Thursday 8th May

[Seen the light!]

Good Morning!!!!!!

Let me be the 1st to congratulate you Want and Big mac on 30 DAYS!!! A brilliant achievement and one I am looking forward to reaching. Well done to Bestlife for yesterday too xxx

D-Cat - I think you have come to the right place - I don't think I could moderate at this moment in time I really need to do a long stretch Af and see where this takes me - glad you've joined us.

It's another beautiful morning here in the UK - It makes such a change for us to have a few nice days one after the other don't ya think! Yesterday I had my bedroom window open and there was breeze coming in and I was suddenly reminded of memories of all those summer mornings in the past where I would wake up feeling so rough and hungover. The day would be wasted - such a waste of time. Made me think - it's not gonna happen again!!

Best go get the boys up for school - hope you all have a lovely day xxxxxxxxxxx

[wantrealmeaning]

Thursday 8th May

:happy::yay::rays::danthin: I've done it, 30 days, this is a biggy for me, I'm really proud of myself. Bring on the next 30. If I can get to 60 days that'll be the longest AF time for me in 25yrs not counting pregnancies.

Thanks Seen, the gorgeous weather certainly does make a difference.

Bestlife congrats for 30days yesterday!!!!

BigMac, congrats for your 30days AF today, hope you feel as good as I do.

Hi to everyone to come and hugs all round from a very happy and sober me:l

I'll check in again later, gotta take the kids to school.

love want
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[rustop61]

Thursday 8th May

Hi Seen, Want and all to come

Congratulations Want, Big Mac, Bestlife on your 30 Days. It is so important for me to log on here and read good news stories like this. I'm on Day 38 and have been struggling the last few days. The usual drinking thoughts but I'm determined not to give into them. Here's to the next 30, I know I'm in good company.

It's a beautiful day again, spent most of yesterday in garden and was so wrecked, fell asleep on the couch watching tv. It's one way of getting through the witching hour!! Have loads to do again today. Have a great day everyone.

Rustop

[jessie]

Thursday 8th May

Congratulations to you all. I am on day 7 and I feel crappy. Sigh! But still very determined.
Jessie

[jinja]

Thursday 8th May

Good morning,

I don't know if I'm using this forum correctly, I just feel I need to process some thoughts/feelings. I am viewing this as a way of recovery as I have suppressed who I am & how I feel for so long that for me this is an important step.

So, last night my eldest (7yrs) comes through at 2am w/a stomach-ache. She suffers from anxiety so this is a very common complaint. Daft that it suddenly struck me that I also get hit by that sudden adrenalin rush that lodges itself in my solar plexus - which then hurts after the initial cause has been solved. My solution to this used to be AL (comfortably numb as 4TBoyz once said). For her this started when she was 4, we had an armed robbery at home one evening. One of the silly sods woke her from her bed & brought her to me, even after I asked her to be left or at least let me be the one to get her. Needless to say, the whole 'stolen by a stranger' sat hard with her for a long time. We have done the therapy thing and she understands the difference between that threat & everyday stress, but how to process & deal w/it is tough for her.

I've had my fair share of guns waved in my face, from living through a coup in central Africa & 10 years here, but that threat/stress I find so much easier to deal with. Firstly it doesn't happen everyday!! But the slow motion calm that descends I find empowering in a very vulnerable situation.

The everyday stuff is my new battle and has brought me much closer to truely understanding and empathising with my daughter. A positive step as this type of recognition for me is a new and mystifying exprience.

Thanks for listening - I know to many that this was a very 'duh!' statement - maybe that's why the anonymity of this forum is so helpful.

Congrats to Big, Want & Best - awsome!!

Hope all have a great day & see you tomorrow. xx

Take care
xxx

[Eastender]

Thursday 8th May

Just lost my post Hate it when that happens.
Congratulations Want,Best and Big Mac on your 30 days AF. Would be called a hat trick in UK football 3 goals!
The weather is lovely here need to get on with work whgile able to!
Jinja Our issues is usually what makes us pick up the bottle to hide or blank out.Its good to talk about them.I pondered for a while before posting a health issue last night,This morning I am glad I did.so much help and advice was given,
I am so sorry to hear what your daughter had suffered she is just a baby. I am glad for you that you have changed how you deal with it.

