AF Daily - Tuesday, December 2

[on my way]

AF Daily - Tuesday, December 2

WOW, my head is spinning, so many posts this morning. It is good to see so many new faces and some old ones too. Namaste, for the longest time I had a quote of yours on my refrigerator. I am glad you're back.

Rain, snow, ice = school delay. Life was not normal here this morning...but it never really is. I finally feel as if my feet have hit the ground and I can start my day.

WiP, I too feel the need to nurture relationships that I have neglected. I also know I need to surround myself with friends that are not heavy drinkers. For me this is especially important over the holiday season.

Cy, 2 things.....I bet your loved ones are so happy you are giving this a go again. And I think it is time you post some new recipes You are the official chef and all. BTW, that is one scary Santa.

Hope you all have a wonderful day, nat

[Determinator]

AF Daily - Tuesday, December 2

Top of the tuesday ABfriends!

feeling a bit run down lately. hotel life and eating crappy 'dead' food while on the road is catching up with me. Home at least now and will make myself go workout tonight because I know I need to.

Beatle, great kickstart thank you!

Keeta, you reminded me of the very first time I ever tried to go AF some years ago. I got to day 10 and then ran into a mental wall. Everywhere I looked my subconscious mind was coming up with reasons why I just HAD to have a drink again. I really felt surrounded and freaked out. You are already doing better than that...don't let it psych you out! it's an illusion.

tons of work to catch up on but I'll be poking around as time allows.

be well,

[charlee]

AF Daily - Tuesday, December 2

Hey everyone!
My work and personal schedule have been so out of whack lately....I want my routine back!!!...Can't really complain, I find that life without AL has given my the gift of being able to tackle things whenever I want..I am on my timetable, not AL's......Had dental surgery this morning at &:30 a.m., that never would have happened in days of old, I would still be hungover.
Going to put the Christmas tree up this afternoon and got a good jump on my shopping.....
Everyone have a great rest of the day...

[retteacher]

AF Daily - Tuesday, December 2

For what it's worth: For me, the mental wall is about facing up to life on life's terms. Sobriety means no alterations to reality. There's something very awesome about that. I have such a feeling of pride when I've done that...faced something difficult wo/falling back on to a drink. However, it's not easy.

This morning I volunteered in my g-son's classroom. One of the little girls was crying about some small hurt...then, a few minutes later, she was fine. She got her emotions out, & that was it. That's acceptable for 5 year olds, but not so acceptable for grown-ups. I have to find ways to feel my feelings wo/exaggerating them or being bitchy w/my husb. I'll take it as it comes I guess.

Mary

[keeta]

AF Daily - Tuesday, December 2

Good morning/afternoon/evening all, where ever you may be!

WOW, Day 16. This is the longest I have gone AF in atleast a decade.
I wonder if that is why I am struggling so much the last few days? Also, the last two days were days off work. So all day I am left to my own devices, and of course days off are normally written in stone "drink all day" days. (ugh, how disgusting to say that out loud, but sadly it is true) Crazy I just now thought of that. I hope there is something to it, because that would mean the next five working days might be a bit easier, than the last two! :H

I did some Christmas baking yesterday. I decided to make Peanut Brittle without a candy thermometer...well, THAT was a mistake. LOL Oh well, live and learn!

beatle: congratulations on 15 days! Well done to you also You are right about it being difficult. I wonder why?? And thank you for the warning about it happening again at 30. The next 5 days I am working, so I am hoping that will help make the next few days a little easier! At least before work and during work I can't drink...that leaves me 6 or so hours to really have to remain sober through my own will power. I WILL NOT DRINK! Good luck for you today, on to 16! By the way, I enjoyed your joke very much :H


kapo: here we are, another day that we WON the battle! WOOHOOO. I have learned a little about your own sobriety from your story you posted. WOW, you have really been there done that. Good job kicking the morphine. What a come back you are making! :l You have also been a big help to me, and for that, I thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Cindi,
I hope you get some reast, to catch up on lost sleep. I hope you are doing ok.:l I know all about trust and husbands. Mine would come home on Mondays (my day off) and go right for a kiss (read: seeing if I smell or taste of beer) It doesn't do alot for ones self esteem!


Tom: A month. You are an inspiration! GOOD JOB. I hope soon, beatle, kapo and myself will being to put the very same words in our post!

DoggyGirl: Thanks! I am glad I made it also. The last two days have been hard hard hard. BUT I have been lucky enough to have found this thread, and all of you are so full of understanding, encouragement and wisdom. It helps SO much! I take all the suppliments except the Kudzu. My L-Glut is a powdered form, and very yucky, I dread taking it...but I dread drinking MORE . I am also using melatonin for sleeping, and have been wondering at all if anyone has experience for using it when anxiety is running in high gear? Does it help? UGH on the Christmas cards. I haven't started yet, and I am thinking I just won't this year. It is an added stressor I just don't want right now.

Namaste: welcome, and please do stick around. Great job on 10 days AF. I know for myself having a husband that drinks makes it harder for me to NOT drink. I just can't allow myself to to use his drinking as an excuse to allow my drinking. Only I can control my consumption. Not him! Good luck!

