AF Daily - Tuesday March 10, 2009

[speedster]

Ready, set, go, it's Tuesday!
Good Morning AF Land,

I'm in a happier mood after a day of sunshine and DST allowed me to get an 1.5 ride in yesterday. I learned a new word for when I'm in an irritable mood. It's from urban dictionary and I picked it from a blog. The word is 'stabby'. It cracks me up. I'm not feeling stabby today.

TG - welcome back! I like the team effort - Mom, boyfriend, etc, that will be most helpful.

I'm working on being kinder to myself. Instead of feeling 'stabby' about not being in tip-top shape, I'm going to enjoy every ride and not beat myself up with "I'm not 'fill-in-the-blank". I must continue to work on not being stabby to myself.

More later, going to try and have good mental flow at work this morning. Reading through the posts from yesterday it sounds like everyone is doing well this last week. I think everyone will continue to build on this positive momentum.

[charlee]

AF Daily - Tuesday March 10, 2009

Morning
Thanks for the kick start this morning Speedster. I like your term "stabby"!
I am not feeling stabby today either......the days are longer, bulbs are starting to bloom, still have my job...all is good.
I have noticed alot of new faces here on the abs thread, so let me say welcome....
All is calm in my world, I will take it and run with it!!!
Hope everyone has a good day.

[greeneyes]

AF Daily - Tuesday March 10, 2009

Morning abbers!

Yep,all in all, life is good. some things need work and improvement, but it will always be that way so I hope to enjoy myself through it all. And not be stabby :H

[retteacher]

AF Daily - Tuesday March 10, 2009

Hi Speed, Char, & Greenie: I'm doing well. Yesterday, I spent a few minutes meditating. It provides the calm I was always looking for when I drank. It's just that I don't always want to take the time to do it. It's so worthwhile to do though. I took the g-sons to an acrobatic show at the local university in the evening. It was wonderful, but it would have produced a lot of nervousness had I not meditated beforehand. I want to make meditation a daily practice & must just set aside time for it.

I'm finding that attitude is everything. If I have an attitude of gratitude, drinking doesn't even enter my mind. If I'm fearful, resentful, or anxious, those emotions can be triggers. I have to do whatever is necessary to bring those feelings out & resolve them. Keeping them inside doesn't help at all.

Take care one & all.

Love, Mary

[greeneyes]

AF Daily - Tuesday March 10, 2009

retteacher;568027 wrote: If I have an attitude of gratitude, drinking doesn't even enter my mind. If I'm fearful, resentful, or anxious, those emotions can be triggers.

So true, Mary.... so true

[charlee]

AF Daily - Tuesday March 10, 2009

Mary
I think you are right on with the attitude and gratitude....we are stuck with this "issue" and although we learn to keep AL at bay, this is who we are.....how we choose to live with it can make or break this lifelong journey. Those who know me have heard me say that my toolbox is not filled with alot of tools. I like things simple and it works for me...Attitude and gratitude are on the top of my list...Good going!!

[retteacher]

AF Daily - Tuesday March 10, 2009

Thank you so much. It's nice to know that something I wrote is helpful. Mary

[Accountable for Me]

AF Daily - Tuesday March 10, 2009

Good morning! It is earlyish here. Just before 7am.

I am still struggling to get use to the time change. I am staying up too late and getting up too late!

I don't have much to say except I must finish this coffee, turn the computer off and get on with it. We had a LATE start yesterday.

Have a great day everyone!

[LVT25]

AF Daily - Tuesday March 10, 2009

Hello friends!

So stabby = irritable. I'm afraid that could become my nickname! Actually I think I'm getting a little better-seems to depend on what time of the month it is. I received my test kit in the mail yesterday, so when I can build up enough spit we'll see if I can continue to blame the hormones!

Mary--good for you for meditating! It another one of those things that we have to make a priority--like exercise. Which I haven't made time for either one lately!
Today is my "day off" so I need to get busy. I have a friend coming to town for a visit!

Have a great day!:h

[A Work in Progress]

AF Daily - Tuesday March 10, 2009

Nice posts this morning. I've been mildly-to-moderately stabby lately, feeling trapped and helpless about my ongoing obligations related to dealing with my mother, feeling at odds with my current life/career situation, and just having a hard time moving on. And I agree with Mary and others... there is an assignment given to us, actually staring us in the face, when we are feeling stabby... that is, to notice the thoughts and feelings, and to shift our minds (and our behavior) to something else... shifting into gratitude is a great way to deal with it. It takes WORK and it is NOT an instantaneous mood-fixer... which is why we often find it so unsatisfactory (so unlike our old simple and very quick fix of throwing some alcohol on the bad mood!)... but it works.

Ahh... onward.

[Mohun]

AF Daily - Tuesday March 10, 2009

Mo no like time change. Check back later when feeling less stabbier...

[A Work in Progress]

AF Daily - Tuesday March 10, 2009

Mo, AFM, I am stabby about that damn time change, too. And this morning I woke up with no electricity in the house, running around with candles and flashlights. Grrr.... OK, and I am GRATEFUL that the weather has gotten warmer, so that when I woke up without power, I was not also freezing cold!

[Determinator]

AF Daily - Tuesday March 10, 2009

Top of the Tuesday Aberoooooos!

sick as can be today. moan.... groan.... and I have to travel all day too dangit. I already can't wait to be back home.

sorry to be a downer, everyone be well

[Cinders]

AF Daily - Tuesday March 10, 2009

Good Afternoon my friends,

Not much going on here. Trying to do work but so totally unmotivated!! Arrggh.

Gratitude. Yes.

Like Charlee, too, I need to keep things simple for me. My prayers are one liners, or I get distracted before I am done, my thanks are the same way.

I haven't been able to meditate to any degree at all. I try to meditate a bit when I lie down to sleep at night. Otherwise, I am too antsy.

I have to work on the anxiety issue. It is my biggest trigger.

Sorry you are sick, Deter!!

Everyone else, have a great AF day.

Love,
Cindi

[A Work in Progress]

AF Daily - Tuesday March 10, 2009

Cinders;568360 wrote:
I haven't been able to meditate to any degree at all. I try to meditate a bit when I lie down to sleep at night. Otherwise, I am too antsy.

Cindi, one of the main barriers to meditation is the belief that we are not doing it right, or "can't" do it, because we are feeling antsy, or anxious, and because our thoughts are continuing to yammer at us. The task is not to feel all calm and relaxed, or to make our thoughts go away. The task is just to sit reasonably still, and begin paying attention to the sensations of our breathing, and then to notice when we have become distracted... then re-focus on the breathing sensations. Over and over again. It's a way of training our minds, and at first it WILL feel unnatural, and we WILL notice agitation, and boredom, and a lot of thinking... everyone feels that way. Continued patient practice is the key, just as if we were learning a physical skill like playing the piano... at first it feels very very awkward... gradually, it begins to feel natural.

It helps to start with short periods of time... even 5 minutes is good, at first!