June 21 - Sat. - Daily Thread

[ready2change]

June 21 - Sat. - Daily Thread

Great job Syrpentine!!! Maybe check out the sites in downtown Denver. Explore new things, just don't take AL along with you. 7 days is fantastic. I guess your finding out that if your busy, there's no time for AL. Keep up the good work and keep us posted!

R2C

[vinophile]

June 21 - Sat. - Daily Thread

Very late Sat night check-in,
Everyone sounds good tonight. I love spending more time here but have just been otherwise occupied.I so look foward to spending some time here tomorrow. I really feel like i'm missing something when i don't get time here.
I'm thrilled as Sat night is usually my hardest night and, even though we did go out for dinner, I breezed right through the meal AF.
I'm definately looking foward to my HF morning tomorrow,

nighty night all,

Janet

[july232007]

June 21 - Sat. - Daily Thread

Who to tell your AF?

I have a question for anyone who is AF and hid it from friends and family, do you ever come
out and if so why? Is it a necessary step for recovery?

Biscuit,

A great question that I have seen different answers to over my time here.

For me, I have discussed this choice--to live AF--with my wife and my three children. With my wife it was discussed as a problem that I had to deal with. To me it had become a critical issue.

To my children, I just told them of my decision as a choice in how best to live your life. I left it at that with my 8 and 11 year old. For my then 13 year old I was as honest as I could be because I know she will have decisions of her own to make about drinking, and I believe she can handle the truth.

I have confided in few others other than to to respond that "I don't drink anymore" or simply "no thank you" when offered alcohol. At first it seemed odd to some, but for most people it was of no significance.

A couple nights ago a buddy showed up at my house with his son and his usual staple of cold beer for an evening hanging out. He asked me, "are you still on that off the beer, kick?" I simply replied, "yes". And that was it. I like this friend but I don't feel I need to tell him that "this off the beer thing" is really about me reclaiming my life and my fear that if I did not take action I could do lasting damage to my marriage, hurt my kids' young lives and kill the little self respect I had left.

So, I think it depends on why you want to tell people. Is it for you or for them? For me I know why I had to quit and I wanted that candor with my wife and eldest child. For a couple close friends I wanted to share part of my life changing decision and the reasons for it. For most other friends I'm happy to say I don't drink.

My thinking Biscuit, hope it gives you one man's view of this.

Take care,

July

Day 331 AF

[Lila]

June 21 - Sat. - Daily Thread

Hi all,
I am back on the thread. I did 21 days, thanks to everyone's support, and then slid back. Gradually, then a little bit more.
I really felt like this thread did it, not just me.
OK, no more wine, no more beer!
I just need everyone's help.
It sounds like people have made lots of progress in my absense. That is great to hear.
Love,
Lila

[Destined for Joy]

June 21 - Sat. - Daily Thread

Newbie

Hello, everyone....yesterday morning was a Divine appointment for me, I truly believe! After one more night of broken sleep pocked with disgust and regrets I decided to look up information for Antabuse...just somewhere to start. The links led me to this group...Thank God! What a relief to find so many other people (seems mostly women?) who share the same perspectives on this demon that commandeers our sensibilities and morals. I have been alcohol dependent since I was 12....that would be fourty years now. I have tried various programs and enjoyed periods of freedom from alcohol...beer is my choice, I was even free for 51/2 years and then picked up three years ago. I live a lie every day...to my co-workers and church friends...to clients I coach on Health and Wellness....and none suspect. Only my husband (who is unsure of the amount I consume) knows and hates seeing me drunk each night and feels powerless to help change anything...there are things he could change, but, that's another discussion. I am excited to find you. I read about Nutritonal support for alcohol withdrawl many years ago before it was popular....try telling a bunch of AAers that donuts and candy are not the best choice to serve at meetings!! Anyway, looking forward to being a part of this community....Thanks!

[Cinders]

June 21 - Sat. - Daily Thread

Hello Everyone,

I am back after a week off.

Wow, new ones on the thread. :welcome:

I am doing okay. Pain is not gone and I figure I must delve deeper. It is not simply a sinus infection, there is a lot more going on.

However, I am still doing well. I am going to meet my granddaughter at the pool at 1:00 and I am trying to call my son and his wife so I can take the grandsons.

I fly out at 0 dark hundred in the a.m. after flying in last night at 8:00. I will be tired.

Oh well. It pays the bills.

Hope all have a wonderful AF day and weekend.

Love,
Cindi

[biscuit]

June 21 - Sat. - Daily Thread

July232007, 331 days that is awesome! Thanks for your reply. I guess I will just take it on a day to day, person to person
basis. I am really new at this (11 days af). Not an issue yet, so far Hubby knows and has joined
me and we have both agreed no AL in our house.

Thanks
Biscuit

[biscuit]

June 21 - Sat. - Daily Thread

July232007, 331 days that is awesome! Thanks for your reply. I guess I will just take it on a day to day, person to person
basis. I am really new at this (11 days af). Not an issue yet, so far Hubby knows and has joined
me and we have both agreed no AL in our house.

Thanks
Biscuit