Monday 19th May

[Beck]

Monday 19th May

Cross posting...

D-Cat congrats on 90 Days!!! Are you in for 120 or modding? I know we have had the same approach...

OMW, yes, lack of patience with some folks. Seemed to tolerate my sister much better when I was drinking...now I see just how lazy she is...laziness makes me nuts!!! I too am so much happier when I am actually present for my girls...makes for some very nice evenings - esp now that soccer is winding down (one last game and then one BBQ).

Good Day,
Beck

[DogLvr]

Monday 19th May

Good morning (late) all! Hope everyone had a strong weekend.
Loppy - I like club soda with a splash of cranberry & lime.
Determinator - Have an awesome time in Alaska - that should be a spectacular trip! And I bet if you sign up for all the adventures that start early morning - you can easily sidestep the al pressure.
Seen the light - I know how you feel about staying away - I did that for a while too - but have found that it's more important to just come back in and read - even if I don't post - you're definitely not alone in this challenge!
On My Way.. - I cracked up when I read your "frustration" comments - I used to feel that way all the time. But I've had the opposite reaction now that I'm trying to be AL-Free. I don't feel the need to share my opinions as much anymore - I think it's because I have to spend too much time working on myself!
Disapproving...Congratulations on 90 Days - that's an awesome milestone!

Day 19 for me - for some reason I can't quite catch up to Lila!!! Had family events all weekend - which would have been the perfect opportunity in the past for me to drink a bottle of wine - justifying that it was so I could put up with all the cousins, kids, etc. I was so much more serene and conscious this time - and able to play the fun aunt with the nephews, instead of the tipsy aunt!

Hope everyone has a wonderful Monday!

[retteacher]

Monday 19th May

OMW: I tend to be much more irritable (esp w/hubby's idiosyncracies) when sober. For me:
-I'm not numb anymore.
-I'm not so guilt-ridden...I didn't feel I had to right to say anything while drinking.

After the first few days of just wanting get everything out (nastily), I've been settling in & clearing up issues in the proper way. In some ways for our families, sobriety must seem like a double-edged sword. Mary

[time2change]

Monday 19th May

Good Morning or soon to be afternoon here.

Eveyone seems to be having a good day so far. Today is day 21 (3weeks) for me which is a definite record. It has been a long time since I can say that. Funny that I had many many day 1 thru 5's but was never very good at racking up more than that.

i do beleive that being here is making a difference, but i can truly say thtat i never want to have to go through that first week again. I know that by making the right choice everyday i can continue to feel this good. I may not be emotionally feeling great, but I do think it will come in time. It is nice to not feel like dragging myself to work, and hiding the night befores damage.

Hope you all continue to do weel.

[vinophile]

Monday 19th May

Happily a very active abs board today!!!! Some very interesting topics!!!!

Previously (I'm on day 3 right now) when I'd go AF for a while I would notice that I had a great deal more patience in most situations...mostly with my kids, mother,husband and people that needed empathy. However, on the flip side, I had very little tolerance for other people and situations that, while drinking, I might have put up with. While AF I need much less socializing and can barely tolerate banal chatter. I think,in some way, I drink to make tolerable annoying people and boring social situations. Yikes, that's kind of scary to admit!!!! I know when I'm first (re) starting and AF stretch I find that I'm much happier reading or spending a quiet evening watching a film. Hopefully ,with sobriety, I'll develop patience for things and people that are deserving and I'll divorce myself from situations and people that zap it. I know , I know it works well in theory......but I'm trying.
Got to run and do some errands. Will check back.

Janet

[Beck]

Monday 19th May

Janet,

Understand completely...banal chatter - so little patience with that. I lived in Europe for nearly 7 years I come back and my sister talks about reality TV and NASCAR - YIPES!!!! No offense to anyone out there but watching people drive around in circles!!! and TV - I'm trying to figure out how to just get my local channels without the old fashioned antenna. I don't want 250 channels - I want 5 or 6 and I want to know if a tornado is coming. That's about it.

And here's the thing I hate to admit. What I miss about drinking - I like being a little out of control. Will need another outlet for that - maybe mountain biking...if I could just find a mountain...

