I am good to go, really. Don't need them when I have you!:l

[Stewarts]

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I steer clear of most General Boards....majority of the people are self-righteous and, quite a few, are apparently very angry with their lives and take out on random strangers. I had one come on our Board and yell at me...who asked you? No one. The messed up thing about this person was he or she was overly lamenting how great it was they were sober, blah blah blah...I actually asked then "Why are you so angry?" That is actually bi-polar behavior. I wouldn't be surprised if many of the abbers are bi-polar, and if they are, well, they obviously shouldn't be drinking.

Anyone who's trying that "hard" to throw something in your face, is not as "happy", "content" or mentally together as they claim to be. If they were, they wouldn't be behaving as such....they're trying to make their problems, everyone else's...this may seem crass and/or cruel... but f'em. Their negativity doesn't do any good for anyone and is not welcome.

I feel much better today...I am going to sneak out of here and go on a run, I think.

j.

[ToMyHealth]

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Hi guys ~ I have given into the week. Am having great fun, camaraderie, have made some new friends and even though alcohol has been involved, certainly not over the top. Last night was our Pairings Party. Had 2 gl of wine and nice dinner. Today played golf, took almost 5 hrs, and when we went into clubhouse only half of flight was in. Visited a bit with every single person holding a glass of wine, decided to have 1. Well, having only eaten an apple it hit me pretty fast so had some good ol' southern sweet potato fries, tempted to have another wine & decided not. Did have 1 more b4 dinner tonight.

Tomorrow we play in afternoon and, of course, will hit the club/bar after to hear winners. It's our life. There may be a time when I decide to go AF totally, and then I may find these functions boring. Partner & I finished today in 3rd place out of 7 in our flight. It was a Scramble. Will enjoy tomorrow's Best Ball format a lot better!

Skimmed posts, sounds like everyone is doing well, quite tired as dealt with lots of wind. Remember that from running days too- wind affects your eyes, makes you more tired. So good night. Sorry if all about me, but wanted to c/i.

TMH

[nonamegirl]

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And a lovely Friday to all my lovely friends!
Once again I am sitting here in the early morning (well, it is already 6:00, so not so early any more, but I have been up quite a while) with a cat on my lap. I haven't started the coffee pot yet, as DARN it, it wakes up the dog, who is a holy terror scottish terrier and once she is up, there is no rest for the wicked. (But, her saving grace is she is adorable!)

So very sorry that my post about the General Board started something. I am perfectly ready to let it drop now. We are all on the same path, just starting at different places and carrying different packs.

Hmmm... as it turns out, I guess I have nothing else to say! Imagine that. So, I'll just send you all a hug and hope your weekend is restful and everything you deserve!:l:h

[Lasha]

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Hi All,

Some great comments recently and I think the abbers are a bit strong with "it's my way or the highway" attitude. Reminds me of all those in favour of banning electronic cigarettes, they just frown down on anyone trying to improve their health by using them. E-cigs are going to save millions of lives and so is cutting down on al units.

ALCOHOL IS NOT POISON, TOO MUCH IS.

I know someone who has been to re-hab 7 times (rich husband) and when she comes out is back to drinking Vodka big time after a couple of weeks and says she cant stop. Maybe she should mod instead but she wont listen to me.

My favourite saying at the moment is cant or wont.

Stewarts, thanks for Lou Reed song Sweet Jane and yes he did give up H about 25 years ago but he also wrote about drinking, "The last shot" and alas his second liver stopped working. He lived life to the full trying anything but it's a shorter gig.

NNG, I've decorated about half of my house and have to go up to Shetland to work on GH shortly. No peace for the wicked but rewarding when it's over. You can see my work when I set up my new website next year.

Keep on modding
Lash

[Texas40]

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Happy November

Hi all! I have not checked in for a while...but read very often! I know it is time for me to get more involved! Modding is still going well for me. I do not drink at all Monday through Thursday. I am still enjoying some beers on the weekends and Sundays when the Cowboys play a later game. Once football season is over I will try to go back to being AF on Sundays as well. I still really enjoy my Friday and Saturday night beers though. I have been good about drinking way less than I used to. Hubby and I went to a movie on a Saturday night last week and a high school football game the night before....I would have never done that in the past since they were both functions where I could not drink! I had some beer before the movie and a few beers after the game, but I did not obsess and think about drinks while I was out.

It is definitely not always easy though. I do not seem to have a problem going AF when I am at home during the week - even hubby having a few beers in front of me has not bothered me. Where I am having trouble is with my friends. I have always been pretty social (meaning my girlfriends and I get together for dinner and drinks a few times a month at least), and I have not been able to put myself in that situation for the last few months. I feel as if I am somewhat withdrawing from my friends. All of my friends are drinkers - although I do not think any of them have a problem. I don't talk on the phone as much as I used to either.....I would typically do most of my talking after opening up my first beer and I would continue drinking and smoking the whole time I was on the phone! I am definitely less talkative when sober as I am sure most are....and it is such a strange feeling that just talking on the phone to dear friends seems somewhat foreign without the little buzz going on. I guess it is just something I will have to learn to live with!

