Mother's Ruin

[Seen the light!]

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Janice

Hope your mum improves soon - I will be thinking of you - stay strong for her xxxx

[Janice]

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Thank you all so much for your kind thoughts......I've just rang the hospital this morning and thankfully she had a settled night on the medication. I really did think she'd be up all night, "walking the walls". Waiting for blood tests, scans and doctors' rounds today.

Its going to be so hard but a decision is going to have to be made this year about what happens when she's discharged. Last year I fought tooth and nail for her to go back home and thats what my brother wanted as well (my brother's doctors and social services were pushing for her to go into residential care ) - my brother's doctors (and I am!) are really concerned about his mental health (he's a paranoid schizophrenic). She only went home last year on condition she accepted help from social services.....she agreed to this but once she was home after 3 weeks she wouldn't let them in and made my brother's life a misery until he told them not to come anymore. This year, it may well be a different story....

Anyway, a big thank you again....my husband's away and it was just good to "talk" to friends.

Janicexxx

[happydog]

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Hi Janice,
Thinking of you ...You are in my prays.
It must be hard for you.
Sorry to hear about your mum and also your brother as well.
Keep strong janice you have mwo family that love you.x:l

Much Love

Teardrop.x

[rustop61]

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Janice

I echo what Chief has just said, we are all proud of you... stay strong.

Rustop

[vinophile]

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Janice,
I know this must be an very difficult time for you. You are such a caring person and are such an inspiration for me and so many of us here.
I don't know if you are angry at your Mam (I probably would be) for what her drinking did to your family but I think Hannah made a good point. When our parents were our age sites like MWO didn't exist. Where could they get help?....Especially being women, it was probably so much easier to deny and hide in those days. We have to thank our lucky stars for this place(MWO) and other recovery options...... and it's still so hard!!!!
I'm thinking of you. You are one strong lady!!
Let us know how she (and you) are doing.

Janet

[Janice]

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Thanks Janet. You know, I stopped being angry with mam last year. While Dad was alive and still living in the house, he would ring me every night in tears.....sometimes from MacDonalds with his suitcase packed!! Dad was no angel, far from it, but he didn't deserve what she put him through. Yeah I definitely felt angry in those days and often would try and talk to mam about her drinking but it would always end up with us shouting at each other. Since he died, I know he's out of it, he's got peace. No, I don't feel angry with mam now, I feel sad for her. I'll let you know how things go.

Janicexxx