AF Daily Thursday, December 26th

[A Work in Progress]

AF Daily Thursday, December 26th

Good for you Gabs... this is a wonderful thread...

Mary, I didn't know your father has dementia... I am very sorry. How is he doing?

Way to go R2C!

DG the house is in Sanford, north of Orlando, right on Lake Monroe. My hopes include eventually spending a lot of time on the St. John's River, which (in the form of Lake Monroe) is right there in the front yard! Here is the front yard, just a couple of months ago, after the hurricanes dumped too much water in the river, and the lake flooded; the Sandhill Cranes were having a huge treat with all the snails that washed in:



The yard is dry again, and there's a lot of work left to do... but it's a beautiful place, very quiet.

[Determinator]

AF Daily Thursday, December 26th

Aloha Friday ABland!

so very glad for the success stories, I know that there must be folks that did not meet their goals and I dearly hope they will hop right in here and get on the train without looking back. All aboard! no judgements, just support.

also a word of caution about "big event let-down". Many times here I've seen (and personally experienced!) folks go through a very tough event/holiday etc totally AF and then get sucked into the AL voice after the fact with some rationale along these lines: "well you did it! now lets just go home and have just one for ol times sake". (insert scream sound here). so be careful!

stunningly beautiful sunny and still morning with the snow twinkling all around.

be well my friends

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily Thursday, December 26th

WIP - that looks like a gorgeous home. Is this a family place? (If it's none of my beeswax just say so of course!) I hope you have a great trip(s) and lots of fun fixing it up. When are you leaving to go there (this time)?

Deter, that is excellent advice about the possible post event let down. I'll put the double lock on my anti-AL chastity belt!! ITA with the big invite to anyone who maybe didn't make it to hurry on back. Don't be like me and let a bad decision to drink turn into weeks and months of drinking.

DG

[Pamina]

AF Daily Thursday, December 26th

Good evening all - and welcome Gabby!

Boxing Day is at an end, and I made it in one piece! Good point about the 'let down' phase, Det. I feel so relieved I'm absolutely stuffing my face with scrumptious cake made with dates. I fall for this every Xmas. There will be serious sugar overload tonight, but all things considered, that feels like a minor misdemeanour. Sis-the-Toddler suddenly announced she was supposed to be meeting her elderly Godmother tomorrow, only she hadn't asked for directions to the new care home she'd been moved to and was proposing to cancel the visit. With her you never know, it could mean a number of things. She is very apprehensive about assimilating new things, even if it is a new bus route. I do want her to learn it and be able to visit this woman independently while I'm back in London, so I phoned her, we rescheduled for Tuesday, and I'm going along to make sure things work out. I feel like I've been thrust in the role of a single mum of an adult toddler, and I'll need to work out what my responsibilities are and where my boundaries lie. A task for 2009. However, doing it sure beats dreading it - that's my lesson this Xmas. And probably the reason AL has gone knocking on other doors... Or is it that chastity belt - LOL DG!!

Yes, beautiful view, WIP! Good for you turning back to 'your life'. I'm not quite there yet, nor quite ready to consider goals for next year. I still need to revel in relief. Maybe tomorrow...

Christmas is over - we did it!!! YAY!!!! :happy:

[gabby]

AF Daily Thursday, December 26th

Ha!!!

the thought has already crossed my mind Det! chastity belt in place! CLICK CLICK! doubled up too!

[retteacher]

AF Daily Thursday, December 26th

WIP: My dad is 97 & losing more ground daily. From all the medical people I've talked to about dementia, there are many characteristics:
-anger & depression: he has tantrums & crying jags.
-sleeping a whole lot.
-forgetting just about everything.

Your mom is probably not as old as my dad & not as far along. It does progress pretty slowly. He was different in his 80's. Much more with it.

Deter: You hit the nail on the head. Last year I got through all the holidays & then some. Around about March, I thought I had the whole issue solved & decided to drink again. It's been as tough as heck to get back into the AF frame of mind.

I absolutely will keep my radar open for any & all AL messages which sneak in after a significant period of time passes.

Thanks for the reminder.

Mary

[Marshy]

AF Daily Thursday, December 26th

Hi all,

12-hour day at work (NOT what I was expecting! The boss definitely led me to believe it would be an easy day!), and I have to be back there in less than nine hours. I always get a bit wired when I work late, and used to unwind by drinking myself to sleep, but tonight it's tea and toast instead. And even if I don't get much sleep, at least I'll only be tired and not hungover tomorrow.

On my bike on the way home, I went through the red-light district in Whitechapel (Jack the Ripper's old killing ground). There's frost on the ground tonight, and the women out on the streets looked freezing cold. So I'm counting my blessings tonight and feeling very fortunate to be home and safe and warm.

It's getting on for 1am. I better go and try to sleep!

[gabby]

AF Daily Thursday, December 26th

Marshy that bike ride sounds scary!

[A Work in Progress]

AF Daily Thursday, December 26th

Yeah, Marshy, that sounds like quite a ride! Scary, but/and I'd like to have been there, too!

Mary, yes, my mother is 88. The thought of a parent living like this to the age of 97 is just staggering to me. I truly hope that neither she nor I will have to face that.

Pamina, I see what you mean about your sister, and could not agree more with what you said: doing it (whatever it might be, difficult family tasks etc.) sure beats dreading it...

DG, that place was the house my grandparents built to retire in, back in 1954. The house itself is small; just 2 bedrooms, 2 baths, but with a fairly large living room, and all the rooms have big windows or sliding glass doors, facing the lake. It's on an oversized double lot, with nice trees in the back, and a huge front yard. There's plenty of room to add on another couple of rooms, and a bathroom, extending back into the back yard.

[Accountable for Me]

AF Daily Thursday, December 26th

Yep - I cannot believe it is over! I think I am feeling that big event let down.

Christmas was probably the best in a couple of decades! My sister wasn't here to stir the pot of emotions and resentment and my mother; although drunk and stoned was OK. WHEW! Nana made a great birdy and I was so full that I actually got sick! LMFAO! Barfing my way to bed. hahahaha.

Big hugs for all of you who stayed sober! Whoo hoo. I found it hard here and there, but ultimately - I am so glad I was! Kids had a blast!

Gabs - way to go on your 70 days! You are a strong woman!

Love you all, gotta put the little one to bed because she is hyper and crazy. xoxoxoxo