Have a great day everyone

Eastx

[flyinhigh]

Thursday 8th May

Good Morning all

Congratulations Best, Big and Real...GREAT JOB on 30!!!!!!!!! It really gives inspiration to those behind and ahead of you!
I am on day 12, a lucky dozen! Can't believe I have come this far. The AL voice does creep in, like last night but I have found distraction to be the best way. My bf does not drink, so when I would kisses were not something he was always into. BUT now that I am AF.....kisses galore!!!! It is a wonderful way to conquer this demon.

Jinja and Jessie- sorry to hear of your struggles. I do hold you both in my thoughts. It is during the harder times of life that we really get to show what we are made of. Good luck!

As to the weather, which seems to be a hot topic on this thread. It is wonderfully RAINY here!! LOL!!! We needed it though, it is a nice break from all those gorgeous sunny spring days we have been having! I do LOVE the smell of rain!

Well, hope everyone has a great sober day!
flyin'

[retteacher]

Thursday 8th May

Hi Everyone: Great job on milestones. Today is our last day of full-time b-sitting. I've been doing most of it, because my husband still has some healing to do. I'll be back more fully tomorrow & next week. Mary

[charlee]

Thursday 8th May

Morning everyone
Congratulations to those of you who have reached milestones!!
Jessie day 7....hopefully the crapiness should be easing...keep that determination!!...we all just need to embrace our sobriety and keep plugging along dealing with our day to day "stuff"...FallenAngel has a line on the profile that reads "The novelty of the quit is gone...the quiet battle rages on"..... think I got it right.......I think those words say it all........That quiet battle....

Will be keeping Chief in my thoughts today, and keep my fingers crossed for some good news.....

Hope everyone has a good day.......

[Lila]

Thursday 8th May

Goodd morning, everyone! It is Day 9 for me.
Wow, Jinja! How scary. For me, I think alcohol is a way as well to blank out my feelings, moostly of panic, fear, and stress. So for me, it does feel profound to be like, I can feel this fear, or nervousness, I don't have to hide in a beer bottle.
Thanks for sharing thoughts and feelings, everybody. I am introverting a lot, because I have 3 kids, am kinda scared about things, and this is one of the few ways I communicate with 'grown-ups.'
Share away!
Lila

[4theboyz]

Thursday 8th May

Good Morning Abbers!!

Seen, thanks for starting another great AF day!

Want and BigMac - Congratulations on the 30 Days!!

Jessie, keep up the effort, 7 days/1 week is a great milestone and it only gets easier from there on out.

Jinja, it is tough to have to deal with such strong issues amongst all else, perhaps you could start your own thread in "Tell us your story" so we could share in your experiences?

Flying, I so remember kisses being scarce to avoid being detected, it is so nice to be able to be spontaneous again!

Lila well done on 9 days and I bet the kids are happy for you too!

Well lets kiss away and have a great AF day today!!

[Lorelei]

Thursday 8th May

Morning All,

Boy did I have to really focus on recovery last night, I am having some minor surgery tomorrow to remove a cyst that happens to be in the skin on my right breast. Like I said its minor but I am starting to flip out a bit. I came the closest I have come to throwing my days out the window yesterday, but I did not. I'm focusing on how close to 30 I am and right now thats enough to keep me going.

-lorelei

[disapprovingcat]

Thursday 8th May

Hello to all and a very big congrats to reaching the 30 day milestone to Want,Best and Big Mac. In my brief af tenure, it seems to help when the "30 day" happens on a different day than the first of the month - the little goals seem much more attainable!

I went out without foundation on yesterday. That's how much better my skin looks. Stupid stuff like that helps you keep on keeping on! :H

I'm resolute in not toasting (myself) at the dinner meeting tonight. I'm convinced now that after 2+ months AF, one drink would make me silly or run off at the mouth and I need to be clear.

Jessie - I still felt rotten at 7 days, which just proves what you've been putting your body through. Keep it up, I guarantee that you'll be feeling so much better very soon.

Jinja - *gasp* armed robbery? lots of guns? How scary for you all, and especially your little girl. And how awesome that you can handle the stress in a different way now!

Lorelei - best of luck with your procedure. for you:

And continued success to the 'absters' funny term :H

crudeness below - apologies ahead of time
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speaking of abstinence - I saw a sticker yesterday that read: Abstinence makes the church grow fondlers

[Mohun]

Thursday 8th May

Wow. 3 people with 30 days. :goodjob: I am on day 28 and still going strong. Pretty soon, I hope to start counting in terms of months.

Have a great day everyone.

Mo.

[charlee]

Thursday 8th May

Mohun
Something to look forward too....celebrating your 30 days this weekend!!!....