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**sujul** · August 16, 2006, 08:19 AM

Wednesday, August 16th!

Hey Kathy--We were opening today's thread at the same time! I've moved my post to here so that there's no confusion...and THANK YOU for starting out today's thread! :l

Good Moooorning, Abbers!!!

I'm off to a way late start and now I'm out of time, so I'm just opening today's thread and throwing it out to you!!

Btw, :welcome: to Dee and welcome back to MFM! Their posts are on yesterday's board and I encourage y'all to catch up with them....

And thanks, everyone, for all the helpful and honest posts yesterday--we've really become quite a community here in Absville!

Okay--gotta run, but I'll be back later...
:h
susan

"Whether you say you can or you can't, you're right."
Henry Ford

**southernbelle47** · August 16, 2006, 10:10 AM

Wednesday, August 16th!

Good morning Abbers,

Today is a brand new day!!!!!! Yea!! I'm so glad to be done with the first steps in the grape winemaking. I felt like death when we finished yesterday. Keep thinking that bed time world never come! I think I'm allergic to some of the additives. Most probably the sulfites and the yeast and of course then theres sugar...DUH!!!!

How about you guys....do you think you may be an allergic drinker?

I'm glad they we all had a chance to gripe yesterday! It was "cleansing".I actually do it quite ofter in my "prayer time". You know like Job in the bible? I have to find a spot when I can be alone because my family would probably commit me! I do feel much better afterwards though.

After he "let it all out", then God spoke to him and God respected Job for being honest with him. Then Job said..
" For I know my Redeemer lives, and He shall stand at last on earth and after my skin is destroyed....THIS I KNOW;
That in my flesh I shall see for myself and my eyes behold and not another. How my heart yearns within me."
Job 19:25-27

Hey if Job can make it through all he did, I think we can too!

Thanks for letting me share my heart.
Love you all.:h
Nancy & Belle

**vinophile** · August 16, 2006, 11:06 AM

Wednesday, August 16th!

Another beautiful day here... Happy Wednesday All,
We are quite a group aren't we.....Before I re-joined abs I would drop by and check out the posts.At that time I really felt envious of the comaraderie and shared struggle of doing without alcohol.It is most surely not easy but so worth it when you realize how great you'll feel in the morning after another day without alcohol. Even after a stumble(and we've almost all had them) it so empowering to know you can come back here and jump right on board.Jean kirkpatrick(founder of Women for Sobriety) wrote that she tried for over 20 years to maintain sobriety but kept stumbling back into old habits.She credits the fact that she kept trying over those 20 years for keeping her alive. The intermittant sober days over this 20 years period apparently gave her liver a break Although she did not remain sober for good until much later sporadic breaks from drinking saved her life.

I've thought a lot about my diet because of everything you folks have written.I had spoken to a vascular surgeon,who is also a world renowed specialist on the treatment of diabetes, and he said the best diet was the South Beach diet. He said he and his family follow it( or porbably the second phase of it) Kathy, I know you followed it and lost weight.Unfortunately,I am miserable after more than 24 hrs on it(or at least the first phase of it). I give you credit if you can follow it. I need carbohydrates.I ate a big bowl of frozen yogurt last night and it was loaded with sugar. However after eating it any craving I had for wine was gone.Maybe my fix for sugar was satisfied.Keeping alcohol out of my diet is my priority. I gained 5lbs in one night the last time I overindulged in wine. I also ate chips, cheese and I don't know what else. I have excercised like crazy, eaten a very good diet and can't budge those pounds off my 50 year old hips... very frustrating but serves as extra inspiration not to drink.
Boy have I rambled today.It must be the extra large coffe I'm drinking.
Have a great day all.

Janet

**Lou** · August 16, 2006, 11:12 AM

Wednesday, August 16th!

Hello!!

Hello there fellow abbers...day 21 for me..yay!! Glad everyone seems in good form today.
Just popping in to say hello as im off to a salsaerobics class now..should be interesting?!!!
Catch you all later

Love as always

Lou - Lou x x x

**dieann** · August 16, 2006, 11:49 AM

Wednesday, August 16th!

Day 16

Feeling good on Day 16!

Dee, I haven't experienced any of that helpful friends stuff, but I have heard plenty of horror stories. People must be threatened by sobriety. I don't know why they would be...guess it makes them look at themselves. But it's not about them, it's about YOU. Good for you for staying strong.

I am reading, running, taking supplements and listening to the abs CD's. Weaning off my acupuncture, but it sure was helpful to start! And the treatments are very relaxing. I might have to substitute massage with all the money I'm saving by staying abs.

Be nice to yourselves!

**gabby** · August 16, 2006, 12:40 PM

Wednesday, August 16th!

Hi guys, I always wanted to do the So Beach Diet but my beers kept me from even trying. And then once I started the topa and not drinking I thought I might give it a try but fruit was tastin so good that I didnt start then again. Since my start of abs(close to 80 days now) I have lost roughly 18 lbs now which has been at a stand still for a few weeks now. But once school starts I may give South Beach a shot. I love meat and cheese and salads so based on that I should do ok. Its just those dang chips and tootsie rolls that I crave that ell get me.
I think I may extend my visit with dad. workin out the details. gabby

**YoungAtHeart** · August 16, 2006, 01:56 PM

Wednesday, August 16th!

First Things First!