Mary: I find going to functions where others are drinking very hard still. But I agree, if I can get through the first little bit without a drink, the rest gets a bit easier!

Cy: Congratulations on day 2! You CAN do this. I also wish money weren't so tight for Christmas this year! But you are right. Not buying alcohol will improve that a bit, at least for me. I drank an awful lot. Keep posting and keep strong!

wip: isn't it amazing how much we isolate ourselves when drinking??? I have gone to more functions with "friends" in the last two weeks than I have in the last 7 years! I am glad you enjoyed yourself I too am working on breaking free from my self imposed hell that AL helped create. NO MORE! We deserve better!

LVT: I hope you have a wonderful day!

onmyway: there are alot of posts, aren't there...I have taken so long to respond there will likely be more after I hit submit! :H

Det: I am really trying to fight through this. I am hoping soon it will ease off, even if just for a day or two. I won't let AL break me down if I can help it. I am getting stronger every day!

eep, have to run...work in less than an hour and haven't showered yet...

all I missed and all to come, I wish you a fabulous day!

K

[SAUSAGE]

AF Daily - Tuesday, December 2

Day 30 for me! - did get to day 54 before my holiday and once did 108 days earlier in the year but it's still a milestone and i'm feeling upbeat about it.

Have conjunctivitis in both eyes now despite my best efforts to stop it spreading. The kids are fortunately a lot better. It's very cold and miserable here in UK. Still can't exercise because of my eyes but i'm still losing weight - i've now lost 16 lbs since end of Aug and haven't made drastic changes to my diet or anything - just stopped drinking a bottle or so of white wine every day ( but then that is a lot of empty calories isn't it). Yes Dg, I think my husband did feel a bit guilty about me having to go out and get the medication myself but then I have a zero tolearance to alcohol and driving - didn't ever drink and drive, not even after 1 glass although technically would have been under the limit,- would have got a taxi if I needed to get somewhere after I'd had alcohol although to be honest rarely ever needed to as I didn't start drinking until the evening when I knew I would not need to go out again.

Yesterday's thread was interesting - on how we're going to prepare for an AF Christmas / New Year. I'm still anxious - a bit like the anxiety before my holiday, when I feared I may drink (and I did!) I have the same fears about the festive celebrations coming up.

Have a wonderful AF day everyone!

[kaponium]

AF Daily - Tuesday, December 2

Aloha all - Another day beginning in sobriety paradise. Just been catching up with what's been happening for you all while I have been sleeping. This is an AWESOME positive and "REAL" thread - I need that.

We are winners guys! Looking forward to hearing from you all at some stage of your day. I hope and pray all is sober and serene with you all! BLESS

[sunshine_gg]

AF Daily - Tuesday, December 2

Sadly, still (and again) day one here... but it's so good to share everyone else's triumphs!

Happy Tuesday, everyone!

[namaste]

AF Daily - Tuesday, December 2

My husband and I did great through Thanksgiving..we had 20 people (family) here from 4 states..they brought beer and wine and neither of us were tempted. I don't blame my drinking on him or use him as an excuse...in fact when we met almost 20 years ago, I was sober and on our first date, he quit drinking because he knew I was in AA and we spent that 15 years raising my kids and me sober..and he was one who supported my sobriety...it's me who brought it back into our lives and convinced us that it would be ok..so I don't blame him, but do know that he has an addictive nature and that we are both much better off when neither of us drink..we both know it if because we've lived it. We can't expect the world to support our sobriety, but it's really nice when our life mate does, is all, and that is why I married a man who really can take it or leave it and he basically does when it matters. I say this because I've seen a lot of people feel like they don't have a right to ask their mate for help or not to drink, but you do have the right to ask for what you need...if they can't or won't do it, fine, you have to take care of it yourself, but if they are willing, it's lovely. Namaste

[kaponium]

AF Daily - Tuesday, December 2

Sunshine (love your name) keep positive, don't pick up the first one, and day one WILL become day two......Perhpas yhou could make a gratitude list, of all the things you love about being sober?

[sunshine_gg]

AF Daily - Tuesday, December 2

kaponium;483805 wrote: Sunshine (love your name) keep positive, don't pick up the first one, and day one WILL become day two......Perhpas yhou could make a gratitude list, of all the things you love about being sober?

Yep, have done that today

[A Work in Progress]

AF Daily - Tuesday, December 2

Hey, Sunshine, it's great that you are here... make Day One into a bit of a celebration day, how about? What is there that you can give yourself, for your resolve to get back on track? Rewards are soooo important in the "mental game" ...

wip

[greeneyes]

AF Daily - Tuesday, December 2

Hi all! I have to get to the post office but had to say hello and show off the avatar that dingbat made for me!! Ho Ho Ho!!!

[Cinders]

AF Daily - Tuesday, December 2

greeneyes;483854 wrote: Hi all! I have to get to the post office but had to say hello and show off the avatar that dingbat made for me!! Ho Ho Ho!!!

What avatar?? Sorry Greenie but your avatar is TOES..

Love,
Cindi

[on my way]

AF Daily - Tuesday, December 2

nice greenie.... wish my toes looked so cute in santa hats