And regarding the electronic cigarettes.....I am so thankful for them! I smoked over 20 years (am 41 now) and I quit real cigarettes over four months ago using the e-cig. I had tried so many other ways to give the cigs up over the years, but this is the only thing that has worked for me! The thought and smell of a real cigarette disgusts me now...never imagined I would ever feel that way!

So glad to see so many succeeding with their moderation plans here. I know my goal when I found this site was to regain control of my drinking...not to give it up completely. I am much happier now that I feel like I have regained that control. I look forward to my weekends much like I used to years ago before I started my daily drinking. On my drinking days, do I stay within the "guidelines" of no more than two beers for a woman? NO! So I know to some, what I am doing is more harm reduction, but hey, that is ok with me. Drinking only three nights a week instead of seven has actually completely changed my life! I was a daily beer drinker for over a decade! We are saving money, I feel great when I wake up, I don't feel the shame I felt for so many years......just that by itself has changed my outlook on life. I have had a couple of days recently that some not so great things happened and just a few months ago would have been "game on" as far as drinking the night away, but managed to abstain. I did think about it, but the feeling passed as I busied myself. We learn to walk before we can run, and I feel like I am still in the learning to walk stage.

Sorry for such a long post! I definitely want to stay more involved in this community so I do not lose sight of my goals!

Hope all of you are doing well and have a great weekend! It is supposed to be beautiful here in Dallas this weekend! And the Cowboys don't play this Sunday so I get a stress free day:-)

[crocus]

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Just a thought

I know how you feel, Ringing, and I do NOT want to discourage us all from our worthy goals, but I do have to say that I have had evenings like the one you describe....mostly with my family and kids, and they are some of my happiest and most pleasurably recalled memories. I can't say anything exCept that. I feel guilty when it happens, but I wouldn't trade those hours for ANYTHING!

RingingCedars;1584315 wrote: Hi there Modders...had an unexpected party happen in the house I live in now. Drank more than I've allowed myself for some time which amounted to a bottle and half of wine and a rum and coke. It was fun dancing and just being silly with the girls but I did not feel so great Sunday. I've had to reflect a bit on the irony that it was easy to isolate and fall into a dark hole I filled with alcohol but then it was also easier to isolate and climb out of that hole. Now that I am in a shared housing situation I will have to be more vigilant than if I had been living alone. I've also moved into "wine country" and there are at least 3 wineries complete with tasting and retail facilities just on the 5 minute trip to the little town to grocery shop.
TMH I also do not like to set myself up for disappointment with rigid goals, hence the I did not drink yesterday thread.
Keep hitting those sober days all and always be ready to re-evaluate.
Thanks for the Lou Reed hit Stewarts.

[crocus]

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Greetings All on this Friday Night!
Sometime, I will confess why it is so special to me, but it is more of a childhood memoire, so it can wait.

I am up soooo late....8:45 p.m. (hahaha )and am having some wine with the intention not to overdue. Hubby is long since asleep. I'mplanning on just reading our boards, loving you all so much, and maybe listening to some new music on my brand new ipod while I prepare the house for all the kids and spouses to descend on Thanksgiving. It is because of you all that I will not proceed to get drunk tonight, and I thank you all with all my heart! You are there!!!!!!!
Yaaaay! You are really there!:thanks:

[ToMyHealth]

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Hi ~ went a bit over the top last night. Didn't eat much and celebrated. Had an awesome golf game yesterday, and we won our flight for $100 for our team and crystal (trophy. )We ham and egged it well, but our opponents told me to go out and buy a lottery ticket. We started on a Par 5, I parred it and had 2 strokes so net 3. We finished on a Par 4. I was on the green in 4 , then sunk a 70' put. We did not win that hole; it was just so fun to finish like that.

Lash, I love your statement "alcohol is not poison too much is".

TX, loved to hear your story! Cutting down to 3 days/week is huge! Keep,posting!

Crocus, hope you had a nice mod evening preparing for Thanksgiving. You sound so happy!

NNG, how was your Fri night? Good, I bet.

Have a great Mod Weekend!

TMH

[nonamegirl]

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Hello, all my lovely friends!
Texas, welcome back! Keep posting. You fit right in!
TMH, Congratulations on winning the golf! What is "Ham and egged it"? Sounds like a golf term that doesn't translate.
My dear Crocus, please don't regret or feel guilty for the spontaneous parties that happen because loved ones get together. That is what makes life worth living, the laughter and joyous being together of good people. THAT is what alcohol was intended to add to, from the very first time homo sapiens fermented fruit eons ago. THAT is what Lasha meant when he said "Alcohol isn't poison, too much is."

Hurray for us! I think we are a big-hearted, open-minded group - not to say smart and good looking, too!

PS, my Friday was quite nice. Two glasses of wine, some good music, some good talk with the sweet guy I live with. All is well.

[ToMyHealth]

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Hey, NNG, ham and egged it, ying yanged, in other words carried each other. When partner did not hit well, I did & vice versa. We came into yesterday 4 shots behind our opponents, we won yest by 6. Opponents encouraged me to buy a lottery ticket. Silly me, I did today.