Well, Janet, I would say that letting go of the wine is priority no. 1!!! Would't you agree??? Remember, I went on the SB Diet, but I didn't give up my wine!!! Maybe for a few days at a time perhaps, but I didn't have any lasting success, because I couldn't stay off the wine for more than a few days at a time until the past 6 months!! Maybe when you have some long-term sobriety under your belt you can try to let go of sugar a bit at a time, if you want to, or start on phase 2 of South Beach, but OF COURSE--ONLY IF YOU WANT TO. I'm not here to be anyone's diet counselor! Heck, I've lost about 50 pounds! That is, the same 5 pounds about 10 times!:H I'm in NO POSITION to be handing out advice to anyone! I can only say that it has helped me when I stick to it(including NOT DRINKING WINE!!), and if that helps someone else, great!

Susan, I had this funny feeling that you and I were writing at the same time, and it turns out that I was right!!! LOL! I echo your feeling about MFM and Dee! Welcome again!:welcome: I agree about our becoming a community. I am feeling SOOOO much more comfortable about posting just about anything here. That makes me feel so good that it is hard to feel anything negative at the moment, but I'm sure that sooner or later something will come a long to tip me over, and this will be the place I plan on being, so I can share with all of you!

Hi, Nancy! I just love your posts so much! They are just so straight out there! My old pastor used to say, "When you're too angry for anyone else to deal with, you're still not too angry for God to deal with!" I just loved to hear that!!! I get aggravated when people believe that God doesn't accept our feeling angry or any of the many other things that people feel that "aren't nice". I'm glad that you can take it to God! I'm glad you feel you can bring it here, too!!

Lou-Lou, what are we gonna do with you??? You're gonna be so fit! I'll bet you're turning heads already!!! Salsa aerobics, huh? Sounds wonderful. You're gonna be our fitness dancing Queen!

Dieann, congrats on Day 16 and on working the program so well! You are also quite a supportive person yourself! Keep it up!

And Gabby, baby! Getting near day 80---wowowowow!!!:wd: That's great! I hope you can work out some extra time with your dad!!! I know I was so sad to see my mom go home when she was here this summer!!! I'll send good vibes your way!

Anyway, I've gotta buckle down some more on and retype the legal documents to send back to my lawyer, arrrgh!!! Unfortunately, I have marked up the ones she sent me so that they're darn near illegible!!! I'm sure I will have an anxiety attack as soon as I put them in the mail back to her. I sent my awful ex-wedded an e-mail the other day, alluding to what is going on, but he hasn't responded. I hope that he isn't passive aggressive and unresponsive and put me in a position where I have to actually have him "served", as opposed to handling this with "discretion" as we have agreed to do. I have to remember that he is responsible for his own actions, or lack of action!!! That is how he always got to me in the past. His sins were always sins of omission, not sins of commission!!!

Oh well, onward and upward!!!

Hugs,
Kathy

**Annifofanni** · August 16, 2006, 03:42 PM

Wednesday, August 16th!

Hi All,
Just checking in to let say thanks! I'm feeling a bit better and was lucky to get an appointment for a physical with my GP for tomorrow, and an hour session with my psychiatrist for Friday..usually I would have to wait at least a month for these appointments.....someone must be looking after me this week. More later...Anni

**southernbelle47** · August 16, 2006, 06:49 PM

Wednesday, August 16th!

Thanks Kathy......Our God is big enough to take it!!

These flag people reminded me of you!

Have a good night.

Nancy & Belle

http://www.smileycentral.com/sig.jsp...p=ZSYYYYYYJGUS

**vinophile** · August 16, 2006, 07:06 PM

Wednesday, August 16th!

Kathy,
I forgot to mention in my earlier post that I had this strange dream last night about sewing flags!!!!I was sewing and sewing but never got anywhere.Somehow I was strangely content.I think it was because I knew I was not drinking. Yesterday you said that while sewing you did not even think about drinking. I must have shoved all that in my brain and happily connected sewing flags with not drinking. What's even funnier is that I cannot sew a stitch. Me sewing flags would be more like a nightmare!!!!!
Funny how the subconscious works.....
Have a great night.
Janet

**YoungAtHeart** · August 16, 2006, 07:49 PM

Wednesday, August 16th!

That's a hoot, Janet!! The unconscious is great!!! I love the little flag people, too, Nancy!! I'm so touched that you both have thought of me in these ways! Makes me feel special!:h

I did get almost done on my legal stuff, which makes me want to drink like crazy, arrrgghh--nope, the ex doesn't make me feel blissed out like sewing! But I'm almost done with it and can send it off to my lawyer, and then let it go with a prayer for the best!!

The highlight of my day was putting out yet another hummingbird feeder that is bee/wasp proof, to get rid of the wasps that were going after the other one, and the hummers are really going for it!! They are dive bombing it and defending turf--sometimes there are five or six of them around it at a time. The amazing thing is that they're so protective of the "turf" that no-one seems to get to relax and actually feed, it seems. Sounds a little like people tring to make it in the rat race..... Anyway, their antics are quite amusing and enjoyable to watch. I guess I'm pretty easily amused, huh???

Hugs to all!:l
Kathy

**Jackie M** · August 16, 2006, 09:24 PM

Wednesday, August 16th!

Hello-

I have not posted for awhile but I'm still hanging in there with you all. Day 17 for me. I also started working out five days a week when I started abs. I am feel sooooo much better than I did three weeks ago. It's a lot easier to find some motivation if I don't have a hangover to contend with!

Hope everyone is doing well. Remember-It's not always easy, but it's worth it.

Peace,

Jackie

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