Sunday 11th May

[retteacher]

Sunday 11th May

Lila: You are so right about using AL to cope. I did that for more years than I want to admit. Any little upset would send me running to the bottle. Now, I'm having to learn to deal w/conflict, upset, feelings, etc. on my own (at the ripe old age of 63). It is not easy but so worth it. Jinja, I too am on the shy side, but I've learned to push through the nerves. For years, I drank to get through social situations. I don't want to do that any more. If people see that I'm nervous, so be it! It's not the end of the world. I think as I cope w/social situations & conflicts etc. sober, it'll get easier. Take care of your sobriety, & again to all the moms out there: "Happy Mother's Day!" I'll check back later. Mary

[DogLvr]

Sunday 11th May

Good morning to all - got through another night = was easy as I had a race in the am and we didn't go out. Just like a lot of these posts today, I fear getting into a social setting with friends - too tempting for me at this point.
Eastender congrats on getting through last night.
Cindi - good luck with the wedding - there should be so much positive energy there!
Lila - I tried the psyllium yesterday and will do it for a few
Jinja - just get back on the wagon and keep checking here - it helped me to come here and the chat room before I went out on Thursday.
Happy Mothers Day to all those Mothers out there.

[charlee]

Sunday 11th May

Lila
Dealing with things we don't want to or scared to, things we have always given to AL to handle is not an easy task. Some of us have spent many years in that "numbing mode" and now that the security blanket is gone the work begins. It takes time, and the longer AL is not part of your life, you will see the confidence start creeping back in. Be kind to yourself, give yourself time.....I did not notice any great mental change when first fiving up the booze. I was content in just basking in the physical changes, just happy to feel good and wake up every morning without a hangover. The mental "stuff" started creeping back slowly.....as my confidence grew I started to face the day with a new attitude. You will find yourself getting mentally stronger as each AF day passes.....It will happen...Hang in there!!

[Mohun]

Sunday 11th May

Happy Mother's Day. Congratulation on the pending wedding Cindi. :l

Sorry for those who had slips. Keep trying. I know how difficult situations can be triggers, but as others have said, have a plan of action.

Day 31 and counting for me.

[flyinhigh]

Sunday 11th May

Good morning

Hello and thank you to those that gave me wishes of happiness on my bday and to those that gave me support in dealing with my bday party last night. :thanks:

I made it through the night and am on day 15!!!!

Well, I discovered, my friends DID care that I was NOT drinking. One of my friends, tried real hard... 3X... to get me to just have one with them....or drink from the communal beer. I actually found sustenance in my ideals of not drinking and felt actually more empowered every time I had to say no to her. In my head, AL was playin' his own games and that was the harder battle, but through dealing with my friend, it actually gave my will more strength. I feel great today and am so proud that I beat down AL with my strength.

Happy Momma day to all, hope you are all doing what YOU want today. :h

I am very proud of those that have picked themselves up from off the floor. ODAT!! I look forward to you continuing your journey with us through May!!!

flyin'

[Lila]

Sunday 11th May

This is really amazing - I've probably said this already, but I am a loner and an introvert - (I have 3 kids so they are my 'social life') but I've stayed dry 12 days because of all of you.
Lila

[Mohun]

Sunday 11th May

That's fantastic Flyin'. That was one hell of a test to pass and a good indicator of things to come. I can't tell you how happy I am for you. :l Oh and happy belated birthday as well.

Mo.

[Determinator]

Sunday 11th May

Happy Mother's Day!!!

Flyinhigh, you have just shown yourself that you are stronger than perhaps you knew, well done!

Lausibel, anxiety and drinking is a very common theme amongst us. I was shy to the point of sociopathic for a lot of my life. After getting some AF time behind me I was amazed to see how lively I've become. Now I'm like a happy little rash that you just can't get rid of. hahahahahaha.

Sobriety is hip, fun, and empowering

be well friends

[Janice]

Sunday 11th May

Hi everyone....late on today, been over to my mum-in-law's for a walk on the Downs and a BBQ....its been an absolutely stunning day here!!

So sorry to those friends who have had recent slips......pick yourselves up, get right back on track and stay close to MWO.......you CAN do this!! :l

Happy Mother's Day to all those special "mams" in the States........Cindi, what a lovely Mother's Day present for you, seeing your girl get married......I bet there won't be a dry eye in the house!!!!

Want....I am SO pleased to hear your night went well and you stayed AF though your friend was drinking. What a test for you!!!! Your strength and determination seem to be gaining momentum with every AF day you notch up!!!! :goodjob:

Great to see this thread so busy each day, don't know what I'd do without you all!:thanks:

love Janicexxx