AF Daily - Sunday November 30

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AF Daily - Sunday November 30

Hi, I am a lurker with a very occasional "Hi" but I do love this thread, it keeps me on track especially when I feel weak. Everyone is so open and honest, and it just has a very positve vibe, plus lots of sound advice.
I soak it up like a sponge....

[SAUSAGE]

AF Daily - Sunday November 30

I've been thinking about tonight and I understand why the cravings were so strong. All the triggers that normally led me to drink before were present - and very intense

ie dealing with the kids alone for several days without any respite (husband away)
dealing with sick kids (one with a high temp and another that had vomiting - and I don't cope at all well with vomit!!!)
couldn't get out the house - because of the children, for a change of scene
very tired due to very little /interrupted sleep for 2 nights running
couldn't even get out of the house with the kids (which helps a little) as they weren't up to it
unable to exercise (because I couldn't leave the kids) - normally a release / relief for me
Then finally it's all over, husband gets back, kids appear better, I dicover i've got conjuncitivits -eye really hurts - and then he goes and opens a bottle of chilled white wine!!!

But I got through it - I didn't drink, - if I can get through this I know I can succeed - this has made me a lot stronger, I'm so glad I didn't give in and I owe tonight's success to all my friends on MWO

Thanks everyone !!

[A Work in Progress]

AF Daily - Sunday November 30

Sausage, GOOD FOR YOU! Now... how to deal with those triggers, next time? Kids will get sick...

Also, this may sound trivial to you... but, here's one idea that occurred to me when I just read your post. What you wrote down, which of course reflected what you were thinking, is "chilled white wine." Doesn't that sound lovely? The words we use, even (or especially) in the privacy of our own minds, are so powerful... they give rise to emotions, impulses, etc. If, instead, you use the phrase "bottle of wine," instead, it sounds so much less marvelously tempting, at least it does, to me.

Part of what I do to help me in my own recovery is to carefully and compassionately observe my own thoughts, including the words or sentences or messages that are going through my mind. If I hear myself saying "a nice single malt whisky, on the rocks," I immediately substitute the phrase: "glass of liquor," or even "a glass of poison." It helps.

wip

[beatle]

AF Daily - Sunday November 30

Hi all! Checking in just under the wire (almost midnight here). I love this thread.

Sausage, you are really inspiring! To get through the weekend AF when confronted with all those triggers at once... now that is will power.

My strategy has been to avoid triggers as much as possible and identify them immediately when I can't avoid them and then do something to take them away. I know, it sounds like a cowardly approach, but as everyone here keeps saying, "whatever works!"

Well, last night my hub was out at a guys bonding thing (bonding=drinking), and normally that would have been a huge trigger for me. Left alone with the kids (again), knowing he is drinking and having a great time, bla bla bla pity party, yessir.

Anyway, I anticipated it and planned all these lovely things I would do, and actually, I didn't even once think about drinking. (Actually, instead of doing all those lovely things, I ended up here on the MWO boards all night, but no matter-- whatever works!)

I had a great Sunday. Out with the kids in the morning to the Christmas market, then we all went to a movie-- Journey to the Center of the Earth in 3D! (Has anyone seen this movie?... it is really quite an experience!).

Ok, now I must get to bed-- it's December tomorrow, and we all know what that means.

"See" you all tomorrow (without the poison in our bodies and souls)!

[Determinator]

AF Daily - Sunday November 30

Late check-in for garlic breath. so nice to see your smiling faces

Cindi, please let us know how your doing if you get a chance ok? missing you.

well I'm off early work earlier than expected so guess I'll go for a nice walk and early dinner.
last night I saw the movie Transporter 3 which was a lot of fun as expected.

Sausage, so glad you proved to yourself how strong you really are.

not only is a bottle of wine poison, but it's also about 900 empty calories!

be well everyone!

[keeta]

AF Daily - Sunday November 30

Late check-in for me today. I have been busy starting the first round of holiday baking, decorating the house inside, and making ribs for dinner with linguini and pesto...will be good I think.

My cravings are sky rocketing right now. I had to send hubby for some AF beer, because I was ready to climb the walls. It will be the first trial with AF drinks this stint of AF time...but if I don't do SOMETHING, I am truely afraid I will fail. Today is day 14...AND I DON'T WANT TO DRINK!

Some triggers are falling into place that I can see though...

lack of sleep for the past two nights...I am exhausted, and grumpy, and not able to cope with the demands of kids because of that, normally I would get drunk...my coping mechanism...NOT TODAY.

Christmas decorations and baking..festive...holidays...alcohol...need I say more????? NOT TODAY.

Doggy...thank you for the welcome!...kaponium and I got together on yesterdays thread, and she really helped me...so it was a great beginning to my posting here

Sausage...amazing job at resisting temptation! GOOD job!

beatle...it sounds like you had a wonderful day today.! Good job on making plans while hubby was out "bonding"...even if you didn't stick to them totally and came here instead, you anticipated the problem and prepared for battle :H

kaponium...kapo, my new frend...I hope your meeting went well last evening. My night ended without any alcohol, thanks in part to you. I felt we really connected, and I look forward to "speaking with you" more, and being of any support to you as well, that I can! :l

I know I have missed people, and I am sorry, I must dash quickly and check my ribs. I will check in a bit later....

I am grateful for you all, and this thread.

K