May 3 - May AFers

[Beck]

May 3 - May AFers

Hi Guys,

Checking in late today. Always busy on Saturdays...

Janice, Aqua, Mary - THis is Day 90 for me. If you recall I almost packed it in on Day 65. I think that there is something to what you are all saying. Somehow it doesn't feel so special anymore. You know you are doing the right thing and take heart from that but like I posted yesterday...First 30 days I was holding on by my fingernails, next 30 feeling great, these last 30 realizing that I now had to deal. It is daunting because we trained ourselves to avoid through AL. I'm dealing now and I'm getting great results - my husband is actually listening and responding. So stay in the AF game.

I'm really pressed for time at the moment so can't say hello to all.

Wishing you all continued success,
Beck

[retteacher]

May 3 - May AFers

Beck: What an encouraging post! Yes, it's so easy to "pack it in" but I won't do that. You just gave me what I needed to continue. Today was a pretty difficult day dealing many, many emotions that I used to numb out. I'm going to bed early w/a crime book I'm reading. I'll wake up hangover free. Thank you so much, & CONGRATULATIONS on reaching 90 days. That's 3 whole months wo/a single drink. I've been there, & I know how wonderful you must feel. What a sense of accomplishment.

I like what you said about your husband listening. When I'm drinking nothing gets resolved. Either I'm impaired or I'm feeling so guilty I can't press on to explore issues. Now, sober can be uncomfortable for both of us, but issues are being cleared up. That's good but not easy.

Again, congratulations on 90 days. I feel very proud of your accomplishment. Mary

[Lila]

May 3 - May AFers

This is fun - it started with me just a nite without drinking, and now because of this Month thing, I feel like I'm on this track. Maybe I'll even do another month!!!

[Beck]

May 3 - May AFers

Lila,

For me, I just started posting on the ABS thread and did not want to fall off. Sounds silly but it does help.
I should have mentioned earlier that I have 4 girls - ages 7,11,13,15. I know all about the pre-teen thing. Though I will tell you that my girls spent the six years overseas (England and Italy) and having only been in the US for 7 months, don't really act like "typical" American kids - we have no video games, watch very little tv, etc. they are very happy that way - it is not punishment but our norm. As for messiness, yep. But if they want allowance they earn it - so they must pickup.

Glad this is working for you,
Beck

[july232007]

May 3 - May AFers

Hello Abbers,

For me the progression over days, then weeks, then months AF was the slow understanding that I don't drink anymore. I think you go from hanging on to some kind of acceptance that that is who I am now. It is a quiet change.

Godd night May Abbers.

July

Day 283 AF

[Peanut]

May 3 - May AFers

Lila,
No preteens anymore, but I have had 3, two of them girls - total slobs!!! The girls don't live with me anymore - gained early independence from me - and they are still slobs. Well - not really, that doesn't sound very nice. I went last spring to visit my eldest daughter (20) on the coast, and had to get them all (she and roomates) in the kitchen to clean out the scarey fridge, and informed them of the fact that maybe they have so many mice in their place because there are so many food crumbs around. I don't think any of them have ever wiped a counter down in their lives!!! Mama to the rescue!! And I'm not kidding out the mice!!

Anyway, despite how busy and messy the preteen time is, for some kids, one can never be prepared for the teen times. Ooohh, we had troubles!!!!! But that is a whole nuther story!!!!!!

Peanut