I chose not to post this in the daily thread as I didn't want to spoil the wonderful Easter vibes that are there and the fabulous AF energy that abounds! However, writing it down a) makes me accountable and b) is an attempt to help clarify what went wrong, so I hope you don't mind my sharing...
I can't believe, after the way I've been feeling since stopping drinking about 6 weeks ago, that I willingly and knowingly dived headlong into a drinking session last night. Am feeling suitably disgusted with myself and really can't believe it happened. Just the day before I had been posting about how wonderful it was to be AF, the loss of time etc. when drinking, and then I ruin the end of a fabulous day hiking in the Alps! I have been trying to think it through all day because here's another day I can notch up to having lost to AL, and the only thing I can link it to is an association thing again - it was after a great hike, the sun was shining, good friends, and we were going to have fondu in the evening, which of course 'requires' wine. So I allowed myself a glass - and - the flood gates literally opened! it was as if I was trying to catch up with the 6 weeks no alcohol, and one glass inevitable turned in to many. With the added affect of altitude, I am feeling suitably awful today - both physically and emotionally - all the disappointment, embarassment, regret, 'what did I say/do' questions, - all the negatives associated with drinking that I had thought to have put beind me.
I just can't believe it - talk about a wake-up call! - but all I can do now is learn what I can from it and be even more prepared to not take that first sip - I even talked with my friends about it during the evening, and when they said just stop, I actually told them that it was too late - that it was too late after the first sip - I even recognised it but still carried on.
Anyway, so what can I learn?:
Obviously moderation is not, and never will be, an option
That I appreciate being AF all the more and will look beyond today at, what will hopefully be, a life without alcohol
That I am proud of my achievements over the last 6 weeks and have NO intention of going back, despite this disaster
That I have to get beyond the association of alcohol with certain things/events
That I need to recognise my own weakness and be better prepared to face situations where my not drinking will be a greater challenge.
That I need to go back to the tools which helped get me sober and revisit/reuse them
I am so envious of all the wonderful, sober, Easters you will have, with clear heads, clear minds, energy, etc. but will enjoy hearing about them as it will show me what I lost. I am going to use this increase in self-awareness to prevent it happening again. An AF life is the only one for me. Thank you all so much for sharing your successes as they really do inspire - and also just for being here :h
I'm looking forward to the end of today (yes, wishing time away) and waking to a fresh start tomorrow.
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