Wednesday April 23rd.

[Lorelei]

Wednesday April 23rd.

Morning All

Today is day 9 for me and it was a regular drinking day so I have to be extra vigilant today. I can already hear the whisperings of what will be the screaming in my head later on.

Mary - I live in my head too, sometimes its not a nice place to be. As an analytical chemist my brain is finely honed to pick things apart. In my work life it benefits me greatly, but in my personal life its my Achilles heel. If I knew ways to stop it I would share but I'm still grappling with that myself.

Cindy - You've been doing so well so far so you can continue. We'r all here to cheer you on!.

New - As others have have said, dust yourself off and start a new streak of AF days. One day does not have to be a relapse.

Dixie - Welcome! You will find lots of friendly people here and don't be afraid to share. Chances are someone else here has had the same experience.

Boozehag - Perhaps your hubby is jaded by past attempts to quit and is in the "show me" stage. While I don't think its fair he might be waiting in the back of his mind for the other shoe to drop. Be patient and keep coming here. WE know how hard it is and WE know what an acheivement those AF days are!

To everyone else, have a great day! I'll pop back in later when I have more time.

-lorelei

[aquamarine]

Wednesday April 23rd.

Good Morning! Wow there is so many posting today, that is wonderful.
New Beginning- Start over today and don't look back unless it is to pat yourself on the back for all your successes. I have found that "slip ups" have made me stronger in the past. The worst thing you can do is let them pull you down and let you lose focus on what you are trying to accomplish.
Dixi- You sound like you are really struggling. Hang in there, take baby steps. This can be a very difficult struggle and sometimes it is so easy to get overwhelmed. Pick some small goals for yourself and keep your chin up. Keep coming back here even if you are not succeeding as you would like and get some support that will really help you.
WRM- Congrats on Day 15! That is an accomplishment. You sound so happy and I know exactly how you feel. I am really pleased for you.
I really feel for those of you with partners who are not supportive of your stopping drinking
and who really want you as a drinking partner. Honestly I don't know if I could resist that kind of temptation to drink. I admire your strength. My husband is the opposite. He drinks a bit but could really take it or leave it. The last thing on earth he would want to do is have a drink with me .I don't even care if he has a drink around me ,but he won't. He is just not a trigger for me. We used to drink together but those days are long gone , I guess thanks to my always taking it too far.
Hope everyone out there does not have too much of a struggle today. Be Well and Stay Strong! Aquamarine

[cmhguy3]

Wednesday April 23rd.

Good Morning all,

Beautiful day here, hit day 30 yesterday and it actually took me a bit by surprise, cant say I have done that since before college and that was many years ago! Who is going to stay with me thru May?

Guy
Day 31 AF

[retteacher]

Wednesday April 23rd.

cmhguy: Congratulations on 30 days! That is a huge accomplishment...it tells you that you can live life AF. I'm w/you for May & beyond.

re Slips: I've learned a lot from my many slips. I'm so much happier dealing w/life sober & free. Drinking just sets me back in terms of my emotional & spiritual recovery.

re Circular Thinking: I've indulged in this kind of drinking thinking & must find ways to just stop it. Cut it off somehow. It could be as simple as having something to eat or looking at a crossword puzzle or anything. Procrastination has been a good tool for me. Just because I think I might want a drink doesn't mean I have to go & pour one right away. The feeling usually passes after a short while.

Mary

[Janice]

Wednesday April 23rd.

Hi everyone!!!! What a thread - there's so many of us now!! :thumbs:

Just want to say hi and :welcome: to Dixie, I haven't read your other post yet but I will do.....good luck on your journey. Limers, its a good idea to get a new routine going when you first go AF, and a long walk each morning is a great idea. I am sure the exercise is what got me through the early days without too many cravings. Want, I agree we should blow our own trumpet!! After everything AL has put us through in the past, why shouldn't we celebrate every single day we achieve without him in our lives!! Cindi, so good to hear that your daughter is doing well!!! Mary I shall keep my fingers crossed that your husband is going to be well enough for his op. Lorelei, good luck getting through Day 9, just think double digits coming up!!!

First day with my new little boy at school. It was soooooo hard. He's only 3. I've never worked with a child who has autism before and I've got a lot to learn. Walking home, I was thinking to myself how this time a few months ago, I would have been getting in and pouring that first glass, thinking how much I had earned it!!! Today, I came in, put the kettle on and raided the "naughty cupboard" - yep, chocolate, but who cares I'm on day 57 and theres no way I would consider a drink no matter what sort of day I've had. It doesn't come into the equation now.

Might be back on later, husband's away two nights, and the house is empty....going to stick some music on and strip some walls. love to everyone and those friends still to follow......Janicexxx:l

[Janice]

Wednesday April 23rd.

cmhguy3, cross-posted!! Congratulations on your 30 days - I'm definitely with you for May!!! Janicexxx

[aquamarine]

Wednesday April 23rd.

Guy- Wanted to give you a huge CONGRATULATIONS ON 30 DAYS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
That is truly an accomplishment to be proud of . Be proud of yourself and do something special just for you to reward yourself. I'm approaching 60 days and just thrilled and plan to keep on going into May so glad you will still keep going here. Again-CONGRATULATIONS!
Aquamarine

[Determinator]

Wednesday April 23rd.

Happy Wednesday ABland!

wow, so many great accomplishments I'll just say: congratulations everyone!!!

slow to check in today as my trusty laptop has taken ill.

well, huge trigger coming up for me....Dx is taking off tomorrow for a 10 day excursion with some girlfriends so I'm home alone. This is normally where separation anxiety kicks in for me and I start to "just have a couple" which leads to a multiple-day bender and then horrid detoxing. This is simply NOT happening this time. Tomorrow morning before taking me loverly Dx to the airport I'm taking an antabuse just for insurance sake. I'll most likely be on MWO even more (I can hear the booing and groaning already) hahahahaha.

be well friends

[on my way]

Wednesday April 23rd.

WOOOOOHOOOO PARTY FOR GUY!!!

WAY TO GO ON YOUR 30 DAYS!!!

NB there are do overs allowed here, get back on the horse!!

Limers and Dixi, welcome

Boozehag, your hubby must think of you more as drinking buddy...I hope that will change, it did for me. My hubby now respects (after he figured it all out) what I am trying to do with my life and health.

Janice, if you did not read my post in yesterdays thread, please do. You are appreciated more than you can know. As a parent of a child on the spectrum my greatest gratitude goes out those that have made a difference in my sons life. The job is tough but the rewards are wondeful.

Hope all you abbers have a great day!!

on my way

[Mohun]

Wednesday April 23rd.

Nice job on 30 days Guy. I'm almost half way there.

Thanks for the encouragement from everyone else. My wife really is very good. It's just that she only has a couple of drinks a month and thinks I should be able to do the same. Oh well. At least she isn't a moderate drinker. That would be really tough.

I am not sure if men have an easier time or not (as someone posted). I was lucky (?) to go through the worst of my withdrawals when I was already quite sick. I had an infection and was spiking a high fever for the better part of six days. But right now, it's lick I flicked a switch in my head. Kind of like closing a chapter in a book.

[retteacher]

Wednesday April 23rd.

Mohun: I love the switch analogy.

Deter: I too used my husband's absence as a trigger. It doesn't have to be that way. I know you'll find worthwhile endeavors to keep you busy while Dx is gone.

M

[Beck]

Wednesday April 23rd.

Mohun,

I got the stomach flu for Days 12 & 13. Was for the best as that was the 2nd Fri and Sat and I always struggled on Day 12.

Det, sounds like you've got a good plan!

Beck

[wantrealmeaning]

Wednesday April 23rd.

Thanks for all your words of support :thanks:

Congrats Guy for your 30 days, I'll definately join you for May.

There's loads of us on here today, it's great.

I've had a good day gardening again today, I'll have to take some pics when I've finished.
Can I upload photos even though I'm not a subscriber?

Hope every ones having a good morning, day, evening where ever you are.

:l:h
want
xx

[boozehag]

Wednesday April 23rd.

Yep count me in for May and June and July and August.....
Just for the record though.....It is not that my husband is not supportive its more that he just doesnt communciate very well. He is just a typical kiwi bloke. "Good on ya mate pass the speights" (thats beer by the way) is about the best you would get from him even if you won an olympic medal. I am sure if pushed he would say he was pleased about it. More so because he was the one who always had to clean up the mess in the morning. All those wine bottles and ash trays brimming with cigarette buts. He doesnt drink at home or smoke (goes to the pub now and then) so that must have been hard and I certainly wasnt his drinking buddy - he would have killed himself rather than drink with me and my cronies. Takes all sorts eh...
BH

[Determinator]

Wednesday April 23rd.

Wantrealmeaning, yes you can upload pictures (I think). give it a go!