Beck

[cowgal]

Monday 19th May

hey all

Very late checking in today, hope Dx and Det have a great time in Alaska, wow, what a great trip that will be...............

Everyone here sounds so wonderful and positive, not here, as I am back at day 1, had a horrible weekend, but I am looking to this day to be AF, and am determined AGAIN to do it, I am not going to let AL get the better of me, NO WAY!!!!:no:

Everyone have an awesome AF Monday!!!:happy::wd::thumbs:


lots of love,:l

MA

[Janice]

Monday 19th May

What a busy thread today - great to check in and read how everyone is doing!!

Loppy, I love tonic water with ice & lemon when I'm out but I tried Ame on Saturday night - the red one with berries (I think) and it was really nice!!

Have a lovely trip Det & Dx!!! Hannah, hope you enjoy your golf!!! Brett, lovely to "see" you over here - can't believe you've got 28 days under your belt - you have done amazing!!!

I too have had the "blahs" over the last week (or so!!).....feel much better today and much more positive. I also realise that on Saturday night when we were at friends for dinner, how easily I could have chucked away all my hard earned days. There was one moment, just one little moment - when the guy was trying to persuade me to have "just a drop" of his best expensive red wine to go with the beef. Glad to say thats all it was, "just a moment". As I was standing there, in my head I fastforwarded time and imagined getting up Sunday morning, looking at myself in the mirror and having to come on here to tell you guys. Just how powerful is MWO!!!

Disapproving, a big congratulations on your 90 days... your just a week ahead of me!!! Beck, happy anniversary for yesterday!!! Also, thanks for pm-ing me, it really helped me at a difficult time. Its our silver wedding in December and we're treating ourselves to a week in Switzerland at the end of June (coincides with Dad's anniversary so something "happy" to think about!!). Cowgal sorry you had a bad weekend, but what a great attitude you've got about picking yourself back up!!!

To everyone else......stay positive as much as you can, I cannot emphasise enough how important that is. Do whatever "floats your boat" to keep the happy hormones going - now there's a thought!!!

Want, haven't heard from you, I'm assuming your lovely children are making you wait your turn for the computer!!!

love to everyone,

Janicexxx:l
83 days AF

[DogLvr]

Monday 19th May

Beck - I feel exactly the same way - I think I am an adrenaline junkie - let me know what fun you've replaced it with! I've been doing kickboxing (bags only - no people) - and that seems to keep me pumped up for several hours afteward.

Cowgal - have a great Monday and enjoy your AF day!

[on my way]

Monday 19th May

Dispacat....I never gave much thought to peri-menopause. Hummm that may explain a lot here. I have been walking around here chuckling all afternoon. It's a scary thought to entertain me with pms and in pm, oh god, my poor husband. Guess I could have choosen a better time to stop boozing.:H

Janet, I think you nailed it for me. "Banal chatter" That's right on the money. Some people are easier to tolerate when I'm smashed. I will put them on the avoid list

Well, off to tend to my sick 3 year old.

on my way

[disapprovingcat]

Monday 19th May

on my way;328777 wrote: Dispacat....I never gave much thought to peri-menopause. Hummm that may explain a lot here. I have been walking around here chuckling all afternoon. It's a scary thought to entertain me with pms and in pm, oh god, my poor husband. Guess I could have choosen a better time to stop boozing.

I hope your sick kid gets better soon..

But yeah I'm in the midst of p-m, my periods are now 3 weeks apart - how lovely! But putting down the AL I haven't woken up with those darn soak through and leave you awake for hours night sweats - not for almost 3 months. I suppose they will come back at some point, but I'm happy for the reprieve for now.

Thanks for the good wishes on my 90 days everyone.

Beck - I don't know what's next. NOT having a drink is habit now. I still miss the taste, and the buzz. If I have a drink and successfully go back to abstaining, great. But what if I don't? Then I know that I can never drink again. That it wasn't just a bad habit, and self-medication for depression. Better to not poke the tiger - for today at least. So it's ODAT until it's not. :thanks: