AF Daily - Saturday April 4, 2009

[Doggygirl]

Good morning Ab-Landers and Happy Saturday!!

ThatGirl - I hope you and your Mom & Brother are all OK after the window incident. The police / legal situation in the US is the same unfortunately. You can "know" who did something but without evidence of it, there isn't much the police can do.

Dill, I hope you are having fun on vacation. That was a good post yesterday. Yes, I think the reasons for stopping are definitely more limited to the reasons for starting. My guess is that most of us here are stopping because drinking causes problems in our life. I know that's why I'm here!

Narilly - I too love my unhung mornings. I've always been a "morning person" - that's always been my best time for getting a lot done, especially if what I have to do requires concentration. Mr. Doggy is a night person so the difference is quite obvious. I totally ruined my ability to be productive when I spent every single morning in that hangover fog and misery.

Mr. Doggy and I went out to the yard after dinner last night and marked the area we are going to till up for the garden. Yikes - I better get busy reading the gardening thread! Our fence guy is supposed to come next week to give us a price on fencing in that area of the yard. With 4 dogs, I don't think a garden would last very long without enclosing it.

Remember that ticket I got for "improper lane useage' back in February that I was so miffed about? I'm still convinced the cop was behaving badly in the situation. Well, my court date is next Tuesday so I looked up the rules of the road for IL this morning. Low and behold here is what it says:

You must drive on the right half of the roadway except:

when passing another vehicle moving in the same direction on a two-lane highway, interstate highway or controlled freeway.
when a blockage makes it necessary to drive to the left of the center line. You may drive on the left after yielding to oncoming traffic.
on a roadway divided into three marked lanes for traffic.
on a roadway restricted to one-way traffic.

So...In my opinion since the cop did not give an indication that I had to turn left (or anything else) then I believe I am not guilty according to the rules. I'm glad I looked this up. Now I know for sure that the cop will have to lie through his teeth (which he might just do - wouldn't be the first time LOL) for me to be guilty of anything. He will have to say that he directed me to make a left turn and I blew him off. That is NOT what happened at all!

So No Guilty it shall be. I'm not sure if they do the "trials" later that same day, or if they schedule them for a different day. This will be a learning experience - LOL I hope not a horrid one!

Have a fabulous AF day everyone. There will be no drinking here today, that's for sure.

DG

[Sante]

AF Daily - Saturday April 4, 2009

Good Morning DG,

Sorry to hear about your problems with the traffic cop. Hopefully you'll prevail. I'm doing okay. AF so far this week and feeling fine. Have a good weekend to all who follow.

Sante

[Doggygirl]

AF Daily - Saturday April 4, 2009

Good for you on your AF time Sante!

DG

[rudemama]

AF Daily - Saturday April 4, 2009

hi all been on the forum for 2 years now have done several long af stints but not doing too well now need to check in and steer clear of al and traffic cops thanks all for being here day 2 :hrudemama

[LVT25]

AF Daily - Saturday April 4, 2009

Hey, where is everybody?? Our little daily thread has been pretty quiet lately.

Thanks for joining us Sante and Rudemama.

Well, the weatherman sure got it right this time. We are in the middle of a major spring blizzard. It was pretty hard to imagine with the 60 degree temp yesterday. It makes me want to hang out in my jammers all day.

I had a variety of dreams this morning as I slept in. I remember in one of them I was smoking--yuck! I never want to ruin the good long quit I've got going!

I'm looking forward to my family coming for Easter, it's been a couple of years since my siblings have visited! My sis is still battling her cushings disease. They want to do surgery (more aggressive) again. I don't have a good feeling about this. Her other options are radiation or chemical treatment which is temporary. Will be good to see them though.

Good luck in court-DG. I know in our little town, sometimes a phone call to the county attorney will get them to drop the case. I hope you get treated fairly.

I was hoping hubby would just take the day and chill out--but he is already making me feel guilty by cooking breakfast and doing dishes. Oh, well.

[retteacher]

AF Daily - Saturday April 4, 2009

DG: My son-in-law is a cop. Often, they don't show up for the court date, so you might just have the whole thing summarily dismissed. If he is there: My best advice is to definitely bring up your evidence but be as humble as possible. Cops tend to have big egos (not SIL though). They don't like to be contradicted. Emphasize how seriously you take your driving responsibilities. Make "I" statements instead of contradicting. I hope you don't get stuck w/a fine...good luck!

Rudemomma: Welcome. This is an excellent thread for long-term abs or the 30 day variety. Stick w/us & don't feel shy about sharing. The energy here is positive, supportive, & informative.

Yesterday, for the first time in a very long time, I looked around on this site at some of the threads in the various forums. Now that I know I want abs (for sure), I know why there are a few threads like this one that I have to stick close to. Some of the threads explore areas (e.g. the types of AL we used to get drunk on) that aren't really helpful to my recovery.

Anyhow, that's my 2 cents.

Mary

[Arial]

AF Daily - Saturday April 4, 2009

Hi All, and welcome to any newcomers to the thread - I haven't been around a lot lately - time and lack of access to a computer - but glad to say keeping alcohol free. Just passed the 30 days but I'm not really counting this time round, as it feels different this time - I know it's got to be a permanent change of life with no room for AL and so time isn't an issue now - the sense of achievement this time seems to come not on a daily basis but at those particular times when the urge is greater and is overcome or I face a social challenge without a drink, or I achieve something/do something that I KNOW I wouldn't have done before drinking. Some days I don't actually think about drinking, but too often still I find the arguments coming back and I have to silence them.

Luckily spring is round the corner and the weather here is finally picking up, - it's so great to get outside again and feel vaguely warm! Getting fit(ter) is definitely one of my greatest motivators at the moment as not drinking is giving me a new lease of life - the motivation to get physically fit and try and rejoin the human race through socialising more etc.

So despite the nagging voices and internal arguments that I hopefully will find a way to keep quiet, things are good!

DG - good luck with court - hope it goes well - and everyone else, happy Saturday and hope you have a wonderful weekend. Now I'm on Easter holiday I look forward to finding a bit more time to come here and catch up. I second the feeling about other threads/forums - I definitely know I'm amongst friends here with the same AF goals and aspirations so feel comfortable and 'safe' - so glad you're all here!!

:l

[narilly]

AF Daily - Saturday April 4, 2009

Good Morning Arial,RM,DG, Mary, LVT Sante,

Yes, it is great to be un hungover today. Today I met my friend for coffee and she was talking about all the problems she is having with her 14 year old daughter. It was terrible. Her daughter is failing school, being sexually active, doing pot etc. I really wished I could help her.
I am so totally grateful for the beautiful children and husband I have. I am grateful for having what I have and will NEVER let myself mess it up because I am drinking.
I am blessed.

No drinking tonight. I am going to some friends house where I used to always drink if I was invited. NOT tonight, no drinky poo for me!

Love,
Sober Narilly

[meditation mama]

AF Daily - Saturday April 4, 2009

Good evening, my abber friends!

So sorry I have been MIA, but what a crazy week. I have been dealing with an episode with DD and her teacher/principal/school. I posted this on subscribers because earlier this week I had to use a lot of adult language. I am calmer now, but I have to go in with my attorney to meet with the school board on Monday. This is a long post, so sorry, but it is helping me to process. You don't have to read, it just helps me right now to talk about it..

This is what happened (posted)…

(Wednesday)
I just found out her teacher has been "spanking her bottom". I talked to the principal and he was very vague. I now have heard from other parents that he has done this before. I demanded he talk to the teacher today and the teacher called my daughter a liar.

I talked to a good friend last night and he gave me some sound advice. My daughter said there is five kids in class that saw this. He suggested that I contact a third party (counselor or possibly an attorney) and have them insist on talking to these kids. I have another mother that had this happen FIVE years ago and they did nothing! He has been talking about his ex-wives boobs and him in a Speedo in class. Just found out about little tidbit. My daughter wanted to go to school today. The principal wants me to come in and put DD in a room with him, me and the principal and face him. I am not going to call him back today until I get a few more ducks in a row because I don't want them to circle the wagons anymore than they have, especially regarding these kids that saw this. The principal told me that he has had to talk to him in the past about his language in class. He admitted that to me! I am going to contact my attorney and ask her opinion then go from there. She is a woman with children and an absolute tiger. I have a feeling she will be off the charts, too!

(Thursday)
I have talked with my daughter and she gave me the names of the kids in her class that saw this, without hesitation. She is not lying and for him to call her a lier is infuriating! She has been taught from day one that ANYONE touching her is inappropriate, especially an adult man. This is a guy in a very powerful position with these kids, they are only 12 years old, for hell's sake! I have talked to my attorney and she is over the top! I got the name of the mother of the child that he "spanked" five years ago. Sounds like she was afraid to take it any further because they are a Hispanic family and felt that it would cause their family problems. This is why I'm sure the principal did nothing about this - he knew they would not push it. The thing that makes me the most angry right now is that they were interviewing DD all last week about this very scary issue AND DIDN'T TELL ME! Now I heard he told the kids not to talk about it!! OMG! So, my little girl was sitting in a room with an authority figure by herself! They are definitely circling the wagons, so I have to move pretty quick. I really don't feel comfortable talking to the school board until I have all my ducks in a row. I am going to call all the parents of the kids that witnessed this and then I will hand it over to my attorney. There are a lot of mothers and kids now coming out of the closet saying he is a pervert. UNBELIEVABLE that they let someone like this teach, especially because he has been accused before. ARRGH! Sorry for the long post, but it lets steam off for me.

So, I have been meeting with my attorney and talking to other parents for the past two days.
I haven’t, nor will I drink over this! I have to have a clear head right now for DD and myself. Anyway, I will stay in touch, but I have been just spending time with my daughter. I will stay in touch. I am thankful I have all of you, even if it is only in spirit right now.

xoxo

MM

[LVT25]

AF Daily - Saturday April 4, 2009

Wow. I don't even know what to say. It is amazing how the system will protect their teachers. Spanking her bottom--that is just over the top in this day and age! I'd say he's history.
Good for you for realizing that al won't help at all in the situation. I'll be thinking of you--keep us posted.:h

[borderboomer]

AF Daily - Saturday April 4, 2009

:wow::no:

rudemama;586278 wrote: hi all been on the forum for 2 years now have done several long af stints but not doing too well now need to check in and steer clear of al and traffic cops thanks all for being here day 2 :hrudemama

Do anything to stop. It's not worth ruining your life, appearance, dignity, etc., etc. Thankfully there are more drugs to assist. There is no more reason to suffer. I went to the store tonight and it was real nice not to have to worry about not getting home, getting arrested or worse. And, I cruised past all my favorite gas station stores. On the frequent flier booze program, I "creatively" would rotate quick trips so as to "not appear" as an alcoholic. Isn't that a "gas."

[narilly]

AF Daily - Saturday April 4, 2009

MM- that is awful. Spanking...what the h...is that??? I would freak if that happened to one of my kids. I totally feel for you- and your daughter.

Hey- didn't drink tonight. It was a tough one. My friend said "oh, just have one glass of wine" It was soooo close. I didn't do it, went into the bathroom and prayed. It seemed to work.

I also thought it would suck to have to tell you guys and my AA meeting that I had a drink.
Have a great night.

Sober Narilly

[hulagirl]

AF Daily - Saturday April 4, 2009

Hi all, A late post for me, even though I did check in this morning and go through your writings. I had thoughts I just didn't know how to articulate them. First for Retteach. I understand your focus in saying here. I also find my self getting more impatient with discussions about modding or failures. But I do try to reach out on occasion to someone that is genuinely needing help or a listening ear. MM I can't believe what you are going through. Why is this principal trying to protect this teacher? Is this a private or public school? In our state, in the public school system, this teacher would be out and would not be able to work in any of the schools. It all sounds very weird, illegal, and the fact that your daughter is 12 years old makes it even more sick. Fight to get this teacher removed! Welcome all newcomers and returnees. and good night.