AF daily - Sunday Feb 8th

[Accountable for Me]

AF daily - Sunday Feb 8th

Mohun;541613 wrote: Good morning. I'm in early today (up with the puppy). I'm sure he thinks his name is "no!"

:H No, is a great name!

Well, it is looking to be a beautiful Sunday here. The sun is starting to come up; the sky is blue and pink. A good day to be outside. I didn't manage to get to the beach yesterday but took the little one down to the school behind our house and she did laps around the field. :yougo: It gives 'baby bootcamp' a whole new meaning - doesn't it?

Then in the evening my nana took us out for an early dinner. It was really nice.

Well, I shall read the boards and see what's going on, meanwhile refill my coffee.

As for coming out about drinking; been there, done that - 5/6 years ago. I don't speak of it at all anymore except on here. My friends (close ones) don't even think of me as that drunken slob that was always tanked back in the day. They see me sober and have so for quite some time. They figure it was a bad 'year' in my life and I fell off the deep end. Well, during 2003 & 2004 I really did. My family - well they are just jelouse that I rose above it all and am committed to my sobriety. I have a sick family that live in misery. And you know that saying.... misery loves company.

Have a great day! :l

[Marshy]

AF daily - Sunday Feb 8th

Stargirl - Wisconsin sounds like a riot! Never been.

DG - yes you're right about telling people different things depending on the situation. I've told my parents that I've given up to be "healthy", told my brother the other night at the Drunken Family Bash that I'd had "enough" to drink during my life! But this friend is the first time I've said I have a "problem" and that's why I've stopped. (Although my family members aren't stupid and probably know that I have a problem without me spelling it out to them).

Wip - love the "raging alcoholic" line! I might try that next time to see what the reaction is.

Sausage - your friend's FIL sounds like he's trying to control people's behaviour in order to have some kind of power over them? Doesn't sound like alcohol is the issue at all. (That's my amateur psychology for the day - Wip, how did I do? :H).

[kitkatsue]

AF daily - Sunday Feb 8th

Good morning,

Today is day 60 AF. And I am pretty pleased. I feel healthy, and less worried about my organs .

As far as telling anyone what bothers me is I don't want to be seen as the person with a drinking problem, so lets walk in egg shells around her. I would prefer not to tell so people will just do what they would normally do.

[kitkatsue]

AF daily - Sunday Feb 8th

But then what do I say when they are tossing them back and I am not drinking at all ?

[Marshy]

AF daily - Sunday Feb 8th

Congratulations on 60 days KitKat!! :goodjob:

[A Work in Progress]

AF daily - Sunday Feb 8th

Marshy;541661 wrote:
Sausage - your friend's FIL sounds like he's trying to control people's behaviour in order to have some kind of power over them? Doesn't sound like alcohol is the issue at all. (That's my amateur psychology for the day - Wip, how did I do? :H).

Pretty durn good, I'd say, Marshy! Another hypothesis I came up with is that the wife sounds like perhaps she is very controlling, and is contributing to all this hiding out at home, business.

KitKat... you asked "what do you say when others are tossing them back?" Well... you will figure it out... you don't HAVE to say anything, if you don't want to, of course. Don't feel like others are entitled to an explanation for your decisions! And congrats on 60 days!

[Accountable for Me]

AF daily - Sunday Feb 8th

Way to go KitKat! 60 days is awesome!

[kitkatsue]

AF daily - Sunday Feb 8th

Thanks Marshy and Accountable

I'm just happy to feel healthy for the first time in a long time.

[momof3]

AF daily - Sunday Feb 8th

Hello All,

Just got a call last night from a childhood friend. Her brother who lives out on the West Coast was found dead in his apartment by his land lord. They don't know the details on the cause of his death but we do know that he had a lifelong struggle with alcohol and over the past several years had become a recluse. He quit his high powered job and was doing freelance work which probably allowed him to sink deeper into his alcoholism. He was pretty open with his struggle but never was really able to kick it....very very sad. He was 48 years old.

It makes me even more grateful to be a non-drinker and a healthy one at that. As far as the "coming out" piece goes...I have never confessed my "raging alcoholism" to anyone but I have disclosed my problem to folks in varying degrees depending on my relationship with them. For those whom I know on a casual level, I simply don't explain anything at all or at the most say "It doesn't agree with me." For others I know a little better, I might mention that my relationship with alcohol had become unhealthy. For those very few in my close circle, I have told them about my drinking problem.

I'm happy that I did not see whatever the troll wrote on this thread today. One of the reasons I like this thread so much is because people are serious about becoming free from Al, they are open to listening to one another and they are very constructive in their responses to one another. I commend Janice for handling it so well. Lets not put any energy into these trolls if they enter this space again.

Be well all,
M3

[stargirl]

AF daily - Sunday Feb 8th

Nice work Kitkatsue! Congratulations
Yay for 60 days

[Mohun]

AF daily - Sunday Feb 8th

Congrats Kit. 60 days is great.

Puppy picture.

[LVT25]

AF daily - Sunday Feb 8th

Just popping in to so Mohun "No" is the cutest puppy I have ever seen. I want one!!

[Determinator]

AF daily - Sunday Feb 8th

Happy sunday ABerooooos!

hey, I'm posting before dinner, wow.

Kitkat, so glad you are feeling healthy, it's just the best eh?

really didn't expect the weather to be so nice today...weatherman said rain but it's nice and sunny...might run off to the shooting range afterall.....

well, my folks urged me to get help many years ago after it became obvious that I was a very well 'accomplished' power-drinker LOL. I shooed them away and then finally in the late 90's started to speak of my self-disgust over the issue. Most of my friends know simply by observation that I no longer drink and are very supportive also. it's really sad that this stupid stigma regarding CD (chemical dependancy) cripples us socially. There are many social stigmas that are illogical so it shouldn't surprise me. gun owners face that crap all time these days thanks to the actions of the very few, combined with a totally brain-dead media. I do hope there will be a day when people with alcohol issues will no longer be demonized and looked upon with contempt by the ignorant.

Mohun you puppy pictures just melt my heart....I want a puppy!!!!!!! sniff.....some day...

be well friends!

[hulagirl]

AF daily - Sunday Feb 8th

Good Morning All, It looks like it becomes an individual situation on whether to come "out". I am fairly private person and so when someone at work mentions "you've lost weight" I just want to die. Does that mean they noticed how bloated I was too? And I just say oh well, I'm getting a little exercise and am eating more fruit and veggies, which is true. But I am not going to say I stopped drinking a bottle of wine and two or three beers from the time I got home from work until bed and all day long on the week-ends. No, I am not going to share that. With family it is a little different because they (we) all drink...I guess I'll deal with them when I see them next summer. I am not going to just offer this information over the phone or email. A part of it is that I am still a "newbie" at just 1 1/2 months AF and I just don't feel secure that what I say now (that I am a non-drinker) has become who I am. (Even though I want to be.) I haven't really made the "change" I guess, to a lifetime commitment from just trying to stop drinking now, today, this week, this month.
Here's a pic for your yoga DG! (Actually this is 3 miles from my back yard)

[Mohun]

AF daily - Sunday Feb 8th

Nice pic hulagirl, but there's something wrong with your sky. It appears to be blue. It should be various shades of gray, just like ours has been for the last few weeks. You must have photo-shopped it. :H

Also the water is off. It should covered with ice. :H Yup, must be photoshpped. I'll keep telling myself that.

Ok. One more puppy picture. I am playing with a new lens I just bought.