I now have joint power of attorney together with my sister, over my mam's affairs as she is mentally incapable of managing herself (through years of drinking). Since Dad died, as well as being an executor of his estate with my sister, (who I don't have a good relationship with and who basically has left everything to me), I am trying to run my mam's house from over 300 miles away. My sister lives approx 5 miles from my mam. All mam's household correspondence comes to me and I have to make sure all bills are paid. My brother lives at home with mam but he is not well, he is a paranoid sychizophrenic and he is doing a brilliant job caring for mam and making sure she is looked after the only way he can. He is doing his best bless him. Mam used to be his carer now he is hers. Over the last few years he has gone beyond the call of duty looking after mam and has had to do things, we wouldn't ask our children to do.
After nearly 9 months of hell - after losing Dad - the last two weeks I have started to get my act together and concentrate on my life. I have felt so much better and have been able to do 16 AF days. Today, this afternoon, all that was all put on the back burner again as I had to deal with so much hassle with the solicitor and dad/mam's bank. I won't go into all the details but it was very stressful. I ended up getting very emotional on the phone to both solicitor/bank/sister. I could feel the stress building up. I could feel the grief for Dad building up, wishing he was here, hoping I could get this sorted for him, what would he be thinking?
I had to leave the house, get out, cause for one fleeting moment I saw a wineglass through the glass in the cupboard. I had to get out.
I went for a walk....and talked to myself. I told myself its okay to feel like this.....this is life...it will get sorted....eventually. I'm back now and I'm fine but I'm scared. I'm sorry for rambling - I just needed to sound off - and I've made myself a nice cup of tea and hopefully all those feelings will flow over me.
Janicexxx
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